Daily Messages from Dr. Standley

Folks, I am determined to create a better me every chance I get, so I create little threads in my Life to pull on to help get me there. Just like in Yesterday's Daily Message when I told you that I pull on little song threads to change my way of thinking. I have to do something otherwise my mind can turn into a runaway train in a snap! Now that's just fine if it's all Good, but if it's not, then I have to address it immediately, if not sooner.

Another thing that I do is I get out my printed Natal Chart and I read the highlighted sections. These are sections that I have previously highlighted using a yellow highlighter to indicate where I need to play myself UP and let my Light shine. I look at it like the Sun beaming down on these wonderful qualities and Lighting them UP so that I can use them to create a better me and fulfill my purpose. I also read the sections where I have previously taken a pink highlighter and highlighted the areas that are not very attractive that I need to soften. I am literally trying to sugarcoat the pink areas and turn them into something marvelous, sweet and tasty. After all, a glob of flour isn't very tasty unless you sweeten it up with some sugar and spice.

So here is your weekend, "Homework" folks. Get out your Natal Chart and highlight the qualities that you need to Light UP and shine in yellow and those you need to soften and sweeten UP in pink. Don't think for a second that you can't turn those challenging qualities into something wonderful. Those of you who have some severe aggression in your charts, then highlight it in pink and then go sign up for Karate and learn to channel your energy into something that is controlled and meditative or channel that energy into a new business. Heck, I have a history of being a non-stop talkative, verbose gal and all I had to do was channel it into my work and create something as massive as my communication skills had revealed in my chart. Yummy, I wonder what little Goodies you'll find.

I have all of these wonderful little song threads that I pull on when I want to change my way of thinking. My favorite song to pull on is, "Lunchlady Land" by Adam Sandler. He starts the song by saying, "This is a song through the eyes of one of the most important people in the world . . the lunchlady." My favorite part is when he really starts jammin' with his guitar and belts out, "Sloppy joe, slop, sloppy joe, Yeah, uh Sloppy joe, slop, sloppy joe, Come on." If you want to hear this song just click this link www.youtube.com and it will take you straight to the song because it is hilarious. It's so goofy that I cannot help but laugh and I Love imitating the sloppy joe part. One of my other favorites that I sing is, "Choppin' Broccoli" by Dana Carvey that he sang on SNL, which you can also find on www.youtube.com. It's hilarious because he's making up the song as he goes along for two record producers (Sigourney Weaver and Phil Hartman). I just Love singing those songs because they make me goofy happy.

Certainly we all obsess at one time or another about Love, money, work or family until we reach the point of becoming emotionally twisted. That's the point at which we have allowed these emotions to set up residence inside our mind and body, which can then overtake our spirit. Those emotions are like a smelly festering cavity with food still in it heating up at 98.6 degrees fahrenheit inside your mouth. See how nasty and stinky that sounds? Now imagine greeting another person under those conditions. Yeah, we all have the ability to fester like a food filled cavity. Folks, I can handle a lot of things but sitting in emotional overload all day long is not one that I will consciously choose. It's all a matter of choice. I choose not to sit in a continual negative mental posture so I have to find a way to snap out of it. Besides how can I solve it if my mind is twisted by my emotions. So if I don't like what I'm thinking, that's where "sloppy joes" comes in handy.

So there I was driving my grandson, "Big Tree" to school this morning and he started singing from the backseat, "Sloppy joe, slop, sloppy joe, Yeah, uh Sloppy joe, slop, sloppy joe." Then he said, "Come on and sing it with me Granny." So we started singing it together. Now "Big Tree" knows that I will break into that song any minute I want to have happy thoughts so I asked him, "Why were you singing that song?" He said, "Because I don't want you to go home today and that song makes me happy." Here that little 4-1/2 year old was making a conscious choice to be happy.

Folks, I have finally decided that I am going go one more winter without buying a car. I haven't owned a car since the Fall of 2001 and I have been riding a bicycle for my mode of transportation for six full years now. Back in February 2007 I told you about My Path of Transformation and how I ended up on a bicycle. If you haven't read that Daily Message, you might want to at this point.

It's fairly easy for me to get around on my bicycle because I live in a wonderful area in the City of St. Louis where you really don't need a car. The neighborhood is as eclectic, cultural, hoppin' and diverse as one could imagine. There are restaurants, galleries, bookstores, coffee shops and boutiques within just two blocks. My church is just one block away and the two grocery stores are three blocks in either direction. And if I don't want to go the three block distance, I can go to the tiny little market that is just two blocks away or they'll deliver the groceries if the weather is bad. It's very common to see bicycles attached to anything standing.

As much as I traveled this year from the end of April to the beginning of October there still wasn't much need for me to buy a car because I wasn't home but a few days here and there. I kept thinking about it and then off again on a plane I would go or head out camping or on road trip with friends. If I really need a car for a few days, then I'll rent it. Even on the weekends when I have my grandson "Big Tree," I ride my bike to the train and get off at the airport where my daughter or son-in-law will pick me up. We just put my bike in the back of the van and then "Big Tree" and I will use their third car to go loafin'. It's all easy, we have it down to a science and it's not a big deal.

It's never been a secret that I can't stand the cold, but as I always say, "I can't stand the cold but the outfits sure are cute." Well a few weeks ago "Big Tree" and I were out loafin' when I made the decision that I was going to go one more winter without a car. What the heck! So we went shopping and I bought me three new coats of varying warmth to prepare for the varying cold temperatures. We have a saying here in St. Louis that goes like this, "If you don't like the weather in St. Louis, just stay a day and it'll change." Quite honestly, it can be 20 degrees one day and 50 degrees the next or 30 degrees one day and 70 degrees the next in the middle of winter. That is no joke! I have finally decided that instead of whining about the cold, I'm going to choose to embrace it and enjoy it. I choose to enjoy the cold and find the Good in it.

So yesterday when I was out running my errands it was interesting to note that the cold didn't bother me like it normally would simply because I decided to change my attitude and enjoy it. It was rainy, cold and the wind was biting my face but then I thought, "Okay, now I need a face mask. Why didn't I think of that before?" At the same time it was actually exhilarating because I wasn't the only one out there pedaling away as if it were 75 degrees. I guess we'll see if I cave this winter and finally break down and buy a car, but for now, it's a matter of choice and I choose to enjoy it. By the way, that's my favorite hat!

This weekend I checked out longer than I normally do where I had my Blackberry shut off completely and sporadically checked in for messages. Now first of all I know better than to do that from Thanksgiving weekend until the first of the year. It's just that time of year where emotions run high and the holiday's seem to take their toll on the human spirit, especially where relationships are concerned. I believe that I have returned all phone calls but if I missed your call, please call back and let's get you taken care of before something minor turns into something major. On top of it being 'that' time of year, Mars (the fiery red planet of aggression) is retrograde in Cancer (home and family). I'll do my best to make this as easy to understand as possible.

Mars turns retrograde only once every two years for about 80 days. So this year is a bit different than last year when it comes to home and family. The retrograde motion began on November 15, 2007 and will last until January 30, 2008. If you notice in the blue box on each daily horoscope I write the degree and minutes of where the planets are located. You can see since November 15th than Mars in Cancer is slowly going backward. Keep in mind that Retrograde Motion is merely an illusion and that no planet EVER really goes backward. It just can't happen but the shadow cast from the Sun onto Mars makes it 'appear' as if it is going backward. At the same time, our reaction to the illusion is real and this Mars Retrogradation will cause us all to turn introspective but then again we might first start drudging up some family past before we snap out of it and become introspective. At least we should become more introspective, reflective and deep in thought about who we are and how we handle ourselves especially with regard to home and family matters.

Mars will remain retrograde in Cancer until January 1, 2008 and then it will continue its retrograde motion as it goes back far enough to enter Gemini. Then it will remain retrograde in Gemini until January 30, 2008. But for now, let's just stick to dealing with Mars retrograde in Cancer. On each daily horoscope you will notice that I wrote more about Mars Retrograde because the Moon is in the emotional and moody sign of Cancer today and tomorrow thereby compounding the effect of aggressive Mars.

