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MAY 2008

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[Posted 3:00 PM EDT - Friday afternoon, 5/30/2008]

HELLO IT'S ME

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read yesterday's daily message titled, Musical Totems

This morning my musical DLG (Download from God) arrived with a visual message attached to it. Rarely do I wake up with a visual image that accompanies the music playing in my head so this morning's DLG had a little added bonus. I suppose you could call it a dream but it wasn't a dream. It was a vision. Those of you who receive your intuition through a vision probably know what I mean.

As I began waking up I heard the album version of Todd Rungren's, 1972 tune called, "Hello It's Me." That's a great old song even though it's really about a relationship ending through a phone call. Dang! I've experienced that like many of you but that's not what my vision was about at all. My vision was about someone trying to establish a relationship with another person.

As I listened to Todd Rungren sing, "Hello, it's me, I've thought about us for a long, long time," A scene from the movie, "I Am Legend" flashed before me where Will Smith's character (Dr. Neville) walks into the video store and is desperate to establish a relationship with a mannequin. In this movie, Dr. Neville is the sole survivor in New York City after a deadly plague nearly wipes out all of humanity. After several years of being alone and just after his dog dies he is just about ready to crack. Days earlier he had considered saying "hello" to the beautiful brunette mannequin but didn't quite have the nerve. He promises the male cashier mannequin who he calls "Ray" that he will say hello to her tomorrow. Now that his dog died, he realizes that he really is all alone. He's nearly a broken man and is desperate to have this female mannequin respond to him and says to her, "I promised my friend that I would say hello to you today . . . Hello . . . Hello." He begins to cry and continues, "Please, say hello to me. Please say hello to me."

The scene in that movie is so profound and shows our basic need for companionship, validation and human interaction. It kinda reminds me of Tom Hanks character (Chuck Noland) in the movie, "Castaway" where his loneliness and imagination cause him to bond with a volleyball that he calls, "Wilson," which is named from the brand name on the ball. This ball is not only his sole companion but it actually keeps him from losing his mind, which is also what Will Smith's character was seeking when he tried to bond with a mannequin. Folks, all I'm saying is never underestimate the power and significance of your, "Hello."

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley
AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta

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[Posted 8:30 AM EDT - Wednesday morning, 5/28/2008]

MUSICAL TOTEMS

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last daily message, Retrograde Planets

My musical DLG (Download from God) this morning was hearing Gnarls Barkley sing, "Crazy." I just Love that song and I consider it one of my musical totems. Naturally the first thing I did when I got out of bed was open up Napster and crank it UP! In the Native American belief system a totem is typically an entity (non-human) that is chosen which has a special kinship to the person, clan or tribe. More popular now in totemistic beliefs are animals that are chosen to be special helpers or animals that give spiritual strength to an individual. Totemistic beliefs are not just Native American as many of you can attest through your own ancestry.

Just as I have animal totems, I also have musical totems. I like being a little "out there," . . . okay, I like being "a lot out there" and possibly even a wee bit Kah-ray-zee! so I feel a special kinship to this song. It gives me strength to be who I am and makes me feel even more comfortable in my own skin as I skippity-do-dah along the planet doing my own thing. By the way, I'm playing this song on my Myspace page today. Just Click and Enjoy! Also, at the bottom of this page is the YouTube video of Gnarls Barkley's appearance on David Letterman singing this song . . and I absolutely Love any song with additional string instruments (violin's, viola's, violoncello's aka cello's).

