[Posted 2:30 PM EST - Monday afternoon, 12/31/2007]
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I will not be available AT ALL tomorrow, January 1st, 2008 as I will be making the rounds to all the New Year's Day Open Houses in my neighborhood. The folks tend to do that around here so it's quite the party day in my neck of the woods going from house to house for cocktails and tasting all of the traditional so called "lucky" foods that bring prosperity and abundance for the New Year. I'm certain you can Google "lucky foods for New Years" and you will find a ton of "lucky" foods. Since I don't believe in luck I'll just refer to them as "extra blessings fooods". (winky wink)

Tonight I will be ringing in the New Year at the new casino (Lumiere' Place) here in St. Louis. That ought to be a hoppin' Good time. Woooo Hoooo! I really did have a fantastic 2007 so I will be high-fiving and cheering 2007 for everything it brought to me and welcoming 2008 with open arms. I'm ready to ROCK! I want to be very clear with you about something. 2007 started off very rocky for me (personally) and I chose to turn it around. You all know that I really had a lot of fun this past year but I MADE THAT HAPPEN for me. I understand that not everyone is having a very Good ending to 2007 or that part of or the entire year was a challenge for you. I get it folks. I get it. I have had years like that. I have been there so I do know how you feel, but I also know that you can choose to take the energy and create something wonderful out of it for yourself. 2007 started off with a slap in my face (actually more like spit in my face) but it was "I" that turned it all around with God's grace, Love and support. You can do that too. I had a great 2007 and it was out of choice that it turned out that way. CHOICE!

Oh and remember how I wanted to be below the 100,000 mark in website rankings? #1 is the best which is held by Yahoo. I began 2007 ranked at 258,000. Now out of over 109 million websites world-wide, drstandley.com is now ranked 132,307 world-wide and it is ranked 30,466 in the U.S. I thank you folks for visiting and sharing with so many people. I'm confident that in the very near 2008 future, this website will be ranked under 100,000 world-wide and that is my 2008 1st quarter New Year goal . . after that . . God only knows and he also knows I'm ready to rock!!! (winky wink)

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, Whistle While You Work. Don't forget to read your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 5:30 AM EST - Thursday morning, 12/27/2007]
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The other day I was sitting around with a few friends chatting about nothing in particular when the subject turned to careers. I just sat there listening as one friend shared her desire to change careers. She's been talking about changing careers for quite some time so it really wasn't a surprise or a new topic of discussion. I just kept listening. The conversation was going in the direction of being unhappy in a job and how this was a "normal" feeling of drudgery and discontentment with work. Then another friend said, "Don't you agree Loretta?" I said, "No, I don't agree at all."

I went on to say that I couldn't even relate to the conversation because I absolutely and unequivocally refuse to be unhappy in my work. It just won't happen because I would make a change before I would settle on unhappiness and then consciously choose to sit in it. I just can't imagine settling for unhappiness in any form and being okay with it. Certainly there are days when I am swamped or someone ticks me off with an e-mail but that does not mean that I would be unhappy with my work. I LOVE MY WORK! I can't even fathom going to work every single day and being unhappy. Not this gal. Any career I have ever chosen for myself, I was very happy in it even when I made the decision that I wanted something different or more. I always want more and I always need to make a difference. I KNOW ME! When I decided to close the clinic, I wasn't unhappy having a practice as much as I wanted to affect more people. One patient at a time was never going to be enough for me. I wanted more and by golly I was going to give it to me.

The other thing about me is that I will not depend on anyone else to tell me what my hours will be, when I get paid, how much I will get paid, how far I can go in the Company and when I get to take a vacation. I say, who, when, why, where, how long and how much. It's my Life and no one owns my Life but me. I am responsible for me. This is why I have been in business for myself in one form or another since I was 22 years old. I just cannot imagine for the Life of me depending on someone else for my livelihood and happiness.

Through past conversations with the same group of friends I realize that there are those who need the stability and security of a paycheck for a certain amount of money on a certain date. I understand that. I just don't happen to be one of them. Interesting enough, what some people see as having a 'secure' paycheck, would make me completely insecure if I had to depend on someone else for my financial livelihood. Folks, that would scare the daylights out of me. It just doesn't sound fun to me and as I have told you before, I am a walking carnival . . I absolutely have to have FUN and that includes my career. If there is no fun, then I will take my toys and go home because I refuse to play a game that isn't fun. You know me by now, I actually do sing, dance and whistle while I work.

I do a lot of readings for people regarding their career and mission in Life and I'm telling you straight UP, if you are not happy, then you are delaying your mission. That's your first clue Sherlock! Granted there are times where you will go through a challenging stepping stone to get to the place that you desire to be but even that should give you satisfaction knowing how huge the reward is. It's not like going to school for eight years was one big ol' party but I did understand that I was headed in the direction that I wanted to be.

