I have written many times through these daily messages how you must practice being you. We work tirelessly on getting to know someone else and then adjust ourselves to fit that person without even thinking that simply being ourselves is the answer to all our issues, problems, questions and dilemmas.
Yesterday, while chatting with a client about her Natal Chart she asked, "How do I put all of this together? How do I do all of these things in my Natal Chart?"
I told her that practicing to be her Natal Chart is just like driving a car. When you first learned how to drive you used a driver's manual that you had to read in order to learn the rules of the road. The Natal Chart is the same thing. If you can learn how to drive a car, then you learn how to be you. Driving a car has rules and laws that you have to follow. Not to mention there are physical things about the car that you have to pay attention to and may even sometimes ignore. You can talk and drive at the same time. You can think and drive at the same time. You can even drive and listen to the radio at the same time.
When you are learning how to use your Natal Chart, practice being one thing in your chart at a time. For instance, get to know your Moon placement because it rules your emotions. For myself, I Love my moon because it sobers my emotions. Actually, the Capricorn Moon is known for being cold and sobering. That is why I can coldly and flatly tell it like it is. This cold flatness may not work for everyone who has a Capricorn Moon, but it works for my chart because I am a very sensitive Cancer Rising. My Cancer Rising makes my personality very sensitive and emotional. I cry every day over something that I read, I cry every day when I go to daily Mass and I cry when I am happy or excited. I even cry when I get angry. I'm just a cry baby and easily moved by kindness. Kindness makes me cry. I have even gotten choked up talking to some of you during a reading when my sensitive feelings tap into something that I am intuiting for you. I have learned to Love my Capricorn Moon because it sobers me up very quickly when my emotions are on over-drive. I can stop crying in a split second and take care of business and just get on with it. Now if I was a Leo Rising instead of a Cancer Rising with that Capricorn Moon, I would have to make certain that I did not come across as bossy or a tyrant.
Find one thing in your chart and practice using it to your advantage. There will be some unflattering things in your chart that you will need to improve upon. When you read these things, do not just chuckle and say, "Yeah that's me." Deliberately improve upon those things and then use the positive side of it to your advantage. Practice being those house cusps first. There is a section called "The Houses" and you can practice being each house one at a time until you have yourself down cold! Now go practice being you.
One day I was talking with a man who was experiencing unrequited Love. I have to admit, unrequited Love feels like torment and I wish it for no one. It is right up there with the words agony, heartbreak, desperation and sorrow. Most people would choose to be poor before they chose unrequited Love. Being in Love and not being Loved in return can be all too consuming for words and it would be a fairly safe bet to say that at least 70 percent of us have experienced unrequited Love.
As I listened to this man pour his heart out, I could tell his lack of self-respect was dwindling by the minute as he continually put himself down. He had hope, which is actually a form of confidence that helped him hang in there, yet he had not an ounce of self-esteem.
I asked him, "Why do you keep talking that way about yourself?" He climbed right over my question as if I had said nothing and continued to knock himself around even more. This guy was on a roll.
I tried to interrupt and talk over him saying, "Wait! Wait! Why do you keep talking that way about yourself? Answer the question." But he kept on trashing himself.
Still, it was as if I had said nothing to him as he continued on without skipping a beat. That's when I thought, "I need to Capricorn Moon this guy and shut him down." My Capricorn Moon is what allows me to get by with statements that have no sugar coating. It is essentially delivering the one-two punch and calling it the way I see it. My intended target gets the 2 x 4 right up side the head, where they are still left standing only now they are fully conscious with more insight than they had a few seconds ago. It's really quite a nice delivery system that God gifted to me. There is little pain involved because the recovery time is fairly quick. I just have to pay attention to my DLG (Download from God) on the perfect words to deliver.
When he was in between breaths I said, "Hmmm, now that you mention it, I wouldn't be attracted to you either." Suddenly there was silence at the other end of the phone.
Then quietly he said, "Really?"
I responded, "Oh yeah, I mean seriously, how attractive is that? I heard everything you said and you are absolutely right! I believe you. It took me a few minutes but you finally sold me and you probably sold her too on how unattractive you are."
Again came silence and then he gently said, "Well, now wait a minute."
With a smile in my voice I said, "Since you are finished dumping and I just bought that load, then let's switch gears and talk about a career for you in sales."
Quickly he said, "That wasn't very attractive was it?"
I stepped back into my Capricorn Moon and said, "I can only imagine the kind of girl that you will attract thinking like that. Now if you want to talk about how to get the girl of your dreams then let's rock and roll, otherwise I really think you should think about a career in sales."
We had a Good chuckle at the lightning fast growth spurt he was now experiencing, then we went on to talk about the Universal Law of Reciprocity. Meaning, whatever is present will exist on both sides. It's all an algebraic equation. Whatever you do to one side of the equation, you have to do to the other side. I reciprocated back to him. The girl reciprocated back to him. In order to enjoy a more wonderful experience with the Universal Law of Reciprocity, he was going to have to change his attractive state. You get back what you give. What you reflect is reflected back to you. Give and it shall be given to you. Judge not and you will not be judged. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It's all the Universal Law of Reciprocity.
If you want to practice how the Universal Law of Reciprocity works, then smile at someone today and watch what you get back in return.
Folks, nothing will tie up your happiness, Love and abundance faster than doubt, fear and uncertainty. Next time you go to a restaurant, watch a small child place their order. There is a lot of indecision going on, not to mention frustrated customers just waiting for this small child to make up their mind.
When my daughter Karmen was old enough to speak plainly, I would always instruct her to place her own order. I always told her if she could not make up her mind, then I would have to make it up for her. And she knew I would do it. We would go over what was on the menu and then she would look at the server and place her order. I told Karmen if she wanted something out of Life, she had to know what she wanted and then she had to 'place her order.'
Now take this to an expanded level. If you cannot make up your mind, then you will delay and stagnate your own happiness and abundance. There is nothing like doubt, worry or fear that keep your happiness at bay until you are ready to move beyond that point. Think about what doubt gets you. It certainly doesn't get you forward motion. Worry breeds more of the same, which leaves no room for figuring out a solution. And fear is just plain silly because it is being afraid of something that has not even happened.
If you cannot make up your mind, then what is the Universe/God suppose to do with your prayer request. If you are praying for one thing and then acting another way, then that is shear confusion because you are sending mixed signals out into the ethers. Make up your mind! I'm telling you once again, God is a Yes Man! But if you are not prepared, if you cannot make up your mind, if you are sending mixed signals, then you are the one delaying the answered prayer. It is not God trying to stop you from being all you can be. It's you!
Take responsibility for your indecision and start making decisions. Before you know it, another year has gone by and you are still entertaining the same desire. aaarrrggghhh . . I don't know how you do it, but knock it off! And it is certainly not like I don't do the same thing; once I get the DLG (Download from God) that I'm doing that (delaying my stuff) then I stop and make a decision, just like that! Heck, if I wasn't so familiar with delay and stagnation, then I couldn't relate to you.
The bottom line is if you are allowing doubt, worry and fear into your brain, then you are not allowing God into your brain. And if you are not allowing God into your brain, then who and what type of energy do you think rules doubt, worry and fear because it sure isn't God, it's the other guy. Now that is a scarey thought. Let me tell you something else, there most certainly is a negative force out there that seeks to take you off track and keep you from being who God created you to be. I dare you . . I double dare you to break free of that negative force that rules worry, doubt and fear, and live according to that burning desire that God created and placed in your heart. Now Go! Be God's child and make up your mind.
