I hope you can help me. I have a friend who has the most irritating laugh I have ever heard in my life.
She sounds worse than nails on a blackboad. When we are out somewhere and she laughs, the whole place turns to see if something is wrong. I've tried to be tactful, but she just won't take a subtle hint. How should I proceed?
Thanks,
No Name No Location
Dear No Name:
Great question! I have also dealt with this gnawing issue all my Life. My laugh has been complimented, mocked and even complained about on the radio. Many people get a kick out of it and say that I sound like a little girl and others just flat out think it is fake. I have been shushed, yelled at and even pinched to get me to stop laughing as a child, as well as, in my adult Life. Naturally, I cannot help but be a little suspicious of this e-mail as to whether it is coming from a radio show listener and whether it is really about me. :)
Even so, I choose not to take this e-mail personal and assume that this e-mail is really about you and how you deal with others. It is not about your friend, it is about you. As you sit and read this e-mail . . . ponder these things that I ask . . . ponder them slowly as you scroll down the page . . . . as slow as you possibly can before moving on to the next question:
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Dear No Name: