Daily Messages from Dr. Standley

When it comes to coupling up or engaging in any relationship with anyone (friends, professional, family, romantic or acquaintance) I believe a lot of things. I don't really know which of the five points below that I believe more because they are all equally important to me. This morning's Musical DLG ™ (Download from God ™ ) was, "Better Together" by Jack Johnson, which brought all of these points to the forefront of my mind in an instant.

I remember back in the 10th grade I had a friend who was a bit more rebellious than myself. I am a rebel in my own right, only more along the lines of fun, flighty and fanciful. Geez, I just want to rock the boat and have some adventurous fear running through my veins. I don't really want to get into any trouble. My kind of fun is like the adrenaline rush that extreme sports provides. I don't need to hurt anyone or break the law to get a rush of excitement in my Life. My rebellious friend was more of an adrenaline junkie who would meet any parent or policeman's disapproval. One day I distinctly remember saying to this friend, "I can't hang out with you anymore." My friend thought it was my parent's idea that was the undoing of our friendship but I made it very clear that it was solely my decision. At age 16, I was smart enough to know the difference but most importantly, I knew that I was not a better person because of this friend. So I was outta there!

As an adult there have been times in my Life when I was not a better person having come under someone else's influence and the same is true vice versa. It's not as if I've been Good for everyone along my path all the time either. Some friendships or relationships I chose to stay in much longer than I should have knowing full well that our union was malignant. Heck, I don't know why we humans have to miserablize ourselves with some people before we choose to move on. I don't have a clear answer for that but I do have some idea, just as you probably do. Come on, none of us are idiots, we're just human and in denial. Still, however long it takes then that is how long it will take until we learn. Some people need to repeat a class, some people need to repeat a grade and some people need to repeat an entire cycle. In relationships we tell ourselves that it's working when it's clearly not. If it were working, then it would work.

The most profound revelation about my relationship with 'The Scorpion King' is that I am a better person and a better woman because of our relationship. As a mother, with a daughter 28 years old, I can honestly say that I am a better mother than I've ever been. It's only taken 28 years to get there. Did I ever tell you that she has the theme from the movie "Psycho" as her ringtone for me? And I believe I've always been a fantabulous granny. That's a given! (winky wink) I guess all I'm saying is when it comes to relationships, any relationship you may have, make certain that you are without a doubt, better together.

There's no combination of words
I could put on the back of a postcard
No song that I could sing
But I can try for your heart,
our dreams, and they are made out of real things
like a shoebox of photographs
with sepia-toned loving
Love is the answer
at least for most of the questions in my heart, like
Why are we here? And where do we go?
And how come it's so hard?
It's not always easy and
sometimes life can be deceiving
I'll tell you one thing, it's always better when we're together

Mmmm, It's always better when we're together
Yeah we'll look at the stars and we're together
Well, it's always better when we're together
Yeah it's always better when we're together

And all of these moments
just might find their way into my dreams tonight,
But I know that they'll be gone
when the morning light sings
and brings new things
for tomorrow night you see
that they'll be gone too,
too many things I have to do
But if all of these dreams might find their way
into my day to day scene
I'd be under the impression
I was somewhere in between
With only two,
Just me and you,
Not so many things we got to do
or places we got to be
We'll sit beneath the mango tree, now,

Yeah It's always better when we're together
Mmmm, we're somewhere in between together
Well, it's always better when we're together
Yeah, it's always better when we're together

[MmmMmmmmMmm, Mmm MMmmM]

I believe in memories
they look so, so pretty when I sleep
Hey now, and when I wake up,
you look so pretty sleeping next to me
But there is not enough time,
There is no, no song I could sing
and there is no combination of words I could say
but I will still tell you one thing
We're Better together

Until then, as we say in Cherokee . . .

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

For those of you who are new to my website, the Daily Message's that I write are 99 percent of the time inspired by what I call a Musical DLG ™ (Download from God ™ ). Every morning I wake up 'without' an alarm clock to a song playing in my head that is as audible as an alarm clock blaring loudly. This morning's Musical DLG ™ (Download from God ™ ) was, "The Time of the Season" by The Zombies. Actually, what I heard was the modern rendition by 'Big Blue Missile' that is on "The Spy Who Shagged Me" soundtrack. I've never been too crazy about renditions but I do Love the soundtrack rendition, which is why I think God woke me up with the track that I enjoyed more. Oh God knows we so well; we have a history together. (winky wink) I'm a hard rocker from way back, which is probably why God speaks to me in the musical language that I Love and enjoy. I happen to think that God makes everything easy on us and it is us who twist things out of shape and make things hard. Even so, I feel compelled to share with you the original Zombies version since most people are more familiar with it and I have also posted the rendition by 'Big Blue Missile' below the words. The modern rendition is a cool song to dance to in a real Woodstocky, close your eyes, flail your arms, psychedelic way.