I started this website seven years ago and I Love it so much that I couldn't have stopped if I tried, even when I couldn't pay rent for five months, had my electricity cut off and couldn't buy groceries. I wasn't about to let that stop me. I am addicted to my work, it makes me happy and it makes others happy too. I can't not do it because it is my mission in Life. I don't know how to not do it. Imagine as a parent that you know your child has a gift, a talent and a remarkable power and they are just not tapping their Source. It's painful watching them struggle when you know they don't have to but they do it anyway. Why are they doing that to themselves? Now why don't you imagine how God feels when he sees (you), His child, struggle when you don't have to and you aren't tapping your Source. Why would you do that to yourself? Remember - God is your Source and Supply of all your spiritual, emotional and material Substance. It is He who is your Source and Supply with a capital "S". TAP HIM! Now go find a way to whistle while you work.

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, Elfin Magic. Don't forget to read your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 1:10 AM EST - Wednesday afternoon, 12/26/2007]
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As I watched Big Tree run from one ride or game to another I noticed one of the employees in a pointed elf hat who was the jack of all trades. She was fairly young and maybe not even yet 20 years old. She had keys to open up the machines and fix them if they jammed, she delivered pizza's, wiped down tables and at one point walked over to the wall and sang happy birthday to one of the kids over the loudspeaker. She refilled the salad bar, dumped more ice in the ice machine and watched the front door when the policeman went for a restroom break. By the way, the policeman is there to stamp each parent and child's hand with invisible ink. You cannot leave with a child until you and the child you are with put your hand under the purple light to make certain that your hand matches the child . . then you can leave with that child. I watched this young girl move from one position to another for three hours, all the while she had a smile on her face.

I have been in business for myself in one form or another since I was 22 years old, with the only exception of my former women's clinic, I always hired people away from the job they currently worked. As a business owner, I don't need employees to have experience . . . I need them to have a fantabulous work ethic and Good character. If they have those two things, then I can teach them what they need to know for me and my business. In fact, I prefer that they have no experience because that way I don't have to deal with the way they "use to" do things at their previous job. That's what you call "re-training" and I prefer not to use my time re-training anyone. That would be like having to re-train a new boyfriend or a new husband to my ways . . . HAHA! . . Oh I'm just kidding. I've always said I have a whacked sense of humor and that just seemed to fit in right there. (winky wink)

In the past I have hired new employees from behind the counter of a gas station, grocery store, bank, auto-detailing shop, bookstore, cleaners and a few other places. The only reason I couldn't do this with the women's clinic is because I needed employees with a specific level of education, experience, background and licensing requirements. If the manager at Chuck e' Cheese had not made his presence known, I would have thought this young girl was the manager.

Before we left, I commented to the manager what a fantastic employee he had with this girl. I also told him that her work ethic was rare in a world where people think they deserve more money for a less than marginal performance. He smiled and agreed. Then I walked over to area where the girl was and handed her my business card, which incidentally I never carry my business cards because I generally don't need them, but I had them with me on Sunday, probably for this reason since everything happens for a reason. I told her that I appreciated her work ethic so much that I wanted her to work for me. She smiled, looked at the card and said, "Really?" I said, "Yeah, I do." This girl was like a magical elf, meaning she just gets the job done. I have always liked elves working for me because they have incredible work ethic and they are self-motivated. You turn your back for one second and POOF! the work is accomplished and they are ready for more. The last elf I hired was "Renee" my Clinic Coordinator and we have been great friends every since. The Chuck e' Cheese employee and I briefly talked about what I needed and then I asked her to look over my website and if she was interested in pursuing this opportunity to call me anytime during the first week of the New Year. I guaranteed her that she does not need any experience and I will teach her what she needs to know. All I want and need is her elfin magic because I only hire elves. POOF!

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, Living For The City. Don't forget to read your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 10:50 AM EST - Friday morning, 12/21/2007]
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There's no doubt, I am a City dweller! I absolutely Love the City just as much as I Love meandering through the woods, mud, rivers, weeds and climbing rocks. Here in the City I experience . . the hustle, the bustle, the different, the strange, the rich, the poor, the disabled, the fit, the fat, the young, the old, the over-worked, the out of work, the slow and the fast . . . all at the same stop light.

Since I began a new project on the Aries Moon a few days ago I was excited to wrap it up yesterday and put a bow on it as an early Christmas present to all of you. It's called the 2008 Major Planetary Events Calendar. All I wanted to do yesterday was work and finish this project, so I was in a major hurry to get out and complete my errands so I could get back and work. I was out to jump every curb ahead of me.