The reason why we have to pay so much attention to Mars retrograde is because Mars rules action and male activity in a woman's Natal Chart, which can really mess with a woman's emotions with respect to men . . . and men can become quite aggressive. At the same time those who are Cancer, have a Moon in Cancer, are Cancer Rising or have strong Cancer charts will be most affected. This includes North Node Cancer or those who have several planets in Cancer. Geez, and if your South Node is in Cancer then family matters can drain the livin' daylights out of you. Even though I am a Gemini, I am a Cancer Rising coupled with a strong Cancer Natal Chart. I have already had my Mars hefty dose and smack down since November 15th and what I'm saying is that this does not have to last longer than a few days. If you 'choose' to be introspective and look at yourself then it can turn out to be incredibly wonderful. It did in my case but then again I do not thrive on sitting in something that I can easily correct and that my little chickadees requires my introspection so I can correct me.

The signs likely to be most affected are: Aries, Cancer, Libra and Capricorn because they are all Cardinal Signs. If you notice, Capricorn and Cancer are opposing signs and Aries and Libra are opposing signs. Also, each sign is square (challenging) to the next because there are two signs that separate each of you -- Aries is square Cancer, Cancer is square Libra, Libra is square Capricorn and Capricorn is square Aries. So these four signs have to make certain that they behave around the other three signs.

Mars retrograde in Cancer can make for some nasty home and family quarrels, which can be avoided when you realize that it is an illusion. Before you start pointing fingers at other family members, turn your thoughts introspective and solve yourself before you try to solve someone else.

If you want to see how this affects you personally instead of as an entire sign, then look at your Natal Chart and see what house is ruled by Cancer. Make certain that you look at the degree of the house cusp in Cancer because some of your Cancer energy may be in the previous house. For instance if your Cancer house cusp is 15 degrees and today Cancer is 11 degrees 33 minutes, then that would put the Cancer retrograde energy in the previous house and not the house that is 15 degrees. That first 14 degrees has to be somewhere and that would be the previous house.

Having said all of that, through the end of the year, I will make certain that I am even more available than usual as this retrograde energy can take a toll on our mood and emotions and severely challenge the human spirit. This can easily be worked through when you choose 'introspection' as opposed to aggressive over-emotion.

As we creep up on the end of the year my readings have been more along the lines of "identity" and "misson in Life" than any other topic. Being a Gemini and the "The Thinker" of the zodiac who carries the motto, "I think therefore I am" or as my brainiac Gemini brother Sam would say, "Cogito, ergo sum," I think we humans over-think ourselves far too much. This could be my Gemini simplistic nature coming out. Cogito, ergo sum is Latin for "I think, therefore I am" and Dubito, ergo cogito, ergo sum means, "I doubt, therefore I think, therefore I am." Interesting, we humans will start thinking so much that we can think ourselves right into doubt. Dubito, ergo cogito, ergo sum. Cogito, ergo sum is the philosophical statement that is the foundation of Western Philosophy. Geez, why in the world would anyone make something harder than it has to be.

I find it tough to write a Daily Message without a title but lucky for me (even though I don't believe in luck) I am practically given a title every morning when I wake up by merely listening to my musical DLGs (Downloads from God). I've always been that way with my writing, even in high school and college. I have to name it before I can write it. Just as I had to identify me before I could be me. Heck if I couldn't identify me, then how could I become me and have other people identify with me? Well that my little chickadees is how I became so comfortable in my own skin. I owned who I claimed to be. You claim, then you own, in that order.

I tend to catch people off guard during one of these mission in Life readings when I ask, "So, who do you think you are?" Ah, cogito, ergo sum. They will stumble and slobber all over this statement until I gently interrupt saying, "That's not what I asked." Remember, the question was, "Who do you think you are?" And they step right into doubt, "Dubito, ergo cogito, ergo sum." I am literally asking, when you think about what you want to be doing with your Life, what are you thinking? Cogito, ergo sum. Who do you think that you are when you are thinking about you in your imagination. Remember, I always thought I was The Mystery Dancer. Then they will retreat and try to quickly piece together something that resembles what they always wanted to do with their Life. Now my nose is burning a bit and my eyes are welling up with emotion because my intuition feels they are on to something. Ah, the claim! That's where it all begins. Folks, affirmations will not do you a dang bit of Good if you cannot visualize and feel who you want to be when you grow up. If you can't see it, feel it and taste it, then don't expect anyone else see it with you. An affirmation about being wealthy when you cannot visualize how you got there is really just hoping, isn't it?

I was watching one of those TV news programs (could be Dateline) on Friday night about the little girl Madeleine McCann who went missing while vacationing with her family in Portugal in May 2007.