Okay, everyone get out your Natal Chart and locate your second house of MONEY! The picture below shows exactly where your second house is located and it says possessions. I have included the picture below in your Natal Chart, so just lay it over your chart wheel and you will easily see which house is your 2nd house. This second house rules possessions, MONEY that you earn in your own right, morals and values. Basically, this house is anything that you value.
I have had many questions from people wondering what I mean by "money that you earn in your own right." This means money that you earn yourself. This house will show how capable you are making money yourself. This has nothing to do with your spouse's money, inheritances, stocks, bonds or insurance. All of those things are OPM (Other People's Money), which I wrote about in a previous Daily Message. See the difference? That's all eighth house stuff. The picture below shows says "death and regeneration" and yes the eighth house rules that too. The eighth house also rules sex, but we will leave that topic for another Daily Message down the road. YOWZA!
Now if I have written a Natal Chart for you, then I have included in your Natal Chart a section called "The Houses." It will tell you what sign rules each house cusp.
If you have Cancer on your 2nd house cusp, then you will see in your Natal Chart that Cancer rules home and family. This means you could make money at home "in your own right." You could work from home and be successful. You could make money in the areas of home and family. I wonder if the person who started Home Depot is a Cancer. Cancer's are gardeners and cooks. They are nurses and caretakers. This is all in your Natal Chart that I wrote for you.
The majority of the time (probably 70 percent) that I have ever done a reading with someone who has Taurus on their second house cusp, they are coin collectors. During one reading I kept pushing this one girl on counting money or coins. I told her that she needed to physically touch money and it had to be in her hand. My intuition was all over her touching money. I just couldn't stop talking about it. Then she fessed up a bit embarrassed that she had a coin reselling business and then let it go because of a relationship. Dang, that 7th house of relationships can really mess with us, can't it? She really Loved coin reselling and was quite successful at it, so I urged her to get back into the business because she would be a MAJOR success at it. Now this does not mean that everyone who has Taurus on their second house cusp would need to be in the business of coin reselling . . but it does mean that they enjoy collecting and creating money because Taurus naturally rules the second house of money.
Remember watch for patterns that occur 70 percent of the time it will look a certain way. I wrote a Natal Chart and did a reading for a man who is the CFO (Chief Financial Officer) of a major international Company who has Taurus on his second house cusp. CFO's are the check-writers. There it is again, second house Taurus fingers touching that money. He also stacks laundry baskets of coins in his closet. No kidding! I know he is laughing reading this right now. We had a 10 minute belly laugh over it on the phone.
Now get this . . here's the Good part. The Taurus motto says, "I HAVE THEREFORE I AM." Oh yeah, the Taurus' third graders are still saying "mine" even as an adult. Isn't that cute? They still have to clutch their stuff. So whichever house cusp you have Taurus in your Natal Chart, you have this motto and this energy, which translates into MINE!
Folks, when you were born, that Natal Chart is your time stamp of what you should be doing with your Life. It is all there along with your free will. You certainly do not have to do anything with it. In fact, you can take the positive or negative influence of these houses and the planets within them however you choose. That's free will for 'ya. God created you at that particular time, Who also created your Natal Chart and now you "get to" live it out and play it out. How fun is that?!?! God is way too cool. Even more, He gives us this map to help us find our way Home.
I will finally be updating the horoscopes this morning. I had to take care of these other areas first and clear my path to freely write horoscopes.
NEW INSIGHT REPORT! - I have added a new Insight Report to the astrology chart options page. An Insight Report should be used to give you insight into the person of interest. This Insight Report is not meant to be used so that you can change yourself in order to match someone else, but to see how you can co-exist together as two separate individuals. If the report says that this person needs a lot of attention, then you need to ask yourself if you are capable of giving that person the kind of attention they need. If you cannot, then I don't have to tell you the kind of problems this could generate.
As many of you have found out during personal readings, I DO NOT reveal 'personal' information about other people during a reading. If I am reading you, then I stick to reading you. I can give you "insight" but not personal information. There is a big difference between the two. Reading other people for you is just plain bad karma, which you and I would have to repay for probing into someone else's personal Life without their permission. To me, that is like going through someone's personal belongings.
There are a few exceptions to this rule and that is for people who are married or living together and children who are not yet emancipated from their parent. Once a child is emancipated, I can no longer give personal information to the parent unless the emancipated child gives me permission. In the Land of Astrology, married or living together are "unions" that mean "the two are one." Living together is the same as being married in astrology. There was a time when I would not even release a Natal Chart to a spouse until I heard on one of my tapes from my astrologer, the late Mr. Thomas Seers, that these were the exceptions.
During a reading, I will tell you the status of the relationship, what you can do to improve it, and what will be the likelihood of continuation (remember free will always has a role in astrology). But one thing I will not reveal is the person's skeletons unless there is a "union" as stated above. Skeletons are easily revealed in Natal Charts. Instead I will make strong suggestions where you will get a clear picture without me stepping out of bounds.
For example, let's say that I have a client who continually has their personal money drained by other people, I would make suggestions to that person on how to plug the drain. If that same client asks me about their Love interest who is not a "union" as stated above, who is draining their money, then I would make VERY strong suggestions and overtones that they NOT share their money without revealing that the person gambled away their elderly parents life savings or sold their last partner's stock without permission. Oh yes, it all shows up in the Natal Chart.
Another Example: Years ago while I was in a former relationship that was not a "union" as stated above, and during my first reading with my astrologer, he looked at me very seriously and told me never to let my boyfriend meet any of my girlfriends. Tears swelled up in my eyes and I had this huge lump in my throat. I new exactly what he was talking about. He could not tell me more about him because we were not a "union" as stated above, but I knew what he meant. I looked at him and then hung my head and said, "It's too late."
When I read and write these Natal Charts, I can see everything, and I mean everything! Everyone is entitled to privacy. When a Basic or Expansive Natal Chart is ordered, naturally I cannot tell if you have received permission from the person in question to order their Natal Chart. The bottom line will always be that I cannot give "a personal reading" for you on someone else unless there is a "union" stated above or they give their permission. Incidentally, I do couple's readings, which can be incredibly fun and enlightening. Both people are on the phone and it can be hilariously insightful.
Check out the "NEW! INSIGHT REPORTS" for just enough information to give you insight into your Love interest, co-worker, boss, neighbor, friend, family member, etc. Remember, these Insight Reports are meant to help you understand someone.
I have always said that I have the best kid in the world. Even though Karmen typically chooses the oddest hours of the day to call, I will always answer the phone as if I have been awake for hours. This morning we had the best conversation about self-control, self-discipline and self-correcting. Karmen and I were chatting about when the awareness hits, that you realize everyone, and I mean everyone, is on their spiritual progression path growing and learning at their own pace. It is one of those cool free will things.
I raised my daughter to be a "self-corrector." A self-corrector is the best description that I can give of my Leo cubbie, Karmen. I always taught her that if she did not self-correct, then I would have to do it for her. That is what happens when we refuse to correct ourselves, then someone has to step up and take over. If you cannot exhibit some self-control, then someone will have to control you so that you do not harm yourself or others in your wake. If you do not discipline yourself, then someone will have to step up and do that for you too.