CRAZY by GNARLS BARKLEY

I remember when, I remember, I remember when I lost my mind
There was something so pleasant about that place
Even your emotions had an echo
In so much space

And when you're out there
Without care,
Yeah, I was out of touch
But it wasn't because I didn't know enough
I just knew too much

Will that make me crazy
Will that make me crazy
Will that make me crazy
Possibly

And I hope that you are having the time of your life
But think twice, that's my only advice
Come on now, who do you, who do you, who do you think you are,
Ha ha ha bless your soul
You really think you're in control

Well, I think you're crazy
I think you're crazy
I think you're crazy
Just like me

My heroes had the heart to lose their lives out on a limb
And all I remember is thinking, I want to be like them
Ever since I was little, ever since I was little it looked like fun
And it's no coincidence I've come
And I'll die when I'm done

Maybe I'm crazy
Maybe you're crazy
Maybe we're crazy
Probably

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley
AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta

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[Posted 12:30 PM EDT - Monday afternoon, 5/26/2008]

RETROGRADE PLANETS

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last daily message, The Theory of Relativity

Contrary to popular belief, a retrograde planet is not such a bad thing. Typically a planet goes retrograde (especially Mercury) and everyone starts blaming poor Mercury for everything that goes wrong when the whole time its just an illusion. IT'S NOT REAL! The great thing about a planet going retrograde is that it calls our attention to something that we would not have considered before. Retrograde planets are an illusion because no planet ever really does move backward. See how silly that sounds. That would be an astronomic and astrologic first! It's an illusion just like the sideview mirror on your car, which states the illusion, "Objects may appear closer than they really are." Not that retrograde planets appear closer at all; the mirror is just an example of an illusion. Retrograde planets appear to be going backward because of the Sun casting a shadow on them. That's it! So if the 'energy' brings us back to a moment in time simply due to an illusion, then why not go with it and take a second look.

As you look over your weekly horoscopes, take note that there are five planets retrograde right now. Since Jupiter rules abundance and it is retrograde right now too, it will feel like you are moving forward but with the parking brake on. Jupiter is one smart planet and will go retrograde at the perfect time to keep us from over-spending and over-accumulating thereby squashing our own abundance and spending all our money when things are Good. Oh you better believe everyone is more concerned with how they spend or create money and it looks like it took Jupiter retrograde for us to connect those dots. Hey, if that's what it takes, then that's what it takes. We human beings can be so unruly and inattentive, but one thing a retrograde planet will do is grab our attention and cause us to slow down and pay attention. It's really not such a bad thing if you use this time to look at your Life and how you operate about the planet.

Chiron is also retrograde, which will help us turn our attention to our own self-healing rather than trying to heal everyone else first thereby ignoring ourselves. Believe me, a sick healer heals few people. I'm a firm believer in taking care of myself first otherwise I would be no use to anyone. If I don't take care of myself first, then writing this website would be virtually impossible. Updating and writing this website takes an enormous amount of energy and sometimes I get really tired (like yesterday). When that happens then I don't have a guilty bone in my body if I don't update. No one will care more about me getting the rest I need more than I will, so that's what I do. I like me, so I take care of me. It took me a while to understand that it was okay if I go a day without updating and the planet will still spin and Life will go on if someone doesn't get their daily horoscope. This is what I'm talking about folks. During Chiron Retrograde, you need to get to the point of taking care of your own wounds, your own spiritual, emotional, chemical and physical needs before you even begin thinking you can take of others needs.

Whatever you do, don't overthink all of these retrograde planets and step into fear so that you end up blaming the retrograde planets for everything that happens over the next several months that doesn't feel Good to you. These retrograde planets can serve you in THE MOST wonderful way and it doesn't have to feel bad unless of course that's the only way you are open to receiving enlightenment. YOWZA!

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley
AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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THE THEORY OF RELATIVITY

[Posted 5:40 PM EDT - Friday afternoon, 5/23/2008]
Read the last daily message, Down With Trapped Rats!

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Okay so Albert Einstein's 1905 theories on relativity (Special and General Relativity) don't exactly work in everyday Life like Sir Isaac Newton's Three Laws of Motion but it's all relative (related). Einstein's Special and General Relativity Theories are expanded universal theories that have to do with the structure of space and time (E=mc2). WHAT? Whereas Newton's Three Laws of Motion have to do with gravity and give us an approximation for objects moving at everyday speeds that we can actually relate to as everyday people. You kick a ball, it moves because a force acted upon the ball. You throw a ball up into the air, it will come down. Guaranteed!