Besides the obvious heartbreak this story brings over any missing child, one of the things that really bothers is the treatment that the mother (Kate) has sustained during this ordeal over her lack of emotion for the TV cameras. She's been stone-cold-sober the entire time.

I find this completely appalling that anyone would want to see any mother weep, especially when they are heartbroken over their child. Let's not forget Susan Smith drowning in her tears before the cameras after she drowned her two young children in South Carolina several years ago. Then again, those tears could have easily been anguish over what she had done but not yet admitted.

My point is this -- every single one of us respond to stress, heartbreak, sorrow, grief and pain differently. When I saw Kate McCann just sitting there stoic without tears, I know that feeling because I too respond in that way when under severe pain, grief or stress. It's numbing! I have been through a couple of situations with my daughter when all I could do was stand there . . stone-cold-sober. When Karmen was in ICU after a 4-wheel all terrain vehicle accident, my reaction did come as a surprise to a few people. I absolutely could not feel. It was all I could do to stand there at the foot of the bed and see my baby laying there with twigs still in her hair. In a crisis, that is when my former husband steps up to the plate and handles it for both of us, just like Jerry McCann (Kate's husband), Ed Smart or John Walsh had to do in their family crisis. And let's not forget Shawn Hornbeck's stepdad Craig Akers. To this day, the mere thought of that day standing at the foot of her bed puts me over the edge in the quietness of my own space when I am alone.

The same is true when my other grandson (Big Tree's identical twin) left for Heaven. I remember standing there like a stone without expression, unable to speak and without a tear in my eye. Frozen solid! Again, my former husband knew all the right things to say and spoke for both of us, even after being divorced 24 years. Again, in the quietness of my own space, one thought of that day can send me over the edge in sorrow when no one else is around.

Several years ago when my mom and I were 25 miles outside of St. Louis driving to Nashville she had a stroke in the car. I became stone-cold-sober, serious and just plain unreadable. There was no time to pull over and call an ambulance. I went into go mode and called the hospital to alert them I was bringing her in and then proceeded to calmly and systematically call each family member. Through a straight monotone voice I told each family member what was going on all the while staying stone-cold-sober.

While it is easy for me to explain emotions astrologically, not everyone gets it or wants to get it. Regardless, the important thing is that you fully understand your emotions and what you are like in the midst of them. No one else really has to understand them, but you do. I have told you over and over again that I am a Cancer Rising which makes me very emotional in my personality. I cry watching someone get their name called on a game show. I cry watching a little kid wait for the school bus in the rain. I cry over someone else's Good news. I cry during Mass. I cry looking at my website stats. I cry opening presents. I cry over a simple act of kindness. I cry watching movies. I cry when someone else is happy. I cry on the phone with clients when they "get" an insight or awareness. I cry every single day!

Even though I am an emotional Cancer Rising I have a poker-face under severe stress. When alone I'm a raging mess! I am a wailing woman when I am alone but never in front of anyone else. It's just not me. I cannot bring on the tears when I'm frozen. Frozen rain is actually hail and that stuff really hurts when it hits you. I have told you before that I have a cold Capricorn Moon. That's where the 'frozen' comes from and believe me, frozen tears are excruciating. This Moon is what sobers up my emotions and makes me poker-faced and without a doubt, stone-cold-sober. I'm blessed because I get to "feel" and be emotional with my Cancer Rising but I also straighten up quickly with that cold Capricorn Moon under severe stress.

The bottom line -- before you judge someone else's emotions, please get to know your own first. Look at your Moon (emotions) and when you understand them, then you can help other people understand you. We all respond differently under stress. Just because someone is stone-cold-sober under severe stress, it doesn't make them guilty!

Wooooo Hooooo! Folks, great news! Since last week, this site has gone from 148,086 to 140,724 in website rankings. It's quite a feat to be in the top million of 108 million websites in the world much less in the top 100,000. Now I want to be under 100,000 by January 1st, 2008 and I need you to help me do it by telling every single person you know on the planet about this website. Keep feeding me and I will keep feeding you. Funny, and its really just little ol' me driving this locomotive.

You probably noticed the new changes the second you signed on to this site. As the site exponentiates in visitors, then I have to respond by doing whatever I can to make certain this site is easy to navigate. The biggest change is the left hand navy blue column that use to be green with the buttons spaced further apart making it easier to read and then the dark gray underneath the buttons with white lettering.