Here on the planet, we have plenty of people placed in the position of authority or a position of teaching to correct us, discipline us and control us when we need to be checked. As experience would have it, some people will just keep doing the same thing over and over again until they are physically stopped. Some people will end up in jail, some people will be fired and some people will get audited. Still others will abuse their body with food, drugs or alcohol only to develop a disease or ill condition.
What is up with the struggle? Why do people dig on that stuff?
When I was still seeing patients in a clinical setting, I would ask my patients, "How did you get this way?" It doesn't matter if they walked in with bad knees, a sore back, a headache, overweight, a swollen elbow, a goiter, constipation, etc., I asked them all the same question. "How did you get this way?" And believe me, I pressed that question until that person took responsibility and we traced it back to its root.
I was always very direct with my patients and told them that if they expected me to always be at the other end of the phone on their bad days or be willing to come in when the office was closed, that they had to take responsibility and help me, help them. I use to have a holistic pharmacy in my clinic and I would also tell my patients that I do not supplement bad lifestyles and bad habits with herbs, homeopathy and vitamins. If they changed their lifestyle, then I would recommend the supplements. Otherwise, the supplements will sit in a cabinet expired. Let's not kid ourselves.
The majority of the time - the aches, pains, illnesses, conditions, diseases and syndromes that we suffer from are self-inflicted. We humans are perfectionists when it comes to self-inflicted wounds. We have self-infliction down cold!!! Then there are the emotional wounds that we agree to sit in until our spirit is nearly dead, then maybe, just maybe we might change our circumstances. Folks, you have to "agree" to be miserable. You have to "agree" to be unhappy. You have to "agree" to be financially crippled. You have to "agree" to be overweight. I cannot stress how important it is for you to self-correct.
Make a few Post-It Notes to yourself that say "self-correct" - "self-discipline" - "self-control."
If you are ready for action and change, then I'm your gal. If you are ready to rock, then let's rock your world. Keep those e-mails coming that tell me how the pieces are falling into place. I Love reading them. Remember, this website is a puzzle, it may have my name at the top, but this website is really about you. And it is up to you, to put the pieces together. Have fun with it. Now Go! Go practice being you.
Recently I was in a conversation with a group of friends about "patience." It was a discussion over what messes with our level of patience and how we respond to the world around us. Which translates in to, our patience with other people.
After listening for a few minutes I said, "Since God is a Yes Man, I found when I prayed for patience, then I was given circumstances that would make me more patient. I mean, after all, I prayed for it. And THAT does not feel Good to me, nor does it make sense that I would purposefully want challenging circumstances just to make me more patient. So one day I just decided that I AM a patient person. Now, "I AM patient" is my affirmation.
Folks, when you are praying, make certain that you are clear on what you are asking. Remember, God is a Yes Man, and He is our Father; therefore, He will give you what you need in order for you to get to the place that you need to be. If you STILL need to learn how to manage your finances, and you are praying for more money, well then guess what big spender, you will get more circumstances to teach you how to manage what you have before He will give you more. The answer is of course, "yes," but maybe you need more practice.
I can just see God saying, "Yes my child! It's great that you want more and I'm happy to give it to you. Let's see you handle this circumstance so that I know that you can handle what you are asking of Me."
Wouldn't you want to know that your child could handle what they are asking from you before you give it to them? If your child wants to drive, isn't the answer, "yes." Of course it is yes, but it also comes with, "When you are old enough to drive" . . . "When you pass the drivers test" . . . "When you get car insurance" . . . "When you act mature enough" . . . "When I know you are responsible."
So how responsible are you? How disciplined are you? How patient are you?
Yep! Just like the Ultimate Dad that He is, always teaching us a lesson for our spiritual progression path. It's all Good! Just claim that you are a great money manager and then follow-through with that affirmation! Show God that you can and will handle what you are asking of Him.
It is said, "Be careful what you pray for." Hmmmmm . . . such a fearful statement. I prefer to say, "Be clear on what you pray for because God is a Yes Man."
For anyone who knows a Gemini or who is a Gemini, then you know that we are like Curious George (2nd graders) and we can easily get ourselves into trouble without adult supervision. Further we can easily end up taking gadgets apart while forgetting that we have to put them back together again. Our brains are like cogwheels and when a Gemini thinks, you can actually see the cogwheels churning. When a Gemini gets quiet, then you know they are thinking. That's why our motto is, "I think therefore I AM." Notice the similarities of the two pictures? Oh incidentally, I have another website address that will point to this one. It is called, www.mentator.com. Being that I call myself a mentator (mental, thinker), I decided to scarf up the domain name. Still wondering if this word has made the dictionary yet.
Needless to say, I curious'd with my computer so much yesterday that I created a few issues for myself. While giggling on the phone while on hold with tech support over the issues, the man sitting next to me on his computer said, "You sure don't seem too concerned. This is pretty serious." As with any Life situation I said, "Are you kidding me? Can you imagine how much I will know once I get through this!?!? It's all Good!" I think he thought I was whacked!
I remember when I got my first computer; going two weeks without looking into the inside was enough to drive me crazy. Everytime I looked at that computer I was being teased beyond my cogwheel imagination. There I was at the two week mark and I couldn't take it anymore. I had every itzy bitzy screw laying on the table and the entire computer was in pieces. I was in Gadget Guru Heaven and I had my 'fix.' Now I had to 'fix' it.
We Gemini's are the Inspector Gadgets and Gadget Guru's of the zodiac. Heck, I carry my laptop, Blackberry, iPod, another cell phone and wear a pedometer 24/7. Yep, I'm one of those people. I doubt I will ever need a bluetooth attached to my head. I do draw the line somewhere.
And as for you? . . . Whichever house your Gemini sits is where you are a Gemini. Welcome to my world folks! If you have Gemini in the 10th house, then this is where you are a Gemini. If you have Gemini in the 5th house, then this is where you are a Gemini. If you are a Gemini Rising (1st house), then your personality is Gemini. That is the way the house cusps work. Whichever Sun sign sits on a certain house cusp, then you are like that sign in that particular house. For instance, my Capricorn sits on my 7th house cusp. So when it comes to relationships, I am just like a Capricorn. I will be the first one to suggest a pre-nuptial agreement. Oh you betcha! What's yours is yours and what's mine is mine. We Capricorn people in relationships want a contract when it comes to relationships, partnerships and business. If you have Cancer on your 7th house cusp, then my suggestion of a pre-nuptial agreement would put your emotional 7th house Cancer into tears and sadness. In business, I have always had 'employee agreements' with my employees and 'independent contractor agreements' with my independent contractors.
The best way to start learning about your Natal Chart is to read those house cusps and then look at how you are just like that Sun Sign in that house. Then embrace it. Embrace who you are. When you try to change who you were born to be is when the foul ups take place. OUCHY OUCH OUCH! In other words, for Goodness sake, just be yourself.
I cannot begin to tell you how much I enjoy hearing from those who I have worked with through personal consults, readings and the TYS e-Course. The follow-ups are enough to make me do the "Happy Dance!" The 'happy dance' is this goof-ball dance maneuver I do when I'm happy.