Even though I was hurried, as I sat on my bicycle waiting for the light to change, I took the time to absorb my surroundings. It was the usual set of people at the Light -- me on my bicycle, a man in a motorized wheelchair with no legs, a tiny elderly woman from my church, a college student on foot, a college student on a bike and a crowd of maybe 20 middle-aged people who had just toured my church. This is a typical group of people at the corner of where my church sits on a fast four-lane moving boulevard. By the way, the Catholic Church I belong to has the largest collection of mosaics in its design in the entire world, which is why we have so many tourists and tour buses on a daily basis.

When the light changed, we all started moving like a herd of cattle. Some strayed quickly to the side to move around the herd and the rest of the pack remained tight stepping off the curb together. I noticed the tiny elderly woman who I know from church was slow and reluctant stepping off the curb, so I called out to her saying, "Take my hand, let's go girlie!" I walked my bike across as I held her tiny left hand with my right hand. We were barely moving across four lanes while the rest of the herd was long gone. Seriously, what could have been more important at that moment in my Life than slowing down my energy for someone's mother, grandmother and great-grandmother? I know this tiny woman to be all three, just as my mother is all three and I pray someone treats my mom in the same way, without hesitation or reservation. I pray that whoever is around my mom when she needs help wouldn't think about doing anything else but helping her do what she needs to do to optimize her day.

As I rolled along here and there I decided to stop and pick up lunch so I wouldn't have to stop working for too long. As I waited for my order there was a woman who was literally "out to lunch" in more ways than one. She was having a conversation with someone, only there was no one at the table with her. I also know this woman from church and I know that some days are better than others for her. Her conversation interested me because it was real for her and it seemed to have spiritual content. If it was real for her, then it was real for me. At that moment I decided to slow down my energy once again and eat at the restaurant so I could listen in. It's hard for me to believe that this woman did not have a purpose in Life. I absolutely believe that we all have a purpose and maybe her purpose at that moment was to get me to listen. So I did. I noticed that she was receiving side glances and whispers from some, while others decided to just tune her out altogether and act as though she did not exist. Telepathically I said to her, "I hear you sweetie. Tell me, what do I need to know?" Interesting, when I finished eating, she was finished talking and then she fell asleep in her chair. I telepathically thanked her, asked God to Bless her and then moved along my way.

After my day yesterday and waking up to Stevie Wonder's, "Living for the City," and hearing the last stanza of that song, it is hard for me to believe that you do not experience the same thing in your world as I do mine. Whether you live in the city, the county or the country, I know you experience these same things, some how, some way. My question is, do you see it? The people I see everyday do not just live in the City. The question mark remains, "Do you see them? Do you hear them? Do you acknowledge their existance? Are you learning from them? Are you serving them? Are you allowing them to serve you?" Pay attention folks . . pay attention. Why give just enough when you can give so much more?

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, Potential Problems. Don't forget to read your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 3:40 AM EST - Thursday morning, 12/20/2007]
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First, note that your Mercury Opportunity under the Monthly Horoscope has been updated! Your Sun Opportunity updates Saturday.

When my grandson Big Tree and I are in the midst of a question mark, we have a shout out that goes like this . .

I shout out, "We're problem solvers!" Then he shouts out, "We see a problem and we FIX IT!" Then we shout out together, "'Cause we're problem solvers!" When we're doing our shout out, we are deliberately and purposefully solving a potential problem that we know is the best outcome for us. Our intention is not to fix other people's problems; our intention is to fix only the potential problem in front of us.

The weekend that I took Big Tree to see Santa Claus we didn't eat healthy the entire day. That's the day a bag of luscious chocolates at Bissingers became our lunch as we watched Santa Claus do his thing from the second floor of the mall. Our evening meal honestly wasn't that much better and Big Tree knows that I fully support one day here and there of trashing the ol' diet but definitely not twice in one week much less two days in a row. So the next day we were making plans to go see a movie and were plotting out our day when he said, "Remember, we can't trash our diet today." Cute huh? And from a 4-1/2 year old. So we made plans to eat at home and then go to the movie.

Next thing ya' know we were loafin' too far away from home and short on time when he suggested we go to Subway. I said, "Great idea! That's healthy! 'Cause we're problems solvers." . . then he said, "We see a problem and we FIX IT" . . then we said together, "'cause we're problem solvers!" My goal is to help him in his critical thinking skills and to avoid knee-jerk reactions that could easily result in bad choices. Plus, I enjoy knowing what he thinks we should do. I did the same thing with my daughter Karmen and gave her the freedom to help choose the outcome in the midst of a question mark. It's simply a matter of scanning our choices to end up in a better place. And it's certainly better than me dominating his world and just saying, "This is how it is going to be because I said so!" God knows that wouldn't work for me. (winky wink)

Folks, every single day we are faced with potential problems. I want to be clear that I am referring to a "potential" problem. A potential problem really isn't a problem yet, unless we have a dramatic knee-jerk reaction and end up making a bad choice. In the beginning of the question mark, all it has is potential because "potential" means it hasn't happened yet.

So here you sit today in the midst of a question mark that has the potential to be a problem, or a bigger problem than it already is. My question to you is the same as it is to a 4-1/2 year old. "What do you think you should do?" To the adult my question mark may sound different but it is the same. "What solution would be the best outcome to advance your purpose?"

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, Planetary Changes. Don't forget to read your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 11:10 AM EST - Wednesday morning, 12/19/2007]
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Just a quick review of some planetary changes going on right now.

1) The Aries Moon is still present until 4:38 PM EST today! Keep in mind that even though the Moon will be in Aries until 4:38 PM EST, it will be void of course today from 2:33 PM EST until 4:38 PM EST as it begins to move into Taurus.

2) Make certain that you read your Yearly Horoscope because I have updated your Jupiter Opportunity. Folks remember, these planetary changes are opportunities and it is up to you to use your "free will" to play UP! this energy. If you don't use it, you lose it. Period! And I'm talking about Jupiter being the abundant, extra blessings and expansive planet. Play it UP folks!

3) Saturn is retrograde in Virgo beginning today until May 2, 2008. Go to the Retrograde Motion page to read how this personally affects your own Natal Chart. If you don't have a Natal Chart then it will be a challenge to follow along.

4) MARS IS RETROGRADE in Cancer (home, land and family) from November 15, 2007 until January 1, 2008. At that point it will have retrograded far enough back that it will continue its retrograde motion in Gemini (communication, basic education and short distance travel) until it returns to its direct motion on January 30, 2008.

5) The North Node has moved into Aquarius and the South Node has moved into Leo until August 21, 2009. All you have to do is look at the house that Aquarius rules in your chart and play that house UP. It really is that easy folks. And all you Leo's, this does not mean you step into fear while the South Node is in your sign. This is the time for you to balance yourself with your opposite sign (Aquarius). EVERYONE -- play UP your Aquarius house because the North Node means "my cup runneth over" and the South Node means "the bottomless pit". Refrain from pouring any energy into the South Node because it's a drain. One big ol' hole and it doesn't matter how much energy you dumped into it, the energy will fall right through. Go straight to the house that is ruled by Aquarius in your Natal Chart and pour your energy THERE!

6) I want to tell you about a friend of mine "Gary," who is a Spiritual Guidance Facilitator and helps you connect with your Angels. I am Gary's personal intuitive/astrologer and Gary is my personal Angel Facilitator. As I always say, "When it is the Truth, it shows up everywhere." So everything that is in my Natal Chart is also supported by my Angels. It really does show up everywhere when it is the Truth. Gary is hands down THE MOST accurate Angel Facilitator that I have ever met and I say this because what he says matches EXACTLY what my Natal Chart wants me to do. Here is the link to Gary's website.

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, Beginnings and Endings. Don't forget to read your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 9:50 AM EST - Tuesday morning, 12/18/2007]
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This Aries Moon today should give you some serious contemplation about NEW BEGINNINGS. A true new beginning is when something ends so something brank spankin' NEW can begin. Something NEW begins when you decide something old ends. You cannot have a new beginning if you are still hanging on to something else. That's impossible! This Aries Moon does not get any easier than the basic rules of physics. And I do claim to be a deeply rooted spiritual woman who is deeply rooted in science, so both my spiritual (spirit) side and physical (human) side have to interwine and meet in the middle. It's not a fine line as much as it is a balance of both worlds. If you read my bio, you can see that I am a woman of science and wow wee do I Love spiritual stuff that makes the science stuff that much easier to understand. That in turn makes the big picture easier to grasp.

So here we have a day of NEW BEGINNINGS and you "get to" decide how you will use it. If I were you I would not be waiting until January 1st to make a change in my thinking because the energy is not as strong. You want a NEW BEGINNING under an Aries Moon or a New Moon. The Aries Moon is today until tomorrow at 2:33 PM EST before it goes void of course. Folks, any self-destructive, unproductive or unconstructive energy that you have can easily . . so easily . . be channeled into something big, bold, wonderful, constructive and productive. All you have to do is rechannel your energy into something else and change the way you look at things, do things or think about things and then everything else around you changes with that change in you. A new beginning is a decision. That's all it is . . a decision. If you really desire a new beginning, then it will take a change in energy from you where you literally take the energy you are dumping into something that isn't working and rechannel it into something else.