The color changes are a result of me getting tired of the site looking like a carnival. I do have a tendency to be a walking carnival. The old colors must have been the former clown coming out of me. But then again, we Gemini's do enjoy a variety of color. I also lightened the center sections on each page to make it easier to read and removed a lot of red to make it easier on the eyes. It's interesting, the older I get the more I think about these things. What! Who said that?!?!

The most change occurred under the Laboratory Tests button. I had to go in and update all the laboratory values and create easier to read links. When I looked underneath that button it just looked like a train wreck to me. I guess it's just one of those things where you get better with age. (winky wink) Now when you pop over there you should be able to find your information immediately, if not sooner.

Those of you with time on your hands it would be great if you could go over to the Fun, Games and Quiz button and take some quizzes and then let me know if any of those quizzes are broken. The Body Systems button is probably THE MOST popular section on this site (believe it or not). I kinda like that button too because then you can high tail it over to the Quiz section and test your knowledge. Remember, the tagline to this site is, "Become Your Own Best Healthcare Provider," and since it is your body, then you should know how it works. Sounds reasonable to me.

I also updated some pictures including the top picture in the right banner column to the online radio show. I'm pretty much ready for another butterfly pic on the Daily Message graphic so I'll be mentating on what I want that to look like. Right now, I'm going to run back over to the Native American Animal Medicine section and write up some more animals while waiting for The Amazing Race to come on. Did I ever tell you that I am a Certifiable Reality TV Show Junkie? What are you kidding me . . it's so REAL! (winky wink) And Dancing with the Stars has me on the edge of my seat! And so, I digress.

As you can see, Saturn in Virgo in my natal chart 3rd house of communication is requiring me to be ever-so disciplined in this area, which is one mega-mondo reason for the more stream-lined site, updates on horoscopes being 'on time' and creating the NEW Contact button to keep my thoughts compart-mental-ized with the different e-mail addresses. This is the only way I can keep a one track mind. For this reason below are some gentle reminders for orders, consults, readings.

Folks my Life is a dance and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for dancing with me every single day. It's just crazy fun and you all really keep me going and creating more when you keep coming back. It really does feed my soul and when I need to channel energy like I did this weekend . . it goes right into these pages. WOW (Wide Open Wonderment) - I'm still so full and I need to go channel. I LOVE YOU ALL! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! for wanting more from me this weekend in such curious, heartfelt and Loving ways. I was feeling the Love and I was definitely feeling the need to give some back.

Well I woke up so fast this morning that I don't remember having a musical DLG (Download from God). Last night turned out to be one of those up until 5 AM work frenzies and in typical me fashion I woke up exactly four hours later at 9 AM with my eyes popped wide open wondering where I was. The Sun happened to be shining through the window and that's probably what threw off on my senses.

I actually spent the night with the Native American Animal Medicine pages and loaded about ten new animals. After I finish typing this Daily Message I will head back over there to write and upload some more animals. Folks, I know it can be frustrating with some pages or sections incomplete so it's probably time for me to give you another gentle reminder. I am the only one who writes this website. There is no company or team of individuals that manages or uploads this site for me. I do it all baby! Every teeny tiny bit of this website has my fingertips, eyeballs and brain slathered all over it. Besides, I like the way I communicate and I want my verbage on every single page. I am definitely a one-woman-show and that's probably an understatement. If I want a new page on this site, then I'll create it. I am self-motivated, self-taught and a self-starter.

Every so often I will receive an e-mail from someone that says, "If you just write it then you won't have to write it again. You'll be done with it!" Now come on silly-pants, of course I know that and I appreciate the input but it's a time thing. To sit down with a blank slate it just doesn't happen within minutes. I'm a thinker. I'm a Gemini. The Gemini motto is, "I think therefore I am." Information has to come seeping out of my brain down my arms and into my fingertips and then there has to be time to do it. It took me about five hours last night to create ten animals. Using five hours out of the middle of the day can be next to impossible because I'm typically on the phone, returning e-mails or I'm in updation-mode. When I add new pages, it's usually in the middle of the night while the U.S. is sleeping and while other other parts of the world are just getting off work or just waking up. Believe me, it's a dance.