It's tough to relate to universal concepts in everyday Life, which is why Newton is so much easier to relate to. Interesting enough, even though Sir Isaac Newton laid the groundwork for Einstein's theories, Einstein's work now supercedes Newton's. Still, it's all relative.

"If I have seen further than others,
it is by standing upon the shoulders of giants."
Sir Isaac Newton~

There is a popular story of Sir Isaac Newton sitting underneath an apple tree when an apple suddenly fell on his head. He could have just let the apple sit there, he could have eaten the apple, he could have thrown the apple, he could have made apple pie or he could have stomped on the apple in anger for what it did to him. Poor, poor Sir Isaac Newton, Wah! But no, wait a minute! What he did was he used the apple that didn't fall too far from the tree and he thought of something great. He figured that there must have been a force acting on it in order for it to break free and bonk him on the head. But what was it? He was open enough to receive a fantabulous DLG (Download from God), which turned out to be "The Universal Law of Gravity."

IN FAMILY PRACTICE: Those who came before us such as our ancestors and parents, they laid the groundwork for us to become who we are today. To supercede them. Whatever your family and/or ancestoral roots may be, this is your groundwork, whether you like it or not. You can do what you want with the knowledge and react negatively or positively and supercede your own history. It's up to you. Let's see you do better. As the family grows from one generation to the next you may have gone through similar struggles that are relative to your history. The great thing is as the family grows in generations, each family will vibrate (do better than) the generation before it. At least you should because that is your job, especially if you are standing on the shoulders of giants due to what they survived. Certainly history has way of repeating itself and the apple never really does fall too far from the tree. Even still, there is something to be gained from the apple and you can supercede your own history. Folks, it's all relative.

IN RELATIONSHIP PRACTICE: And what about all those relationship patterns that you keep repeating? One after the other here they come. NEXT! It's similar to the same patterns in families that do not change until someone gets a fantabulous DLG (Download from God) and decides to take a different look at why the apple didn't fall too far from the tree. All of those relationships that bonked you on the head were there for a reason, which was to get you to the place that you needed to be. You can supercede the previous relationship, if you want to. If you choose not to do something with the knowlege, then history will keep repeating itself until you 'get it' and do something with the knowledge and supercede your own history. It's all relative.

You do have the ability to supercede your own personal history whether that is familial, relationship, career, money, children or your own challenging personality without minimizing, blaming or shaming those who came before you. You get to change your own future. You are now a grown up and get to choose, especially when it becomes clear that the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree. You can supercede yourself! Folks, it's all relative.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley
AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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DOWN WITH TRAPPED RATS!

[Posted 10:55 AM EDT - Thursday morning, 5/22/2008]
Read the last daily message, Told Ya' So

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Folks, I am committed to regaining my spontaneous and whacky rhythm today. I gotta tell ya', I can't stand being out of sync and being out of sync to me is living by a schedule. I know that sounds a little strange but having no schedule is what works best for me and it keeps me on time. Over the past few weeks I have been to a lot of scheduled events which threw my spontaneous rhythm way off the track. Today I am going to "use" this serious Capricorn Moon (I have a natal Capricorn Moon) and get myself ahead on these daily horoscopes and get the Animal Medicine Instinct back on track. Remember, the Capricorn Motto is, "I use therefore I am" so I will be "using" my time effectively, constructively and productively. I've been nuts not being able to be spontaneous and it has thrown me off my normal whacked-out course of productivity. I have to be true to myself and live without a schedule and I'm feeling very scheduled right now and I don't like it. (winky wink) Living without a schedule is what keeps me available and easy to accommodate your schedule at a moments notice.

So here's the deal . . unless you absolutely need to have an insight reading or health consult today, I will not be doing any readings or consults until tomorrow (Friday). This way I can get my rhythm back and if you have been coming here daily, you can get your drstandley.com rhythm back. I miss writing cool daily messages and I know many of you miss reading them as well. I am an extremely organized person (North Node Virgo) and I have to be organized to lead such a spontaneous life. In other words, you won't find me wasting time looking for my keys, EVER, simply because it would mess with my spontaneity and prevent me from living in giddy-up and go mode. The last thing I will do with my time is look for my keys. Being disorganized and out of sync makes me feel like a trapped rat! So today I will spend my time getting reorganized and fully updated so that I can have my whacky spontaneity back and you can have back everything on this website that you enjoy. Down with trapped rats once and for all!!! Big Fat Love to all of you . . . .