'The Time of The Season' is one of those fantabulous songs that I just can't help but think this is God singing directly to me through this song. When He says, "What's your name?" my immediate reflection is a question mark because I don't know what He calls me and I'm okay with that. I enjoy 'not' knowing who I am before I'm called "Loretta." I don't have to know all of the answers in the Universe because there is something very peaceful in blind child-like Faith. I'm whoever He says that I am. I enjoy the surrender and serenity of not knowing. When He says, "Who's your daddy?" I'm clear about that too. I'm clear that my dad here on earth is dad but no one comes close to my DADDY! In my brain when He says, "Who's your daddy?" I say, "YOU ARE!" Okay, I know, I'm a bit spiritually goofed out but there's a lot of peace in spiritual goofiness. Certainly I get twisted emotionally but its my spiritual certainty that brings me back to center. I know in my heart the message from God in this song isn't about monetary wealth when He says, "Is He rich like me?" because God is Abundance and Happiness in all forms. He is my Source and Supply (capital "S") of all my emotional, material and spiritual Substance. He is Substance! I get it, I'm on board baby!

I take this song as a gentle reminder to never forget Who we are talking to when we are alone in prayer. Folks, our happiness and livelihood should not be dependent on another human being but instead we should be completely surrendered and dependent upon Him. There is no time of the season to embrace that fact, quite like the present. And for your reading and praying pleasure, here is a link to Emmett Fox's beautiful prayer called, "Accepting Abundance." Enjoy!

It's the time of the season
When the Love runs high
In this time, give it to me easy
And let me try
With pleasured hands

To take you and the sun to
Promised lands
To show you every one
It's the time of the season for loving

What's your name?
(What's your name?)
Who's your daddy?
(Who's your daddy? He rich?)
Is he rich like me?

Has he taken
(Has he taken)
Any time
(Any time to show)
To show you what you need to live?
Tell it to me slowly
Tell you what?
I really want to know
It's the time of the season for loving

What's your name?
(What's your name?)
Who's your daddy?
(Who's your daddy? He rich?)
Is he rich like me?

Has he taken
(Has he taken)
Any time
(Any time to show)
To show you what you need to live?
Tell it to me slowly
Tell you what?
I really want to know
It's the time of the season for loving

Until then, as we say in Cherokee . . .

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

Did you know that the definition of pain is . . . an emotional response to a stimulus. That's right, pain is nothing more than your emotional response to something. Whether physical or emotional, some people cry when they are in pain and others will laugh while in pain. Haven't you ever told a painful story and laughed to keep from crying? While you can point to where it hurts, you still can't really see pain. Pain is designed to protect the body rather than actually hurt the body. Pain let's you know that something is wrong. Have you ever wondered why pain can't feel Good and protect us from hurt at the same time? Well, if something didn't hurt, then we wouldn't be motivated to fix it. This not only applies to the physical body, but relationships and financial issues as well. The bottom line? Pain is a Good motivator.

Sadly, we humans tend to learn best when we are in pain. Even when you are trying to explain your pain to someone else, until you can help them understand (feel) your pain, they really don't know how you feel. That's what gives "I feel your pain" a true meaning. Most of the time, pain will resolve itself into healing once the painful stimulus is removed but often times pain will endure long after the painful stimulus is removed despite any evidence of damage, pathology or stimulus. This is what is commonly called, "painful memories" or "emotional woundology."

When I woke up and heard this mornings Musical DLG ™ (Download from God ™ ) called, "Let It Grow" by Eric Clapton my first thought was that most of us will probably be able to handle physical pain much more than we will ever be able to handle emotional pain. Then I took it to a more personal level and looked at my own Life. While it is less likely that I will hurt someone physically as opposed to emotionally, my first rule of thumb is to do my best not to hurt anyone's heart or spirit in the first place.

Standing at the crossroads, trying to read the signs
To tell me which way I should go to find the answer
And all the time I know
Plant your love and let it grow

Let it grow, let it grow
Let it blossom, let it flow
In the sun, the rain, the snow
Love is lovely, let it grow

Looking for a reason to check out of my mind
Trying hard to get a friend that I can count on
But there's nothing left to show
Plant your love and let it grow

Let it grow, let it grow
Let it blossom, let it flow
In the sun, the rain, the snow
Love is lovely, let it grow

Time is getting shorter and there's much for you to do
Only ask and you will get what you are needing
The rest is up to you
Plant your love and let it grow

Let it grow, let it grow
Let it blossom, let it flow
In the sun, the rain, the snow
Love is lovely, let it grow

Until then, as we say in Cherokee . . .