When you are obsessed with a relationship or financial situation that is clearly not working, then guess what? What you receive is more of the same thing. What you receive is exactly what you spend time on. It really is as simple as that. Unless you take all of your energy and rechannel it into something or someone NEW, then you will continue to receive the same. Remember the laws above, they are both saying the same thing, only saying it differently. Think about it folks, how will you 'choose' to take your energy and transform it into something else? It's as easy as water (a liquid) turning into a gas when it is heated up breaking the molecules apart and then they disappear into the air (forming a gas) or when the water molecules are frozen and then they become ice (forming a solid). It's the same molecules folks, but it just looks different as a liquid, gas or solid. See why I dig on science? A new beginning is a change in energy folks. That's all it is because remember, energy can not be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one from to another.

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, That's My Kid! Don't forget to read your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 4:00 PM EST - Thursday afternoon, 12/13/2007]
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Last night I was watching the finale of Kid Nation and I just started crying like a big ol' baby. Well, actually I cry every day over something (usually the happy cry) so that's just standard me-action and me-reaction. I hadn't watched any other episode of Kid Nation but for some reason I was motivated to watch it last night. The show features 40 children ranging in ages 8 to 15, who successfully create a functioning society on a ranch that includes setting up a government system with minimal adult help and minimal adult supervision. At the end of each episode, an elected council of kids awards a Gold Star, worth $20,000, to a fellow participant. At last nights finale, three Gold Stars were awarded to three kids who made THE MOST difference overall. These Gold stars were worth $50,000.

Geez I'm getting choked up just thinking about it and here I am sitting in a coffee shop. So the town hall was filled with the 40 children and their parents. As they called out each individual winner of the $50,000 Gold Star, the surprise, joy and elation of each child was just crazy wonderful. The most touching part was when the Gold Star winner went up to receive their award, through tear filled eyes they made a quick glance at their parents and locked eyes. The joy and pride on the face of the parents screamed, "THAT'S MY KID!"

Feeling all of that joy with tears streaming down my face I said outloud to God, "That must be what You feel like when we do something that makes a difference." Granted, I like to make my parents proud too but I have to be completely honest here . . I'm more in Love with God than anyone else. I'm more concerned with what He thinks of me. I'm more concerned with His approval than my parents. That's just how I am and my parents understand that about me. And I'm certainly more concerned with what God thinks of me more than a stranger. My goal at the end of each day is to have God sitting at the edge of His seat saying, "See her, see her . . that one . . that one right there . . yeah, that one . . that's Loretta . . THAT'S MY KID!"

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, What Makes Me Happy? Don't forget to read your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 1:45 PM EST - Wednesday afternoon, 12/12/2007]
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I Love to be happy and more than anything I Love to laugh, so I deliberately and purposefully spend my time with people and doing things that make me happy. As I have shared with you many times before, I am a very deliberate and purposeful person. For the Life of me, I cannot understand why we will choose to date, marry, engage-in, co-habitate with, associate with, tolerate, put up with or settle for anything or anyone that brings us unhappiness. I flat out refuse to do it folks, for the simple reason that I've already been there and done that. Now granted there are times that I need to do something that I don't want to do but that doesn't mean it makes me unhappy.

Some things I have to do because it is necessary to further my purpose and facilitate my spiritual progression path, but if it truly makes me unhappy, then I will without hesitation or reservation refuse to do it, pull the plug, then take my toys and go home. And I certainly do not engage in any relationship where fighting and arguing is required to label it a relationship. Phooey! Not this gal. At age 46 I don't feel old by any stretch, yet at the same time I'm too old to spend any portion of my Life sitting in a posture of unhappiness. I live my Life more along the lines of goof ball humor just because it makes me laugh, even if the laughter is at my own expense. (winky wink) My favorite gift from God is my warped and whacked out imagination and sense of humor. So here we go and . . .

I just Love the idea that I can choose to create a happy Life and by golly that is exactly what I do. I deliberately and purposefully do things that stimulate my silly nature. I just decorated the old lady basket on my bicycle with red and green Christmas ornaments, so I'm going to hop on my bicycle and go show it off to the world! I might even catch the train to the bike shop and buy one of those old-fashioned bells that goes bling, bling when you click it with your thumb. Now that's what I call some serious BLING!