After I leave this Daily Message, I'll mark the new animals on the Native American Animal Medicine pages as NEW! How's that grab ya'? Oh wow, I just realized that the Native American Animal Medicine section of this site is 95 pages! I must be nuts! I also know that the "Coupled-Up They Are" section at the bottom of each compatibility page is in need of my brain and fingertips. Did you know the compatibility pages alone on this site consists of 401 pages! YOWZA! Well okay, I did create those 401 pages all in one crazy sleepless and mind-blowing weekend but that must have been a weekend when I needed to unload some gray matter and I opted out of going out and playing with my friends. If there is anything you should remember about these compatibility pages and that is there are 131,760 astrological types. That is exactly why matching your sign to another sign is simply not enough information. For a male chart he has to look at his own 7th house cusp, Venus and Moon for a closer look at who he is compatible with and the female has to look at her own natal 7th house cusp, Sun and Mars for a closer look at who she is compatible with. Simply matching up Sun signs is not as accurate as I think you want. For this reason, you MUST have your own Natal Chart. That's not a sales pitch folks, that's a FACT!

The Native American Animal Medicine and the compatibility pages are the most urgent and then I'll probably finish the "What Week Were You Born" section under the horoscope pages. The herbs and health topics are probably the easiest for me to finish first but I'm opting for the Native American Animal Medicine. Give me a few minutes to get the NEW posted on the NEW animals before you e-mail me and ask which ones are NEW. Okie Dokie. I know how you are!

And as usual, all of the writing on this site is subject to a delay when I stop to write a Natal Chart, give a Health Consult, an Intuitive Reading, give a Natal Chart Interpretation or take a phone call. Oh yeah, then there are e-mails. Oh it's not as crazy a Life as it sounds; either I'm a little bit whacked or I don't really realize what the heck I got myself into. (winky wink) Come back this weekend and check my progress. I'm a bit fired up and there's no telling what I can create when I'm under this kind of elemental influence. Hey, I have an idea. I'll keep feeding you more information and you keep feeding me more people. I want more people because more people drive me to create more! Feed me people, feed me! Yippeeeee!

You know how it is when you're listening to a song you Love but you have no idea on earth what they are singing so you make up your own lyrics? Well that was me this morning. I hear this electric guitar plucking all alone so sweetly so I started singing, "Ah ey yeah ehh....Ah ey yeah ehhhhhhh eh eh, yeah," until I hear Eddie Vedder the lead singer of Pearl Jam join in with me. I had to chuckle because my daughter Karmen gets a nice belly laugh when I start making up words to songs that I don't know. I will sing the words boldly even though they make no sense but at least they rhyme. This particular song "Yellow Ledbetter" by Pearl Jam is famous for being indecipherable. It's also famous for being easy to change when the band performs live. Basically it's an easy song to improvise. So there I was singing, "On the ceiling is the voice of reason ah." Well Eddie Vedder actually sings, "Unsealed on a porch a letter sat." Now how I arrive at "On the ceiling is the voice of reason ah," I have no idea, but I do. I do it everytime I hear that song. Oh I'm rolling with laughter right now.

There is another song by Rusted Root called, "Send Me On My Way" that I sing with Karmen where the words are just too jammed together to understand what the heck they are saying so I start making up my own words. Now I know they are singing, "Send me on my way" but I'll sing, "Simian Way" . . "I'm awake" . . or "Ahinawake" depending on how I feel; Ahinawake [pronounced Ah-nah-wake] being my sister's name. It's just hilarious. I guess you have to be there. Then there's a part of "Send Me On My Way" where they really smash the words together so I just stick out my lips and then use my index finger to flap my lips while singing, "Mummity Say Mummity Ah," and it sounds just like the song. It's uncanny how much I sound just like them. (winky wink) Karmen will invariably extend her arms and say, "And THIS! This is my mother."

I knew when I heard the first chord of the guitar of "Yellow Ledbetter" that this musical DLG was all about being brave enough (possibly even crazy enough) to make up my Life as I go along. And why not? I don't mean this as self-absorbed as it may sound but it's my Life and I can make anything work for me that I really want including that silly song, especially when I really enjoy it. Ah ey yeah ehh....Ah ey yeah ehhhhhhh eh eh, yeah . . On the ceiling is the voice of reason ah."

I remember one day being so frustrated with the growth of this site that I yelled out to God, "WHAT! WHAAAAAT!"

The gentle DLG I heard back was, "Loretta, it's okay. You're okay. Now I want you to get back to work and I want you to go BIGGER! Don't worry, you can make it up as you go along. Now go!"

I calmed down, smiled and thought, "BIGGER! Now why didn't I think of that?" AND I can make it up as I go along! Cool. Count me in!

Folks, one thing I don't do is argue with a DLG. Hmmmmm, make it up as I go along. So I don't really need a plan. That same day I created several new buttons in the green column to the left and started writing hundreds of additional pages. I was pumping out new pages left and right on shear DLG unplanned adrenaline. I was literally making up the site as I was going along, just like "Yellow Ledbetter" and "Send Me On My Way." Whatever topic came to me, that's what I wrote about. This website went from fifty pages, to a couple of hundred pages to literally 3,000 pages nearly overnight all because I made it up as I went along and I didn't have a plan. That's right folks. I had no plan at any given moment what I was going to write. I just took the DLG advice and went BIGGER! This website is now ranked 148,086 out of 108,810,358 distinct websites in the world with number one being the best. I began 2007 right at about 253,000 which means I've sailed up the rankings by over 100,000 in less than a year and my goal is to be five digits by January 1st, 2008.

Now this is where I feel compelled to ask for your help to reach my year end goal. Will you please share my website with everyone you know on the planet? This will free up some of my energy to finish projects that I have already started on this site and it will feed my excitement to create even more pages for you to experience. I want more for you and I pray you want more for you. And why not? Especially if I can keep making it up as I go along. There are no boundaries here folks. The more content that I have on this site, the more you will find what you are searching for. And what a wonderful feeling it is to have new word-of-mouth-visitors or should I say word-of-email-visitors. Not to mention I would be eternally grateful for your support. I Love making up this site as I go along and I Love waking up and feeling that sudden urge to create something NEW for you. Ah ey yeah ehh....Ah ey yeah ehhhhhhh eh eh, yeah . . On the ceiling is The Voice of Reason-Ah."

Well it's not often that I wake up hearing a Queensryche song playing in my head, but I certainly heard one this morning. Queensryche is a heavy metal band from the early 80's and when they slow down their energy enough, they can really put out a kickin' rock ballad. The song "Silent Lucidity" is probably one of my all time favorite Queensryche tunes. You know why? Because silent lucidity IS a DLG (Download from God). As with any song, depending on the mindset you are in when you are listening to it or what happens to be going on in your Life at that moment, it could have a different meaning for you. Naturally I had to get up and turn on my Napster so I could play the song over and over again. Wonderful . . just wonderful. I just Love it when rock bands use a full orchestra in their ballads. This song is still playing over on my myspace page today www.myspace.com/mentator. Check it out!

As usual I only received a portion of the song, which is where the message is for me. I consider myself a lucid dreamer, meaning in the midst of a dream, I am fully aware that I am dreaming and that puts me in control of what I will do next. I get to choose. It's a get to. I can deliberately and purposefully use the message as I heard it or wrestle with myself over what it means. Actually, my lucid dreams are when I am awake. Since I wake up so quickly this has made my night dreams next to impossible to remember. This is probably why my DLGs come in the form of music at the moment I am waking up. Believe me, if you are open to hearing God's instruction, He will touch your spirit and give you the message. The key is being "open". This is the part where you get to choose to take the wheel or not. You manifest your dreams when you act on the message.

"For God speaks once, yea twice, yet man perceives it not.
In a dream, in a vision of the night, when deep sleep falls upon men,
in slumber upon the bed; then He opens the ears of men,
and seals their instruction."
Job 33:14-16

I interpret "Silent Lucidity" as opening your subconscious mind to His Instruction through your dreams. I've asked you this before, "If you stood on a cliff over the Ocean and screamed your dream, what would you scream at the top of your lungs?" Put it out there folks! Your Life is the dream and you have been given the free will to manifest your dreams as you desire. No one is stopping you, but you. What if I didn't listen to the musical DLGs that play out in my head each morning that I wake up? What if I thought nothing of my musical lucid dreaming and just took it as a song that I enjoy? What if I was too afraid to scream my dream and decided to just sit around on my rumpelstiltskin and just think about creating this website? What if I was gonna do this and I was gonna do that? Remember you were created purposefully, deliberately and for a reason. Your Life was created for you and now you get to do with it whatever you want. How much more excitement do you need than having your own free will to get you UP and manifest your dream? Since I passionately and ardently know a DLG when I hear it, then I know that it was God talking to me in that song, which is exactly why I capitalized the word "Me" in the first line. Folks, haven't you heard the Good News? . . . "With God, all things are possible." - Matthew 19:26

If you open your mind for Me
You won't rely on open eyes to see
The walls you built within
Come tumbling down, and a new world will begin
Living twice at once you learn
You're safe from pain in the dream domain
A soul set free to fly
A round trip journey in your head
Master of illusion, can you realize
Your dreams alive, you can be the guide but...

