RESPECTING SACRED SPACE
Osiyo or 'Siyo [Hello in Cherokee]
GREETINGS FROM CHEROKEE, NORTH CAROLINA! Now folks, it is very important to know that this Daily Message is being sent in a gentle tone and should not be taken as an attack on anyone. It is merely a dot connection moment in my Life and is not intended to vilify anyone. It is merely an observation that I found fascinating and yet a bit rude as well. Yesterday, at the exact same moment I had two individuals trying to invade or force their way into my personal space. Why both individuals were comfortable with this invasion or justified it in their own mind is a whole other wonderment. Their tactic was different but similar. One individual was a man trying to invade my sacred space in the physical world here at the coffee shop and the other individual was a woman trying to invade my sacred space from cyber world. It was wild to watch this personal bombardament occur from both sides of my Life while asking myself the question, "What? Am I not being clear about my boundaries." Even more, "How did I attract this?"
I am without a doubt a fairly open gal and eager to engage in stimulating conversation or an opportunity for growth with just about anyone. I also don't mind sharing a Good portion of my Life with the world but this does not entitle anyone to all of me. I do not believe in "entitlement," which is a whole other daily message. Let's say you walk into my physical space or enter my world in cyberspace, that does not entitle you to all of me. Just because I share a great deal with you through this daily message does not entitle you to information beyond what I choose to share. I say - who, what, when, where, why and how in my Life. No one else calls the shots in my Life, I do! Even though I was a bit mentally amused as this was occurring, I was unapologetically firm in my response. I do not owe anyone more of me on any level simply because they want more. That's ridiculous! Is nothing sacred anymore?
The lack of respect for my boundaries and sacred space
was quite revealing of my own past invasions in other people's lives.
You have probably heard the phrase, "What part of no don't you understand?" I am of the belief that if I say "No," that does not obligate me to give you an explanation. "No" should be enough ESPECIALLY if we do not personally know each other. I can certainly understand the curiosity that comes forth when standing in front of someone's "No," because it begs the question, "Why not?" . . . but all the same, No means NO!
A man in the coffee shop had walked up to my table as I was working and wondered if he could buy me a cup of coffee. We had spoke briefly to each other the day before out on the deck overlooking the Oconaluftee River and so I said, "Yes, thank you. That would be nice, I'll have a double Cubano." I enjoy living the saying, "Anything worth doing is worth over-doing." That is a Cubano to me. (winky wink) As he walked up to order the coffee/espresso, my e-mail ticker box was clicking every five seconds as it always does (no kidding) and one e-mail was from a woman who was frustrated that I would not share more of the ritual I attended last Friday night wherein I said the ritual was too sacred and personal to share. As she and I bantered back and forth while Mr. Coffee was retrieving our drinks I e-mailed, "I suggest you honor the sacredness of different cultures rather than try to force your way in." She e-mailed back, "Does not the sacred belong to everyone?" I responded with, "What is sacred to one may not be to another? So no, what I hold sacred does not belong to you, it belongs to me." I still find it interesting that she was the ONLY person out of a bazillion e-mails who wanted to trespass my sacred space and kept pushing at me when I was clearly stating, "No!" I would have no more shared my sacred or personal experiences with this particular woman simply because she obviously did not respect my sacred space. Her e-mails continued to reveal certain innuendos and undertones. Plus if I wanted to reveal more in the Daily Message that day, I would have said more about the ritual, I would have said which friend of mines house burned down and I would have said who's funeral I went to on Monday. I reveal certain parts of my Life just to let you know that I can relate to you and also to let you know that I do participate in my Native American culture.
I asked her, "Can we not have anything to ourselves?"
And what about Mr. Coffee? We had a nice visit until I turned down an invitation to go up the street and have a trout lunch with him. Further, I told him that I wanted to get back to work. I thought I made myself clear. The word "no" comes pretty easy for me if I don't want to do something without a guilty bone in body. He must have walked away five times and kept coming back to pressure me until I finally had enough. Just because we had coffee together was not an invitation to cross a boundary. I switched over to my other Gemini personality, opened my intuition and went for the jugular shot. Additionally, I would no more share more of me with that man or that woman than what I did simply because they had a lack of respect for me. Do I even need to mention a lack of trust after pushing to invade a boundary after a firm and definite, "No." If someone does not respect my boundary from the beginning, then that is not someone who will be getting more of me anytime soon. Folks, check your boundaries and whatever you do, safeguard your sacred space because no one has a right 'to more of you' without your permission.
"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley
Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last daily message titled, What Will Your Worry Do For Me? Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.
Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]
A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley
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What Will Your Worry Do For Me?
Osiyo or 'Siyo [Hello in Cherokee]
GREETINGS FROM CHEROKEE, NORTH CAROLINA! Please know that this Daily Message is being written in a gentle tone. I am in the process of writing your daily horoscope right now for tomorrow (Tuesday). Please understand that I will be posting your horoscopes a day early and I have no intention on setting a certain time when this will be accomplished. This butterfly simply rebels against too strict of a schedule. Even though it is 7:30 PM EDT, it is still the day before and I will have them posted before midnight. I enjoy spoiling my little chickadees with early horoscopes posted mid-day but I just can't, or should I say won't commit to a certain time because my rebellious Jupiter in Aquarius (the most freedom-enjoying planet in the most freedom-enjoying sign) kicks in and says, "Don't commit!" Yeah, I'm pretty much like that.
It has been an interesting time since I last wrote to you on Friday. Friday night, I went to a Cherokee ceremonial/ritual, which I believe is much too sacred and private to share with the world and I will just keep it to myself and those who were present. Also this weekend I received word that a very very close friend of mine back in St. Louis, house burned completely down on Saturday. Everyone is fine including the animals. As for today; I went to a funeral with my family. It's been quite a personal weekend and a perfect time to sit in gratitude. So folks, when I'm running a bit late, please do not "worry" about me or send me "worried about you" e-mails.
What will your worry do for me?
I'll tell you what you can send me; you can send me any day of the week tons of prayerful Love and happy energy. I'm all about "Love" and "happy" prayer and thoughts. By now you should all know how I feel about worry, doubt, fear and anxiety. Please do not send me that type of energy because I will refuse it flatly and coldly. Okie Dokie? Just know that I am a human being on the other side of this computer walking my path as the rest of you are doing and sometimes things happen . . but we must keep going. Again, please, do not send me "worried about you" e-mails if the Daily Message or horoscopes are not updated. I'm a big girl and I'm always going to be more than okay because I firmly and whole-heartedly believe in God and I Love Jesus more than any person on the planet!
Believe me, ol' Dr. Standley is just fine
because I walk in Faith, not by sight.
One more tiny note, writing horoscopes has to be the last thing on my list because I have Natal Charts that I write everyday; I also have chart readings and health consultations that I do on a daily basis even while down here in Cherokee, North Carolina. The show must go on! It just has to. All of these things, not to mention my personal Life, have to come before I update the horoscopes. So I'm going to run along now and do my best to complete your weekly horoscopes now that all the charting, readings and consultations are complete for the day. Again, please know that this Daily Message was written in a gentle tone. Tootle-Lu!
"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley
Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last daily message titled, What's Next For The Butterfly? Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.
Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]
A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley
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