The following e-mail is from a client who I had a phone consult with on May 4th, 2006 - exactly two weeks ago. She gave me permission to use the e-mail and her name in this Daily Message. I find her willingness and determination to act on what she learned during the consult inspiring. Therefore, I'm hoping her e-mail will inspire you. During a reading, I can point out every gift you have but you still have to do something with it. I cannot do it for you. Not everyone will choose to take action after a consult, even when their gifts are pointed out in black and white, and then they wonder why things are not working out. You have to take action.
The set up to this e-mail is this: Nanouu (which is her nickname) booked a consult to have a Natal Chart reading. During a typical Natal Chart reading I will go through each house one by one and then point out the obvious strong points and gifts, then we will put it all together. Nanouu had some incredibly strong home and family strengths that I picked up on right away, which were also reflected in her chart. She could easily make money at home. I felt the need to dwell on it, push it and bring up the subject of real estate. There was no need to push too hard because her spirit had already been considering the subject. She had this secret little dream and my intuition was drooling all over it.
I tossed out ideas on how she could use the T-Square in her Natal Chart and use "other people's money" to make real estate a reality. That was key! OPM (other people's money)! I told her several places she should check in order to use "other people's money." And she should use the North Node Scorpio in her Natal Chart to help her do the research. Scorpio is the researcher and investigator of the zodiac. If anyone could find "other people's money" to use to their advantage, it would be Nanouu! The placements were PERFECT! And Saturn? . . . Saturn usually scares the pants off everyone because it means you have to be responsible. I told Nanouu how she could use her Saturn placement to make "other people's money" work for her. If these gifts are not used, then typically problems arise with money because the person is going about getting money in all the wrong ways. Make sense?
The Follow-Up e-mail to Nanouu's Natal Chart Reading
Hello Dr. Standley,
I just wanted to follow up on our talk. I took your advice and applied for a mortgage. I went and met with a broker and during our meeting he said something that gave me chills. He said, "Do you know what OPM means?" A million miles away I said, "No." He looked right at me and said, "You need to use other peoples money to buy that house!"
I almost dropped to the floor. Wow! Later that week I was approved for $425,000 and that's not it; my job of nine years just started this program
for first time buyers, a gift of $3,000 dollars and the state will
give a forgiveable loan up to $17,000 and on top of that and loan up to
$15,000 if the house needs repairs. That is $35,000 dollars of aid and I
don't have to pay a penny back! I am amazed this just dropped in my
lap (from God). I did go to the library and took out some books on
real estate and about starting a company at home, a lot of interesting things
I'm learning. THANK you for making everything so clear. It is nothing but
fate that I found you. Don't get me wrong, I still have a whole lot more to work
on (didn't really start yet), but at least I'm working on them.
Dr. Standley, you are truly a gift from God. Thank you for everything. I will keep you posted on everything. Talk about an abundance of blessings. :)
Nanouu (Nanette L.)
GIRL YOU ROCK!!! I'm tickled out of my mind for you and that you started moving on this gift in your chart. The opportunities and gifts have to be acted upon otherwise they just sit there. And you acted upon them. Now THAT's what I'm talk' 'bout.
And that is how you apply a T-Square! Remember, the apex of your T-Square points to the 2nd house of "your money". Therefore, the opposite of the 2nd house is the 8th house of "other people's money." OPM (Other People's Money) - YES!
The rules are easy. All we have to do is take action. Actually, I wish I could say that I was surprised, but this is a prime example of working your Natal Chart and how it is supposed to be.
Can I use your e-mail in the daily message tomorrow? I promise I will keep your e-mail address and name private (unless of course you say that I can use your name). It is so perfect that I would like to share it with the world. I will not do it unless you give me permission. I am very happy for you. Please keep me posted. I Love to hear about the follow-ups.
Denadagohvyu and a Bazillion Blessings~ Dr. Standley
In 1985, after working for the railroad for five years and turning down a job transfer to Norfolk, Virginia, I decided to start my first business. I saw this transfer as a DPO (Divine Perfect Opportunity) for me to do what I really wanted and that was to be a 'stay at home' mom. The minute I became a mother, that was all I wanted and being a Cancer Rising (ruler of the home and family), working outside of my home was nothing short of painful. Even though I was 24, the mother of a four-year-old and 'newly single', it never crossed my mind for a second that I would not be able to make this happen.
As the Company was preparing their move, I was preparing my move; to stay-at-home with my daughter. I started reading Entrepreneur Magazine and even called the Company and ordered back issues. I was looking for ideas to start a business. I was going to be a stay-at-home mom and failure to do that was simply not an option. Being a single parent, money was certainly a motivating force. One day while thumbing through the magazine at work I noticed an idea about the balloon business and the huge profit margin. In fact, it was so huge that I couldn't really believe it. I started calling around different companies and asking probing questions. What if I ordered this and what if I ordered that?
To make a long story short, I opened a children's entertainment company. I even went to clown school believe it or not. Yep! I was a professional clown. I know, I know. I still look back and wonder if I really did that. I began as a single employee appearing at children's birthday parties and company picnics. I made balloon animals, face painted, and did magic shows. Everything was going gangbusters but I was still leaving the home and I was still unhappy. Home meant home and not outside of the home.
I remember praying one day about wanting to be at home with my daughter, when I heard through one of my DLGs (Downloads from God) that I needed to put an ad in the paper. Business was already booming with all the referrals, so the DLG did not make sense to me, but I did it anyway. I heard what I heard. I designed the ad and submitted a full color picture of me in my clown gear with all the services that I offered. It was a great ad!
The day the ad appeared in the paper, I started receiving some unexpected phone calls. Entertainers such as; ventriloquists, mimes, magicians, stilt-walkers, caricature artists and others clown's (no pun intended) were calling me and requesting an audition. Not to mention all of the new business the ad had stimulated. There was no way I could handle all of that business alone. I looked at my ad again wondering what I had done to make others think I was more than a one-woman-show. They wanted to audition for ME?!?
There was only one explanation for this outcome and that was my prayer was obviously being answered. Within two weeks I ended up auditioning and hiring 16 independent contractors and had enough business to keep all of them busy and me at home. I never had to do another party. Now I was their agent and took a percentage off the top. Not to mention I was working 'at home.' I had prayed to be a successful businesswoman so that I could stay-at-home with my daughter Karmen and I received better than what I asked. It just showed up different than I thought it would.
I always say, "God is a Yes Man!" When we 'believe' our prayers are being answered, then we can expect them to be equal to or better than what we expected. That is Faith in a nutshell. God doesn't say, "No" . . . We do! . . . We say, "no" due to our lack of faith, fear, doubt, worry and anxiety. I never did believe the statement that 'sometimes God says no.' I just do not believe that. That goes completely against scripture. I could have easily argued with the DLG and said "no." I could have easily not trusted or acknowledged the desire in my heart. I could have easily taken the transfer to Norfolk. I could have easily ended up working my tail off alone, working outside the home and possibly blaming God for not answering me. But He did answer me and I heard the DLG. There was no coulda, woulda, shoulda here. I heard Him! I believe that job transfer showed up in order to get me to the place that I needed to be, which was at home with my daughter, Karmen.
Faith and prayer gets you equal to or better than what you asked. And gratitude? There is a lot of mileage in gratitude. How many times have you prayed for something only to thank God later that you did not get that, but yet you received something better. There it is again . . equal to or better than.