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, Ideas Become Substance. Don't forget to read your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 5:00 PM EST - Tuesday evening, 12/11/2007]
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I have had so many fantabulous conversations over the past 24 hours that my Crown Chakra is just about ready to pop its cork and release a whole new dimension of me. I don't even know what that picture fully looks like right now but the confirmation that there is more to come is wildly exciting and completely comfortable. All of these wonderful verbal exchanges have lead to the same place . . . and wouldn't you know it, wherever I go, there I am. I always end up right back at my North Node in Virgo. Loretta, you need to read your North Node Virgo again and connect those dots! Remember folks, "When it is the Truth, it shows up everywhere."

While receiving so many messages that are all saying the same thing, it's just not enough for me to sit around ooing and awing about these messages without transforming them into something that has substance. Thank God I don't know how to ignore an idea or a message, especially when I believe it be a DLG (Download from God). I know for a fact that I have the ability and you have the ability to take one thing (an idea) and transform it in to another (a project and a purpose). Ideas are meant to become substance. That's its job! Folks, how many times do you need to receive an idea before you do something about it? Whenever you see, hear or recognize an idea, especially more than once, then you need to act on it and turn it into substance.

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, The 'Real' Parent and The 'Real' Child. Don't forget to read your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 4:30 AM EST - Monday morning, 12/10/2007]
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Osiyo or 'Siyo

My grandson "Big Tree" spent the entire weekend at my house from late Friday afternoon until this morning. Since God (the Father) is The Ultimate Parent, then I do my best to tune enough tightly enough to receive all of my parenting and grandparenting cues from Him. I do my best to look at any given situation knowing He is my Parent and I am His child. This is my Truth. Now it all makes sense and I have a clear vision of how to parent my 26 year old daughter and my 4-1/2 year old grandson.

Simply remembering that "Big Tree" is just over 4-1/2 years old keeps it all in perspective. Think about it, he's been on the planet for a little over 4-1/2 years and that deserves some slack just because it makes sense. Think about what you were like just 4-1/2 years ago and you're a grown-up! If that doesn't wake you up I don't know what will. (winky wink) Four and a half years ago would be June 2003. What have you done in 4-1/2 years? Have you grown and learned just as much in 4-1/2 years as the average 4-1/2 year old? Well, have you? Think about the milestones they have conquered in just 4-1/2 years including walking and talking. Have you taken as many chances to grow simply out of curiosity and wonderment as a 4-1/2 year old in the last 4-1/2 years? Can you imagine how much newness there is to these little people every single day. Further, we have to remember what is a legitimate fear and what is legitimate curiosity.

The legitimate curiosity -- I took "Big Tree" to see Santa Claus this weekend. He had absolutely no desire to sit on Santa's lap but he had plenty of curiosity to get as close he could without touching him and get a Good peek. As we peered through the decorated Christmas trees lined behind Santa's chair, we were about five feet away from Santa's left elbow. There it was . . Santa's left elbow. We squealed with excitement and shuffled to the other side and looked at his other elbow. As we were hunkered down looking at Santa's big ol' elbow I said, "Ya' know, elbow is your mommies favorite word." He said, "That's silly granny!" Then we went upstairs to Bissinger's to get a bag of various gourmet chocolates and watched Santa do his thing from the second floor.

The legitimate fear -- As we sat there looking at the action downstairs Big Tree said to me, "That little boy doesn't want to sit on Santa's lap." With a serious lump in my throat I said, "I know sweetie, I know." Then Big Tree eased over from his chair on to my lap and I held him extra special tight to silently let him know that experience will never happen to him. Interesting, God does the same thing to me when I curl up closer to Him. We just sat there staring at the scene with melting chocolate in our hands. It was heartbreaking to watch this little boy who was crying in complete fear as his mother peeled him away from her body just for a photo-op. Now what's so cute about this picture? Folks, it took all I had not to stand up and scream down to all those parents who were forcing this experience on their children, "STOP IT, JUST STOP IT, CAN'T YOU SEE YOUR CHILD IS AFRAID!" I thought to myself, "What is God thinking right now? Does God have a lump in His throat too?" If my human heart was moved with sadness, surely His was moved even more. After all, the adults and children were all His children, not mine. Why would I care more than God? Let's not forget that we humans do have free will, which is a gift from God and He will not interfere with this gift. So if we want to force our kid onto Santa's lap, we can do that. At the same time, God will never force Himself on us. Even acknowledging and Loving God is our choice. We get to choose that too. But you know what? I can use my free will to write about this experience and maybe, just maybe I can bring about some "Real Parent" and "real child" awareness.