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

Before I get into today's Daily Message, I did get permission from the client I was talking to on the phone to write about our conversation. Semi-early yesterday (Sunday) morning I received a phone call from a client who was calling to follow up on her Transit and Progresssions Report. I was becoming seriously confused because I keep copies of ALL charts and reports that I write and I couldn't find any evidence of writing a Transits and Progressions Report for her. Every so often I'll receive an e-mail or phone call from someone who accidentally deleted their copy or their computer crashed and the report was cyber-eaten. Since I keep copies, then they don't have to purchase another one. I simply e-mail them another copy. Just when I asked the date that she ordered the report so I could double check my past orders, it was clear that she was looking at her Expansive Natal Chart and not a Transits and Progressions Report. You see folks, with a Transits and Progressions Report I include a 'free' 10 minute phone conversation so I can teach you how to use it. So she was calling about the chart and not the report.

After I told her the 10 minute phone conversation wasn't included with the Expansive Natal Chart, she meekly said, "Oh okay, well thank you anyway" as she prepared to hang up. I said, "Whoa, wait a minute! How can you get me on the phone and not press me. If I were you and had me on the phone, I'd press me." She giggled, then I giggled and shared with her that I was THE MOST pressing student in school. I pressed every single point that I missed on my grade on the off chance that I might earn that point back and increase my grade. It's my grade, so why not work it. I can be so relentless! (winky wink) I remember one time in my Differential Diagnosis class at the end class the doctor asked, "Are there any more questions?" Well my hand shot up like a lightning bolt and the whole class sighed in tired of learning disgust. They just wanted to get out of there! I turned around, looked at my entire class in even more disgust and said, "Hey, I don't know about you but I'm paying for my education and I'm going to get my money's worth." You see folks, in my world, it never hurts to ask.

Well, taking one look at this woman's birth date, I thought she needed a little lesson in being pushy, so I pushed. I happen to think you can be pushy and nice at the same time. It's your Life . . . so be nice and push! She giggled and said that she didn't want to be 'invasive'. I told her that was really nice of her but I'll let her know if her question crosses into the 'personal reading territory' or if it's in the 'not understanding what something means territory'. I said, "Come on, ask me." Her question was about the next lightning bolt strike that I wrote about in your Weekly Horoscope. Namely, the Saturn in Virgo / Uranus in Pisces opposition that will take place on April 26, 2010. She didn't understand how to find it in her chart. I said, "Oh that's a question, not a reading and I want you to understand this, so let's look at your chart wheel together." After I went over with her where to find this opposition in her chart we talked about how she nearly missed an opportunity because she didn't want to be invasive.

She initially meant to call me when she purchased the Expansive Natal Chart back in mid-November 2009. She had waited over two months later to call me and get an answer to a question that had been bugging her. Two months! I said, "See you could have been living for two months with the knowledge than without the knowledge." We giggled about all the clarity she was now receiving and how she is going to be more pushy (in a nice way) so her Life works for her, instead of her working for her Life. Take it from me folks, you can be pushy and nice at the same time and more importantly, it never hurts to ask.

Until then, as we say in Cherokee . . .

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

This morning's Musical DLG ™ (Download from God ™ ) woke me up in a slight chuckle. It was the theme song to the 60's TV show "Green Acres." Just like Lisa in "Green Acres", my Life changed 180 degrees. Back in June 2009, I was the master of the unattached freedom-loving bachelorette and 'The Scorpion King' was the master of the unattached freedom-loving bachelor. We met and like a wild fire it took hold and kept going. I just told 'The Scorpion King' yesterday that since we coupled our energies last October 2009, the only thing I really missed about my previous Life was riding my bicycle every day. That's right, it was only 4 months (nearly to the day) after we met that we coupled up our energies. That's one wild fire! I was literally swept off my feet or my bicycle in this case. I can tell you this, when it's right, there are no question marks, just adjustments. Greeeeen Acres is the place to be . . .

Even though I grew up a country girl, the other half of me is a city girl. I'm just as comfortable in the fast paced hustle and bustle of city living as I am in the slow paced, quiet, bird churping, deer in the yard, country air. Two people in one body is to be expected in a Gemini like me. We adapt easily because we are the chameleon's of the zodiac. Still, I went from buzzing around on my bicycle with groceries and fresh flowers in my basket to needing a vehicle just to go get a gallon of milk. That has been the hardest thing to get used to. I also went from sharing a small courtyard in the back of my building with eleven other neighbors . . . to living on several acres of land complete with a lake and a built-in pool. Oh I'm out in the country alright, not to mention everything around me expanded exponentially, which was quite an adjustment in itself. Greeeeen Acres is the place to be . . .