I-will be watching over you
I-am gonna help you see it through
I-will protect you in the night
I-am smiling next to you...in silent lucidity

I was a little surprised to hear Daniel Powter's song, "Bad Day" playing its way through my gray matter this morning when I woke up because I really don't have bad days. I have bad moments but I generally snap out of them fairly quickly; within minutes actually because I just don't want to worship what was a bad moment all day long. That's just too much drama for me not to mention it messes with my happiness.

With my eyes still closed and the instant I could name that tune, a scenario popped into my head from this past weekend, which I knew that I had to share with you. My grandson "Big Tree" and I typically go to the Farmer's Market on Saturday's and while we are there we stop at our favorite booth to get lunch. Yummy! We just Love those chicken teriyaki shishkabobs! Then we sit on a bench across from the booth with our "old lady cart" that is loaded down with fruits and vegetables and watch the people go by. As we walked up to the booth there was a bold sign near the window that said, "NICE CUSTOMERS ONLY! IF YOU ARE RUDE KEEP WALKING! WE RESERVE THE RIGHT TO REFUSE SERVICE TO RUDE PEOPLE!" Well my Goodness, you should have seen the people waiting in line. Who wouldn't want to be considered a nice customer? For a minute there I couldn't decide if the sign was rude, necessary or both. It took all of a minute to decide that it must be necessary because the sign was there bold and blatant.

Granted, no one should have to put up a sign to remind us to be nice to each other, especially when they are choosing to be 'in service' to us. THEY are voluntarily choosing to serve US but that does not mean we can be rude and demanding. That's just not nice and violates all the basic rules we learned in Kindergarten. Quite honestly, when it comes to service, nothing can get my temperature rising faster than bad service, especially if I am paying for that service. Bad service, bad table manners, someone eating with their mouth open, uncleanliness, tardiness and dirty telephones are some of my pet peeves. Interesting enough, my North Node Virgo rules service, food, manners, exacting time and hygiene. Yeah, I'm more Virgo than Margie and "H" (Henrietta) combined and they both know it, which has been the source of a few jokes. I'll admit folks, it has taken some practice (about 40 of my 46 years) for me to be calm in the midst of bad service and handle it like a 'nice' grown-up. This has not always been the case.

When I saw that sign posted it reminded me of the old me and don't think for a second that it feels Good admitting this in such an open forum. I would rather not tell you that I have been a bad customer. I would rather not tell you that I was the person they were referring to on that sign. I would rather not tell you that I was the person that caused someone else to have a bad day at work. At the same time, I would rather tell you so that you just flat out don't do it. Believe me, there is nothing impressive about that behavior. There is nothing attractive about a bad, rude and demanding customer. I have to tell you what I feel motivated to tell you from my DLG (Download from God), even if it doesn't feel Good for me to admit it. Well, I have to say this NEW and IMPROVED me feels so much better.

My point is this, if you are experiencing a bad day or a bad moment, remember that no one and I mean no one should feel less of a person having come under your influence. If anything, do something that will leave that person better than you found them. You always have the option to make a positive difference in someone's Life. When I think back on all of my ugly customer moments, I'm certain that God wasn't looking at their behavior, He was looking at mine.

Grace was always one of the hardest things for me to understand. I just couldn't get it through my head what it meant. Grace. My friend Margie (the Virgo who is really a Libra) and the founder of the website www.mymangels.com always referred to Grace and I would always say, "What do you mean? You always so that and I just don't get it." Then she would go over it with me again and I would say, "Oh, okay" like a child who says they understand something when they really don't. Well Grace took me a while but it finally clicked. When understanding anything about God, I have to come at it literally as a child and to Him literally as my Father.

The past two weekends I spent with my grandson "Big Tree". He spends the entire weekend with me and we cram as much as

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