Folks, there are a lot things that are "givens" when it comes to God but just to name a few . . . He Loves you. PERIOD! He will NOT force you to do something you don't want to do and He gave you free will to choose. You always have options. He will NOT and I repeat, He will NOT force you to sit on Santa's lap or do anything else you don't want to do until you are ready. When you are ready to overcome a fear, believe me, God will be there ready to walk you through it and that's some radically cool stuff when you trust Him and stop forcing something that isn't working. And when Big Tree is ready to sit on Santa's lap then my daughter, my son-in-law or myself will be right there with him. Why is it as adults we force things that aren't working until we end up traumatizing ourselves or someone else? We force money by creating debt. We force romantic relationships where there isn't Love. We force a job that we wouldn't do unless we were paid to do it. And we force a pleasurable activity that really isn't fun. What the heck are we doing folks!?!? What are we doing?

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, Comfort in Knowing What IS. Don't forget to your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 10:30 PM EST - Thursday evening, 12/06/2007]
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Osiyo or 'Siyo

I've never really been a small talk type of person. Gossip or chatting ruthlessly about people I don't even know gives me nothing. Not a dang thing! How in the world would engaging in that type of conversation serve me? I know that I can be a bit too deep for some people because everything means something to me, but oh well. Since I believe as most people do that everything happens for a reason, I can't just let that statement dangle in the air and not address it. Simply making that statement doesn't make me feel like one of the 'initiated,' more enlightened or spiritually connected. What makes me feel more like the 'initiated,' more enlightened or spiritually connected is when I deliberately jump through all of the hoops until the reason begins to unfold and I find myself sitting right smack dab in the middle of the reason, even if it doesn't feel Good.

This brings me to my girlfriends Gilda, "H" (aka Henrietta) and Margie. Interesting, it just dawned on me that I met these three girls all around the same time under the same set of circumstances and they don't even know each other. Since everything means something to me, then I'll be looking at that new awareness later. (winky wink) When I talk with these three girls it's never small talk and always deliciously insightful personal study. A conversation can last anywhere from one hour to three hours and we just keep going until both of us are silently complete. Quite honestly, I don't know who I would be had I not met these three God-Loving, wonderful, giggly, child-like, silly, ethereal, spiritual, Lovely, beautiful, youthful, intelligent, calming, honest, gentle, straight-forward, no holds barred, tell it like it is, women.

The juiciest common thread between the four of us is one of us might be sitting in the midst of a question mark where nothing about it feels Good and the other will respond by saying, "Cool" or "Awesome." It's as if we are saying, "What a delight it's going to be unwrapping this gift!" The response might even be a belly laugh knowing full well that this has a bigger meaning than the human drama surrounding it. We just get it and trust that it's all Good. How can it not be if we get it? In other words, we choose not to get twisted in all of the drama. Unless we are up for an Academy Award, then how will drama serve us? We slide right into the ethers and start unraveling the knot. No matter what, we all know that the question mark has to be Good. It just has to be and therein lies the excitement for what's next, especially if we caught the awareness (lesson, reason, purpose, etc). Even more, we are all four passionately clear that God has our back. This reminds me of a very comforting statement that Gilda and I came up with about seven years ago while sitting in a coffee shop mentating on one question mark after the other. It goes like this . . .

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, The Child Within. Don't forget to your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 8:50 PM EST - Wednesday evening, 12/05/2007]
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Osiyo or 'Siyo

Last night I went over to my daughter Karmen's house for granny duty because she and her husband Larry were going on a date. So Larry set out all the Christmas tree decorations for my grandson "Big Tree" and I to decorate the tree. The tree was already up so all we had to do was decorate it. After testing all of the lights I started at the top wrapping each branch several times with lights, yeah, I'm like that because I like a well-lit tree. "Big Tree" on the other hand was busy unloading every single Christmas ornament on the floor, on the table, on the chair and on the two couches. I didn't say a word, I just let him do his thing and tended to my methodical branch wrapping. I think he wanted to see what all he had to work with by laying it all out. Every so often we would bump into each other as we continued doing our own thing while singing to the Christmas music he was playing.

I was in my own serious world of exacting and tedious branch wrapping when I reached the half way point and noticed that the bottom half of the tree was covered in Christmas ornaments. There were clumps of ornaments in three areas and huge bare areas with absolutely no ornaments. "Big Tree" was so proud of what he had accomplished and was ready to take a rest, mainly because he can't miss Man vs. Wild on the Discovery Channel. So we rested, watched the show and admired our work during the commercial breaks.