One very early morning, at the break of dawn, I was going to the store to get milk. As I drove down the long drive to the main road, I stopped at the mailbox and saw a huge cat. Well I just LOVE cats! I stopped, opened the door, got out and called out to the huge cat. Here kitty kitty. As I slowly stepped closer to the cat with my outstretched hand, the scariest noise came out of my voicebox because it wasn't a huge cat at all . . it was A HUGE RACCOON! Greeeeen Acres is the place to be . . .

Getting used to the land spreadin' out so far and wide hasn't been the only thing I had to be get used to. Remember how I used to stay on the computer until 2, 3 or maybe 4:00 in the morning? Well, adopting a new daily routine has also been quite the challenge. Then there is making certain I get enough exercise since I'm not riding my bicycle every place I go. Just recently, I've had to adopt two P90-X workouts in a day, one in the morning and one in the afternoon. This makes up for the calories I'm no long burning on my bicycle that resulted in a 10 lb. weight gain. Two workouts a day did the trick! (winky wink) Since I basically have a sedentary lifestyle on this computer all day, I don't walk to my car or walk around a workplace like the average person does in a normal, leave the house, daily life. That extra calorie burn of daily living matters! I sit, type and then walk to the bathroom, kitchen or down the road to the mailbox. Greeeeen Acres is the place to be . . .

The Scorpion King and I actually mixed our belongings together fairly easily. We kept the best of both our worlds and then gave away the rest. Making his home into our home was an enjoyable process as we decorated, painted and shifted furniture. Now he has his office and I have my office. We were set on making the house into something that reflected both of our personalities and life experiences and not something that showed his house with my stuff in it. There would be no 'just visiting' look here. We decided very quickly that this relationship was it. It was now our home with our stuff and both our family pictures here and there. At times he was a bit frustrated when he couldn't find anything, like the pepper, aluminum foil, tape or trash bags. He'd jokingly say, "I can't find anything anymore." And I'd smile and say, "I have to get used to things being in a different place too." It was a quick reminder that both our lives changes 180 degrees. Greeeeen Acres is the place to be . . .

I knew when I heard "Green Acres" this morning as my Musical DLG ™ (Download from God ™ ) that it had a two-fold purpose. First, I knew that I was supposed to share with you why I have been off schedule for several months because I had been sitting in the task of setting up my professional space (home office) where I would do my work, make my bath salts, jewelry and store the inventory for the other products that I have on this website. And then the Scorpion King had to build me shelves because my inventory and supplies were all over my office. The second thing is I know that I am supposed to share with you how quickly your Life can change when you are 'prepared' for it and 'open' to it. I'm a firm believer in 'you must be prepared.' My Life quickly expanded a few days after my birthday last June 2009. That's when I first met 'The Scorpion King' and a week and half later he met up with me in Florida for a wedding and then we drove from there to Cherokee, North Carolina to meet my family. I wrote about our trip to Tampa in one of my August Daily Messages called, "Calm In The Storm" when I heard the Musical DLG ™ "Wooly Bully." On that Florida trip we had only known each other a week and a half and it was there that he first met my daughter and grandson. Call me crazy but we knew it was perfect and so did everyone else. A few days later we were in Cherokee so he could meet my parents, sister, aunts, uncles and cousins. We certainly didn't waste any time.

All I'm saying folks is if you are truly open to change, improvement, abundance, Love, growth, coupling up, sharing, craziness, excitement, living and newness . . you can and will experience it. Being as open as I was made all the difference in the world for what I received in return. What a gift! My spirit was prepared and open for him to waltz into my Life and his spirit was prepared and open for me to waltz into his Life. It's been a wonderfully crazy and graceful dance. We were ready. The change in both our lives was certainly lightning fast and drastic but that's exactly what we were both open to and that's exactly what we both received. Greeeeen Acres is the place to be . . .

Green acres is the place for me
Farm livin' is the life for me
Land spreadin' out so far and wide
Keep Manhattan, just give me that countryside

New York is where I'd rather stay
I get allergic smelling hay
I just adore a penthouse view
Dah-ling I Love you but give me Park Avenue

. .. The chores
. . . The stores
. . . Fresh air
. . . Times Square

You are my wife
Good bye, city life
Green Acres we are there!

Until then, as we say in Cherokee . . .