Jesus said, "Therefore I say unto you, what things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them." - Mark 11:24
How much more clear a statement do you need? Pray, Ask, Believe, Receive, Give Thanks! It is all about Faith and Belief.
We are talking about God here so you can expect results!
Ten years before I started going to college at a traditional University, I was 17 years old going to school at Hickey College here in St. Louis, which is a business and technical college. At that time it was called Hickey School and they specialized in secretarial, accounting and paralegal programs. My goal? To become an administrative assistant for a hot-shot executive anywhere!
Hmmmm, let's see . . . how could that experience serve me today? Oh possibly writing this website and becoming an author. Remember, whatever you should be doing with your Life, you've been doing it your whole Life. But that's a Daily Message for another day.
Being a Gemini, who rules the hands, wrists, arms, lungs, talking, writing and communication; I was already typing 95 wpm and writing shorthand at 200 wpm. I was writing and typing faster than a person could think of their next word. For practice I would sit down every evening with Walter Cronkite on the CBS evening news and take shorthand to his news broadcast because he spoke a cool 200 wpm. Piece of cake! I would even hold two pens in one hand just in case I ran out of ink so I could just keep going. How's that for Gemini duality? Being that I was also a drummer (duality again) I would practice my drumming to keep my hands and wrists in action mode. I was so determined to be the best administrative assistant in the land that I would literally wake up writing shorthand on my pillow with an imaginary pen! Um . . can you say, "obsessive compulsive"?
One day I was called to the school office because they had this gravy job that was being offered to one of their students. It was a job with Norfolk and Western Railroad (now Norfolk Southern) and a job with any railroad does not come along too often because no one quits, they retire. They wanted a stenographer and someone who 'definitely' knew office machines. The keyword was, 'definitely'. I had been trained on every single office machine you could imagine and if I earned the job, I could actually graduate four months early. I 'definitely' knew office machines. After all, the goal at that school was to get their students primo jobs.
I left school immediately for the job interview feeling pretty certain the job was mine. How could it not be? When I arrived there were three candidates ahead of me and ten candidates arriving after me. Imagine my surprise. Jauntily conceited, confident or both, here I thought I was the only one being interviewed. They called me to the office for Goodness sake! It didn't dawn on me that the railroad would call other places for candidates as well. As employees milled about the office, I noticed they were using office machines that were antiquated and a few of which I had not a clue as to what they were. They may have even had an original block printing press there to make copies for all I knew. I couldn't believe it!
When my name was called, I was told they were prepared to hire someone that day and everyone was instructed to stay. After my typing and shorthand test I felt more than certain I was the perfect candidate for the job, when here it came, the deal-breaker question of the interview. My heart was beating like a rabbit and the word 'definitely' flashed before my eyes like a blinking neon sign. One thing was certain, I was there, which meant the job was mine if I wanted it. It was an opportunity that I was going to take! All I had to do was PUSH and then take it.
The man said, "And what about these office machines? Do you know how to operate these office machines?"
I looked him square in the eye and said, "Yes sir I do. Just show me how."
It took him a few minutes to register what I had said. He just sat there. I said nothing else and waited. For a Gemini to keep their mouth shut is no easy task. Then he smiled, stood up, shook my hand and said, "Welcome to Norfolk and Western. When can you start?"
Okay, everybody get out your Natal Chart and let's locate the twelves houses. If I have written a Natal Chart for you, then I have included the picture below.
All you have to do is lay this picture over your Natal Chart and you will be able to tell which house is one through twelve. The houses move in a counter-clockwise direction. Locate the 3rd and 6th houses on the wheel below because I will be talking about them in just a bit.
Now all you have to do is look for the symbol in your Natal Chart that looks like a right-side up horseshoe, which will look like the picture below. In the charts that I write the symbol will be all black. That is your North Node and the house that this little rascal sits in is where your cup will run over. Many astrologers will not pay much attention to the North and South Node simply because they have not studied the patterns or maybe they have not been taught much about them. I had to drive back and forth from St. Louis, Missouri to Nashville, Tennessee every Thursday for a couple of years to soak up this awesome information from my astrologer, Mr. Thomas Seers (my God rest his spirit).
I'm telling you, if you pay attention and work this North Node, your cup will surely run over. Mr. Seers (a 12th grade Leo) use to always say, "The North Node is where you cannot fail." And then my curious Gemini 2nd grader self would say to him, "But Mr. Seers, what about the 70/30 rule? 'Cannot fail' sounds like 100 percent to me!" He always addressed me as butterfly and he would say, "Butterfly, that's because the drain of the South Node is continually trying to pull you off focus and it is a natural tendency to follow a drain, especially for the younger signs. Drains are easy to follow because you don't have to do anything! You just get sucked in!"
Now that I know better, I think one of the easiest things in Life is to use the North Node. But then there are those who will blatantly ignore it and focus on that silly South Node just because they want to figure it out. Well knock it off! You have already figured out the South Node in a past Life. It is a done deal. It's over! Caput! Finished! Completed! Learned! You graduated! And more so, you are already innately, magically and wonderfully living your North Node. It is a natural progression to strive toward something great unless of course you just sit on your bum. Okie Dokie!
I am a North Node Virgo, so I do everything Virgo-ish! I read about Virgo, study Virgo and I am very much like a Virgo. Virgo naturally rules the 6th house of health, doctors and hygiene. Hmmmmm hygiene . . . there is a reason why I created theTsalagi' Bath Salts. It is no accident. Long before I ever knew about the North Node, I was already moving toward the healthcare field. It is no accident. When I had my clinic, I did colonic hydrotherapy and Virgo rules the colon. It is no accident. There were many things that I was already migrating toward that were Virgo and was completely unaware of it but I was attracted to it anyway. And still other things, once I learned about my North Node I purposefully and deliberately aimed myself in that direction.
Health to me is spiritual, physical, emotional, chemical, intuitive, artistic and Love. And that is how the TYS e-Course was born.
North Node Virgo. Yep! That's me! If I have written a Natal Chart for you, then I have written oodles of information on the North Node. Study the sign (Virgo in my case) and the house that the North Node is placed in your Natal Chart and then couple them together. In my case, I am a doctor who communicates.
And as I always say, "Whatever you should be doing with your Life, you've been doing it your whole Life." Believe me, you are already headed in the direction of your North Node. All you have to do is PUSH!
The Moon affects us in so many ways, from our emotions, to our purchases, to successful surgeries. When the Moon is moving through the sign of Scorpio, do not buy anything. Either your purchase will be a lemon, you will not use the item, you will not wear the item or you will go back later and return the item. In other words, you will not be happy with your purchase. Wait until the Moon passes into another sign to make your purchases.
Being that Scorpio is THE MOST passionate sign, if you are really not feelin' the Love, believe me, you will return the item. If you simply cannot help yourself and feel the need to test the system, then please call me so I can hear about the pattern.
My astrologer, Mr. Thomas Seers (a Leo, may God rest his spirit) who Loved being called Mr. Seers, taught me to watch for the 70/30 patterns in Natal Charts. Keep in mind, God is the One and Only 100 Percent so we stick to the 70/30 rule. So as far as the Moon in Scorpio goes, 70 percent of those who make purchases today will be unhappy with what they bought and will more than likely return the item or have complaints about it; the other 30 percent will think nothing of the fact that they do like what they bought or that they are not using it. Let's just call it denial. This would be the purchase of workout equipment sitting around unused or folded under the bed.