When Karmen and Larry returned later "Big Tree" was already in bed. They took one look at the tree and awed about how innocent it looked. Karmen said, "I'm tempted to just leave it like that." I said, "Well yeaaah! it looks GREAT!" Then we all chuckled and admired the beauty of it with child-like appreciation. What Karmen doesn't remember is how many times our Christmas tree had ornaments only on the lower half of the tree. (winky wink)

Ahhhh Christmas, it's that time of year again when we get to choose between adult stress or child-like enjoyment. There's the issue of the perfect tree, the perfect present, the perfect card, the perfect party, the perfect dinner, not to mention perfect timing. What an illusion! Since 'Christ'mas really is about "a Child," wouldn't it be great if we all embraced the child within us and chose child-like enjoyment, expressed our own child-like qualities and celebrated this time of year with child-like curiosity and child-like wonderment! What if we all consciously chose the child within? These tiny little people have a wonderfully innocent way of reminding us that no matter who we are or how old we are, we are all still, children of God. That kind of thinking my little chickadees just rocks my world and makes me goofy happy!!!

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Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 3:15 PM EST - Tuesday afternoon, 12/04/2007]
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Osiyo or 'Siyo

Hey folks, I'm running off to my daughter's house for granny duty. Karmen and Larry (my son-in-law) have a date night so I'm heading over to their house for the evening. Not to mention Karmen is jazzed about celebrating the end of the school semester. I just wanted to send a couple of small messages before I left.

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, How Do I Make You Feel? Don't forget to your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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[Posted 2:50 PM EST - Monday afternoon, 12/03/2007]
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Osiyo or 'Siyo

This past weekend Christine (Aquarius) and I decided to run off for the weekend to German wine country in Central Missouri. (Hermann, Missouri to be exact.) We had an outrageously silly time at a wonderful little bed and breakfast that we have stayed at before with our entire group of friends. On the way back home we did our usual "take me home country roads," route which means we take the scenic route home along the country roads. Why would we take the highway home when we can take roads that we've never been on before? The best part is traveling them without even using a map! At least we never think of using a map until we start seriously questioning where we are. Typically wherever Christine and I can follow the Lewis and Clark trail then that's our route and we turn wherever the L and C signs point. So L and C can either stand for Lewis and Clark or for Loretta and Christine. I guess you have to be there to get the full exploratory experience and goofiness of the whole thing.

I enjoy hearing and learning about history. It could be my Cancer Rising because Cancer is attached to history, nostalgia, memorabilia and antiques. I do not collect antiques by any stretch although I do enjoy looking at antiques and hearing historical stories from someone who cares alot more than I do. Their excitement stimulates my interest and quite frankly, I feel smarter having been around someone who knows so much history. After all, we 'enjoy' each other for the way we make each other feel. Correct? I don't want to study history and I don't want to read about history but I absolutely Love hearing about history from someone who appreciates it. So when Christine and I are exploring along, she tells me all about the Louisiana Purchase, Lewis and Clark, Thomas Jefferson and the list goes on and on. I probably ask some of THE MOST juvenile questions, but at least I know she won't think an idiot of me for asking. If it hadn't of been raining the whole way back we probably would have stopped at some of the old cemetaries along the way back or found a remote place to do some hiking or bird watching. Oh well . . it was a nice peaceful trip back home along the country roads and even more peaceful after we stopped, filled up our bellies and then I slept the last half hour before we arrived home.

This whole history thing is interesting. I absolutely could not stand history in high school or college. It was all I could do just to tolerate it. I had to work my Rumpelstiltkin off just to have enough energy to study it. I could not have cared less about history but once I am around someone who enjoys it then I want more. Tell me, tell me, tell me. It is also interesting to note that my relationship pattern is typically a man with a doctorate, in addition he will have a couple of degrees and one degree will ALWAYS be in history. It doesn't even surprise me anymore and I have just come to expect it. I am clear that these knowledgable people including my girlfriends like Christine always make me feel smarter because they are loading me up with stuff that I don't think I would receive any other way and I just LOVE that! Peg (Libra in Dallas) is another one that sits in historical information overload and makes me feel smarter at the end of the conversation. I Love learning about things I know nothing about or wouldn't care to learn on my own.

So my question remains, how do I make you feel? This is really a rhetorical question and not one that I necessarily need answered. Since I like to feel smart, I want you to feel smarter when you leave this site. The whole 'smart thing' is probably a 'Gemini thing' because we are the brainiacs and bookworms of the zodiac. I want you to know more about you, than anything, or anyone, else. After all, what could be more interesting than figuring you out? That's crazy cool when you really think about it. We Gemini's rule the brain and there just isn't enough information to jam into our brain, now whether we retain that information is another story. (winky wink) Having said that, I want you to leave this site with your brain so overloaded that you almost tip over from the information. Now THAT'S how I want to make you feel.

If you haven't gotten off your 'Rumpelstiltskin' and listened to my online radio show what the heck are you waiting for? Click and listen. Read the last daily message titled, Sugar-Coating Actually Works! Don't forget to your daily Spiritual Progression Path.

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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