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

I'm a firm believer in, "If you are going to do it, then do it well." Whatever IT happens to be, just do it well. I first heard a phrase similar to this watching an episode from "The Outer Limits". A man meets up with a woman from his past in a bar and during their conversation he says to her, "If you are going to drink, drink well." Some things in Life take practice, some things in Life take some getting used to and some things in Life you shouldn't be doing at all.

One day me, my grandson (Big Tree) and The Scorpion King were outside on the lake playing hockey. Big Tree had never been on a frozen lake before, nor had he ever played hockey. His first attempt at holding a hockey stick and swinging at a moving hockey puck resulted in him falling right on his 'Rumpelstiltkin'. Big Tree was not happy and absolutely did not want to get back on the ice. He was upset with everyone. We kept telling him that it takes practice but he wanted to do it well right now. He is a very competitive child and is always set on his personal best. Again, some things in Life take practice, some things in Life take some getting used to and some things you shouldn't be doing at all. This was one of those times when it took practice AND some getting used to. About 20 minutes later Big Tree was back on the ice, standing in front of the net, playing goalie.

Folks, trust your spirit because it will let you know if you should be doing something just to add a new and wonderful experience to your Life . . . or if you should be doing something to master it in order to create something more out of it . . . or if you shouldn't be doing it at all.

Until then, as we say in Cherokee . . .

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

One of my new adventures in Life is I'm learning to ice skate. I'm actually doing fairly well for only my second time on the ice. Since 'The Scorpion King's' favorite sport is hockey and I'm a sporty type of gal, then joining him on the ice seems like the logical thing to do. Typically, he goes to the ice rink, gets all padded up and plays hockey with the guys. Now that the lake in our back yard is frozen solid, the hockey net is set up and it's GAME ON!

So there we were Sunday afternoon, out on the ice for my second time and I'm already skating while holding a hockey stick in my hand. The Scorpion King had already scooped up the light layer of snow and shaped a figure eight on the ice for me to practice my turns, while he did sprints from one end of the lake to the other. Before firing shots at the net (in my case, whiffing shots at the net) my feet started hurting super bad. Now remember folks, I have a South Node Pisces (the fish), which means my fins (feet) are a drain to me. The North Node means your 'cup runneth over' and the South Node is your 'bottomless pit'. The North Node will be your strength and the South Node will be a source of weakness. Folks, I've had my fins operated on three times and I've never even had a bunion! I also have a mega-size scar on one foot from a bicycle accident as a child. There is not one day that goes by when my feet don't hurt but I've learned mind over matter works better for me than reflexology, acupuncture and the like. This is why swimming and me don't mix that well because my fins are a source of weakness. OH MY GOSH, it just hit me, I'm like Nemo!

I kept skating around doing my mind over matter thing when I finally decided to just sit down on the dock and remove one sock. Ice skates are supposed to be tight but something just wasn't right. I was receiving a DLG (Download from God ™ ) that said if I just let go a little bit, if I just let go of one sock then everything would be okay. Folks, I had on four pairs of socks because I know my fins, if they get even a tiny bit cold, they will cramp up so bad that it will put me into full-blown tears and it will take a lot of massaging, heat and interestingly enough (water) to get my fins moveable again.

I sat down, removed one sock and said, "Oh! Oh Wow!" That was it? All I had to do was let go a little bit? It sort of reminded of the Chinese handcuffs you win at a carnival or an arcade. The more you fight it, the tighter they get but when you ease up just a little a bit, you're free from the complication.

Until then, as we say in Cherokee . . .

Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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WE SHOULD BE BETTER TOGETHER

WHO'S YOUR DADDY?

THE TIME OF THE SEASON
by The Zombies

I FEEL YOUR PAIN

LET IT GROW
by Eric Clapton

IT NEVER HURTS TO ASK

GREEN ACRES

GREEN ACRES THEME SONG
Eddie Albert and Eva Gabor
(Lyrics below the video)

IF YOU ARE GOING TO DO IT

LET GO, JUST A LITTLE BIT

WE SHOULD BE BETTER TOGETHER

WHO'S YOUR DADDY?

THE TIME OF THE SEASONby The Zombies

I FEEL YOUR PAIN

LET IT GROWby Eric Clapton

IT NEVER HURTS TO ASK

GREEN ACRES

GREEN ACRES THEME SONGEddie Albert and Eva Gabor(Lyrics below the video)

IF YOU ARE GOING TO DO IT

LET GO, JUST A LITTLE BIT

THE TIME OF THE SEASON
by The Zombies

LET IT GROW
by Eric Clapton

GREEN ACRES THEME SONG
Eddie Albert and Eva Gabor
(Lyrics below the video)