Patterns are exactly why it is so important to have a copy of your Natal Chart so that you can witness patterns in your own Life and then you can change yourself from being 30/70 in one area to 70/30 in the same area. It is really just as simple as that. If you were 30/70 in the 7th house of relationships, meaning repeating the same 'type' of relationship over and over again, therein lies the pattern. Use the positive energies of that house or planets in the house to flip yourself like a pancake to 70/30. Believe me, you know if you are 30/70 in the 2nd house of money. You know what patterns you need to break in order to flip yourself to 70/30.
I always post what sign the Moon is in for the entire month in the daily horoscopes. If you can avoid having any surgery when the Moon is in Scorpio that would be best. The best placement to have surgery is when the Moon is moving through a sign that is distal (furthest) away from the body part involved.
For example: Aries rules the head, so if you need your knees operated on, then do it when the Moon is in Aries. Taurus rules the throat, so if you need your feet operated on, do it when the Moon is in Taurus. Capricorn rules the knees, if you need your heart operated on, do it when the Moon is in Capricorn.
Interestingly enough, the best person to have as a surgeon is a Scorpio because Scorpio rules surgery and surgeons. Scorpio's make THE BEST surgeons by far, hands down! And the best all around doctor to have is a doctor who has a North Node Virgo. If your doctor has a North Node Virgo, they will even be right on accident because Virgo rules the 6th house of health and hygiene. By the way, those doctors with North Node Capricorn's make excellent doctors too, especially if that doctor works with the skin, hair, teeth or bones because Capricorn rules those areas of the body.
Every so often I find it necessary to throw out a gentle reminder that I cannot accept any forwarded e-mail. While I appreciate the thought of spiritual forwards, internet warning forwards, political forwards and joke forwards, I simply cannot take the time to read forwarded e-mail along with all of the other mail I receive. I have to choose.
I would like to suggest that any internet or political warnings should be researched before forwarding to your friends and family. Here is a really great website to check out "warning" and "rumor" type e-mail before you choose to forward it: www.snopes.com Just enter in the search area of the 'snopes site' a few keywords and it will tell you if the e-mail is a hoax or true. It is truly unbelievable how much forwarded e-mail is bogus.
drstandley.com is a wonderfully busy website (thanks to all of you) and it receives viewers from an average of 130 countries per day, which is another reason why it is necessary for me to answer your e-mail as quickly as it arrives in my mail box. Honestly, I really do not mind you e-mailing me with your questions, concerns, cool awarenesses or postings for Novenas and prayer thanksgivings on the Dear Dr. Standley page. I am more than happy to respond to these type of e-mails. That's why I'm here!
As always, if you think that your question or concern may turn into a rather lengthy e-mail or if you think it may require a volleying of several e-mails, then lets cut to the chase and just give me a ring. My phone number is posted at the top of each page in the smaller blue box with a specific time for open phone time each day. The open phone time typically changes from day to day depending on my reading and consult schedule. You can certainly call anytime and leave a message with a few choice times to return your call and I will ring you back as soon as possible. If you live outside of the United States, then it will be necessary for you to call me back during the posted time zone.
Most of the time I answer e-mails and phone calls within a few hours. Thank you so much for understanding and for being patient during those times when I get a day or two behind.
P.S. - But of course I don't mind if you forward my website. (smiles)
The Virgo moon was really messing with this Gemini's ability to concentrate yesterday. After I wrote the "Use and Enjoy Principle", I hopped on my bike and headed to the local coffee shop with my mega-mondo-ninja-commando-computer strapped to my back to get caught up on my e-mails and horoscope updates.
When I went up to the counter, the manager took my coffee order and his exacts words were, "Would you like a mug or a styrofoam cup?" Caught off guard, yet not really surprised, I immediately thought of the "Use and Enjoy Principle" I had wrote a couple hours earlier. I smiled to him and to the Universe and said, "A mug would be great!" As I opened my wallet he said, "That's okay, it's on me." I said, "Wonderful! Thank you!" As I walked away, I raised my head, looked up and winked to the Universe (God), then I proceeded to pray in my head that the manager would be blessed 10-fold in return for his generosity.
Sometimes I sit behind this computer screen and wonder if what I do matters. What am I doing? Does anyone get IT? And what is IT anyway? These are not questions searching for approval or a stroke. They are legitimate questions that most people want to know at some point along their path. And then something like the coffee shop gift happens as the Universe sends me a confirmational message that says, "Keep it going Loretta. You were listening to my DLG (Download from God) and you wrote the right thing in your Daily Message." It's so cool. I wanted the manager to read the "Use and Enjoy Principle" on my computer about Andie McDowell's styrofoam cup and my appreciation of white fragile china. But then again, I knew I could just share it with you today and you would understand.
The really awesome thing about all of this "Homework" that we are doing on ourselves is we are doing it together and we don't even know each other. Well . . . a few of us might. (winky wink)
[Sidenote - Today is my Grandson, Big Tree's third birthday. Yippee! Click here to see why I call him Big Tree.]
I remember seeing John Travolta on Oprah when he talked about his mother having panache. He said he was raised by his mother and she did not have a lot of money, but no one ever knew it. She raised her children with a dash of flamboyance and style. He talked about how he had bought Andie McDowell (the actress) a china tea set so she would not have to drink her hot tea out of a styrofoam cup when they had made the movie, Michael.
Their conversation reminded me of how I use and enjoy my delicate hand-embroidered handkerchiefs instead of regular tissues. They are so beautiful, I just have to use and enjoy them. I also use and enjoy my fine china and crystal during every meal. For some reason, my hot tea or coffee smells and tastes the best in one of these elegant white fragile cups. I just Love to use and enjoy that tiny little creamer. It's so cute! And candles . . . I Love tall, lit, beautifully bright crimson red dinner candles even while eating an evening meal alone. And I Love to use and enjoy soft cloth dinner napkins instead of paper napkins. I just Love fancy, beautiful, wonderful and precious things because I appreciate them and how they were made. It's art! I also use and enjoy picture frames. I am a picture frame addict. The heavier and more original the frame, the better. Ah . . and there's nothing like coming back from the store with a bundle of fresh flowers in your arms to brighten your space.
I am always amazed how we labor zealously for nice things only to allow them to collect dust. Are your nice things merely to impress others or do you use and enjoy them? How often do you use and enjoy these nice things? Do you share? Why have nice things if you are so worried about how to protect them? And why have nice things if you are so worried about how to hang on to them or pay for them? So what if a piece of my delicate china breaks. Then I go online and replace it. Now I understand heirlooms, but I think we know that I am referring to our level and reason for physical attachments.
I believe in the "Use and Enjoy Principle." I have never seen it written anywhere or heard of it, so I wrote about it my book. I believe those of us who write spiritual type books are all saying the same thing, we are just saying it differently in order to relate to different people. I heard the "Use and Enjoy Principle" in my head, I believe it and it goes something like this, "If you are going to have stuff, use and enjoy it." I am a utilitarian and that is as simple as it gets. Meaning, whatever I have, I use and enjoy it. It is a reflection of my Capricorn Moon, which is the most materialistic sign of the zodiac and says, "I use therefore I AM." I went through a time in my Life where my belongings surpassed my ability to use and enjoy them merely because I was ungrateful and I knew it. Then, I had a nice little ugly lesson thrown at me which taught me a thing or two about integrity, appreciation and what and who I should be attached to.
If you ever wonder why it is difficult for you to receive the nice things you desire, maybe you are not using and enjoying what you already have. Would you give someone more if they did not appreciate what they had? Maybe there is a lack of gratitude and appreciation. If you are not using and enjoying your things, then have a garage sale and let someone else use and enjoy your stuff so you can call forth your intended desire. [Remember - no two energies can hold the same space, that I wrote about in the 5/02/06 Daily Message]. If you gave to someone and they did not say "Thank you", would you be inclined to give them more? Now how do you think God feels when He blesses you and there is no acknowlegment of receipt? And you want bigger, better and more?
Use and Enjoy your belongings because everything around you is temporary for your use and enjoyment while animating yourself about the planet. Be a Good steward over your things. Whatever you have been blessed with, be a Good steward of it. Take care of it. Use and enjoy it. Create a sacred space so that others can use and enjoy your things with you. Besides, your attachments should not be to your physical possessions; your attachment should be to the One, the Only, the Father, Who gave those blessings to you.
How many times have you seen me refer to "umpf" in your daily horoscope? I like funky words and this is just another word that I am attracted to. Umpf! It sounds like you have to do something just to say it. Being a Gemini, the natural ruler of the third house of communication and the master communicator of the zodiac, I Love words! I enjoy a play on words, looking up words, and making them up. Language has always come to me in so many forms - Cherokee, astrology, shorthand, court reporting, Pig Latin a.k.a Igpay Atinlay, and of course the Universal Language of mathematics, which is my all time favorite.
'Umpf' in my language is the same as force and when you apply enough force, then you get results. No umpf, no results!
In the Land of Physics, force is equal to the mass of something multiplied by the acceleration of it. (f=ma) Keep in mind, speed is one thing, acceleration is another. With speed, you do not have to accelerate. Let's just call that 'spinning your wheels'. OUCHY! Acceleration has change involved, which means you have speed and direction. Now you're going somewhere! Yippee! Speed does not mean change is occurring. It just means you are 'treading water'. Oh wow - I don't know about you, but for me this reality check is getting ugly real fast.
If you feel like you are just spinning your wheels, then change your speed and move in a certain direction! (Hint Hint) - Forward is a Good direction. You need to change the speed and direction to get somewhere. You have to accelerate! So when I say "Now Go!" in the horoscopes, I'm talking about acceleration. Speed plus direction. The nutshell is Newton's Second Law of Motion.
NEWTON'S SECOND LAW OF MOTION The acceleration produced by a particular force acting on a body is directly proportional to the magnitude of the force and inversely proportional to the mass of the body.
DR. STANDLEY'S SECOND LAW OF MOTION No umpf, no results!
Math is the Universal Language. We all get it, yet may not realize it. I think everyone is Good at math. Music is math, art is math, computers are math, sports are math, electricity is math, cooking is math, sewing is math, even strategizing your day is math. It's a crazy awesome thing and we are all Good at it. Keep in mind, this is coming from a gal who at one time could not help her daughter with 3rd grade math. When I started college I was 27 and could not do fractions and percents! Now I get it.
I suppose I am on a math kick because last weekend I spent treking about Southern Missouri with my girlfriend Christine (Aquarius). She was a math major, I was a physics major and we talked about everything from Fibonnaci numbers to Biblical numbers. We why'd, wow'd and laughed about everything. I always say, "Put a Gemini, Aquarius and Libra in a room and they will talk about everything and solve nothing." And that's what we did.
How many times in your daily horoscope have you seen me write, "PUSH!" or when I refer to your "actions and reactions?" I write about it because it is a math thing! After writing about the "p" word (potential) yesterday, I started looking around my space and physically saw all of my potential. Aarrgghh! I can't stand looking at my potential. Since I saw it, now I have to do something about it. Needless to say, once I saw it, I could not move fast enough to shift my energy, which is the same as the 5/02/06 daily message in Thermodynamics!
I started cleaning off my desk and moving my desk to another location when suddenly I could hear my e-mail box ticking like a clock. Now THAT is a shift in energy and THAT'S what I'm talkin' about. I don't know about you, but this whole physics trip this week has been fun for me and I have to keep going. All I know is that it is one of those DLG's (Download's from God) and I have to tell you. After all, God is really the Champion of Math!
NEWTON'S THIRD LAW OF MOTION For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
This law is nothing more than this: You will get out of something what you put into it. If you do not put forth an action, then there is no reaction. When you think about it, no reaction is still a reaction. Depending on how hard you push, will depend on the outcome. This does not mean that the opposite reaction is "opposition". The opposite is the see-saw. The other side. The balance. The output equals the input. If you sit back and complain about what you don't have and how miserable your Life has become, then stand is this question mark . . . "If you want a reaction, then what action are you taking?"
RELATIONSHIP PRACTICE: Communication in relationships is the easiest way to see actions and reactions with words or body language. I act like this, you react like that. I say this, you say that. Maybe the reaction is emotional, but alas . . it is still a reaction. (Wow, emotions are math too. Cool.) No one should ever be less of a person having come under your influence. If then that is so, monitor your actions and reactions so that you will receive an equal and opposite reaction in return. Be nice, play nice and say nice things.
PHYSICAL PRACTICE: Our physical bodies react to actions through food, sex, alcohol, drugs and exercise. A negative action in Life happens and we react to it. Folks, reactions to a negative action do not have to be a negative reaction. Free Will still rises above all else and you "get to" choose the reaction. Depending on how you choose to channel the energy will depend on the outcome (the reaction). If you choose to use exercise as a channel for stress, which will stimulate thought so that you can figure out your next move . . awesome! If you choose to eat yourself into another size, okie dokie! That will be the reaction unless you choose a different reaction.
As the Zen Master says, "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice." Come to think of it, the band Rush says the some thing in their song "Free Will."
You can choose a ready guide
In some celestial voice
If you choose not to decide
You still have made a choice
You can choose from phantom fears
And kindness that can kill
I will choose a path that's clear
I will choose free will
The word potential has to be one of my least favorite words, especially when realizing my own potential. Those of you in the TYS e-Course already have or will be entertaining the thought on the heirarchy of words. Now that I think about it, I may have to add the word "potential" to the list.
In the Land of Physics, Thermodynamics is the study of energy. In the Land of Thermodynamics, there is Potential Energy and Kinetic Energy. Potential is exactly as the name implies. It is energy that has not been used. When I apply this potential energy to myself, it just means that I have not done it yet. Dang!
LAW OF THERMODYNAMICS Potential Energy vs. Kinetic Energy Potential Energy is energy that has not yet been used. Kinetic Energy is energy in use or motion.
All of this motivational 'realizing your potential' mumbo jumbo out there drives me crazy! Potential! You know you have potential. I know I have potential. But let's just call it what it is and stop puffing ourselves up over having done nothing. Potential! Yuck! It just means we have not done it yet!
RELATIONSHIP PRACTICE: I was talking to a friend one day about her frustration with this man she was dating. I asked her why she was attracted to him. She said, "I don't know. I guess because he has potential." I said, "Really? Then why are you dating him?" In silent confusion she just looked at me with that wonderful question mark on her face. She was standing in the question. I told her the difference between the type of man she is attracted to and the type of man that I am attracted to is that she is attracted to a man with 'potential' and I am attracted to a man with 'no potential'. While her man would be sitting, my man would be moving. While her man would be planning, my man would be achieving. While her man would be intending, my man would be fulfilling. While her man would be settling, my man would be making it all happen. (winky wink)
CAREER PRACTICE: You want to know my potential? My potential is when I don't get the daily horoscopes posted on time. Ouch! Believe me, I can call me on my stuff a lot quicker than you can. I know myself very well and I am all too familiar with my potential. My potential is when I don't complete a project. My potential when I procrastinate. My potential is when I delay. My potential is when I postpone. My potential is when I do not finish. Now tell me, what is so great about potential if I just hoard it. I like to think of myself as a finisher, although there are times when I just sit in potential mode. Potential mode is not okay either because there isn't even conscious thinking going on. It's not even a vacation. It's just a big ol' nothin'! You will easily see an 'energy shift' on this website when I shift my energy from potential energy to kinetic energy.
FINANCIAL PRACTICE: Here is an exercise for you to do today and I will do it with you. Check to see exactly how much money you have in your wallet. I have $44.58 in my wallet. The potential energy of the money is that it is just sitting there. Waiting. The kinetic energy of the money is when I actually use the $44.58. It is the money in 'motion'. It is the 'use' of the money. Remember, kinetic energy is the 'use of' or 'motion of' something. Since I have lunch plans, I will probably 'use' some of that money to buy my lunch. How I 'choose to use' this money is when it turns into kinetic energy. This financial practice example is turning into a physical practice example. The food then sits before me as potential energy and will then turn into kinetic energy once inside my body. And the cycle continues.
I suppose the great thing about potential energy is that there is some thinking and awareness that is 'potentially' involved. (aarrgghh, there's that word again!) But no matter what, it still means that you have not done it yet. You may have the potential to drop a few pounds, but it does not mean that you will unless you turn the potential energy into kinetic energy. If you have extra pounds on your mid-section, that's potential energy. How does that make you feel? Ouchy Ouch Ouch!
As we keep pushing ourselves along our spiritual progression path, we will always have potential. If that isn't enough to get you kinetically injected in Life, I don't know what will.
One day a friend and I were in a serious agape mode chatting up all the personal work we had been doing on ourselves. We were just bragging it up and down about how spiritually connected we were in our physical world. After my friend went through an inventory of all the things she had done to clear a path for her future she said, "Now where's my stuff?" We nearly fell out of our chairs in tearful and hysterical laughter because we instantly knew her statement was all about receiving personal gain and not at all about progressing her spirit. I guess you had to be there to appreciate the cackling. Further, her statement was big enough that it applied to both of us.
THE FIRST LAW OF THERMODYNAMICS Energy can be changed from one form to another, but it cannot be created or destroyed. The total amount of energy and matter in the Universe remains constant, merely changing from one form to another.
RELATIONSHIP PRACTICE: You cannot Love and hate in the same breath. It is impossible! When you are hating, you are not Loving. When you are angry, you are not Loving. When you are aggravated, it is simply not a state of Love. It just isn't.
Dance around the topic all you want and make any excuse you want, but it is not Love unless it is Love. You can say, "But my children know I Love them," . . . when you are not in a state of Love, it is not Love. The negative feeling you are reflecting, is what it is, but one thing it is not, is Love. No two energies can hold the same space, it merely changes from one form to another.
CAREER PRACTICE: Several years ago when I decided to close my practice and pursue the Life I have now, I was writing for four St. Louis area publications and a couple of out-of-town magazines. I remember sitting in my office contemplating the reality of what I saw in my head. It was so real that I felt this overwhelming need to just, Let go and let God. I knew that in order for me to bring my writing to the audience of my dream, I would have to let go of the other writing opportunities.
I do not believe I had to let go of these opportunities in order to be successful, but I do believe I had to let go of them simply because I was afraid. That was the 'soul reason' why I had to let go. The soul is deep and my bone was being scratched. Simply because I was attached, worried, afraid, fearful and mistrusting, I had to let go. One of my personal mottos is, "I don't use fear to hold me back, I use it to drive me forward." If I had not been attached, then it would have been no big deal to let go. The attachment would keep me from having what I truly desired. If I wasn't attached I would have let go just because I didn't want to do it anymore. Attachments will teach you faster than anything. My heart was into the dream in my head and God only know's what it is my heart because He put the desire there. oooooh I Love Him! And naturally I had to remember, no two energies can hold the same space, it merely changes from one form to another.
FINANCIAL PRACTICE: There is no better story to tell about financial letting go than that of the man who travels to a far land and called his servants together to give them his possessions to look after according to their own ability. He gives five talents to one man, two talents to another and one talent to the other. When the master returned he settled accounts with the servants. The two men who received the five and two talents doubled their master's money. The man who received one talent was afraid, so he hid the talent and brought it back to his master. The master was not at all impressed, so he took the talent from the fearful man and gave it to the men who had doubled his money. The rich man did not 'take' from the poor man. This unfaithful servant 'gave it up'. And he will probably keep 'giving it up' until he learns how to be faithful in matters of money.
And the scripture reads: Well done, thou Good and Faithful servant: thou hast been faithful; over a few things, I will make thee a ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of the Lord. - Matthew 25:21
Now turn this parable toward yourself and what is going on in your neck of the woods. Make this about you! When you receive money, does it feel as if it is being taken from you? It is easy to witness fear just by watching people spend their money. Actually, the heck with watching others, watch yourself! There is a thought, an attitude and application that we choose to stand in when handling money. Shift your attitude and application with money and you may find yourself saying, "It's a Miracle!" Once again, no two energies can hold the same space, it merely changes from one form to another.
When you hear the term energy shift, it is literally the First Law of Thermodynamics. You cannot create or destroy energy. No way! No how! Can't do it! But what you can do is shift the energy from one form to another. You can shift your energy with Love, you can shift your energy with your skills and you can shift your energy with money.
And the burning question, "Where's my stuff?" At the time my friend posed the question and we fell out laughing hysterically, who knows where our stuff was then, but the energy sure has shifted now.
Madonna (the entertainer) has always fascinated me. I can identify with many of the same actions and reactions that she chose as those I made in my own Life. My actions and reactions just showed up differently although they were indeed the same.
Rebellion is a wonderful teacher for me because it is a question mark that challenges me to stand in 'the question'. To this mind-twisting Gemini, I think you have to be a brave soul to 'stand in the question'.
I would probably give anything to sit down with Madonna for a chat about anything. Even a chat about a stick falling from a tree would be a fascinating conversation. Why? Because she knows herself very well and I can identify with that! I enjoy people who openly live in "the question mark", whatever the question mark may be and who will take on the question when they have it, whether you like it or not.
Those who run from the question mark, I tend to walk away from them. That's just me. I know myself very well. If you want to dance in the question mark and volley the question mark back and forth until we come up with something, I'm ready to dance.
During an interview, Madonna was talking about her husband and the things that cause her to feel uncertain or insecure. (She was brave enough to stand in the question mark.) She spoke about these feelings when her husband works all day with beautiful models on music videos or directs them in movies.
She said she stops and says to herself, "But wait, I'm ME!" . . . And I can certainly identify with that!
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