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley
AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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TOLD YA' SO

[Posted 3:45 PM EDT - Tuesday afternoon, 5/20/2008]
Read the last daily message, One Hand In My Pocket

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Have you noticed how friends or family can be the last to understand, encourage, believe-in or support something you do or say? I'm certain we've all run into this while pursuing a dream, desire, goal or just flat out giving someone else advice. Discouragement, disbelief or flat out disinterest sets in simply because those closest to us may not understand why we choose what we choose or why we say what we say. Heck, even Jesus ran into this problem when He said, "A prophet is not known in his own land." I'm certainly not claiming to be a prophet, that is not what I mean. In His message He is telling us that those closest to us may be the last to believe us or believe in us. You may have a dream and your family or friends might be the first to discourage you. We all need someone to believe in us who will give us support and encouragement to carry on and sometimes the last ones to do it will be those closest to us. Isn't it strange how that works?

Looking at my Natal Chart I have my Sun in the 12th house of the hidden realm; therefore, my work was going to branch out into the spiritual, metaphysical and hidden realm sooner or later. It was going to happen. Since that is where my Sun is located then that is where I would shine. Whether anyone else liked it or not these were the cards I was given and it was up to me to play them in the most wonderful and positive light. This was my game. All of this hidden realm stuff that we cannot see --- God, animal medicine, astrology, affirmations, thought, physics and prayers . . . does it really all become one and turn out to be all about us as well? Is there a connection? Of course there is! My work takes into account everything, the things we can see and the things we cannot see. It's in my Natal Chart and it would happen when I chose to embrace it and work with it. Ah . . Good ol' astrology always takes into account free will.

This brings me to a simple conversation I had last night with a close friend. (She knows I'm mentioning this today because we both agreed it was worth sharing with you since we got such a huge kick out of it last night.) I have been gently telling my friend for years that she is focused on the wrong age group for a relationship and that she needed to go older. Since she never dated anyone older she just couldn't imagine it and the thought didn't even appeal to her. I didn't push but always quietly reminded her. I told her that if her birth time was correct then this was going to happen and Mr. Wonderful would show up looking a certain way. The Natal Chart doesn't lie, only the mouth does. These were the cards she was dealt and that's just the way it is. Well it turns out that a new Mr. Wonderful shows up in her Life in the exact age range I had been telling her along with a few other wonderful tidbits I had thrown in. My friend is shocked at how wonderfully easy this relationship has been for her so far. When she chose to become more open and embrace this fact, then it would happen but not until then.

Folks, I'm not telling you this to toot my own horn. I'm telling you this because there are things in your Natal Chart that you may not believe simply because you have never tried it. Just because you have never tried it doesn't mean that it isn't true. I asked her, "Why is it that the people who are closest to me are the last to listen to me?" Then we just giggled like school girls over it as I kept saying, "Told ya' so, told ya' so." At the same time in the back of my mind I remembered, "A prophet is not known in his own land." Again, this has nothing to do with me thinking that I'm a prophet but everything to do with the message that I'm trying to deliver is usually embraced last by those who are closest to me. It always baffles me how I can get a perfect stranger to see something in their Natal Chart but someone close to me takes so much longer. Why is that?

I remember when my astrologer (may God rest his soul) told me that I was a great cook. I said, "I don't know who's chart you're reading but it's not mine." He said, "You are a great cook, I would even say you are a chef. You just haven't tried it so you haven't learned this about you yet." Being a woman of science I needed to do a bit of empirical study on myself. As it turns out, I'm a fantabulous cook and it is truly amazing how I can take anything and turn it into a wonderfully delicious meal. "H" (Henrietta, a Virgo) can tell you that I really didn't know how to cook about seven years ago. I didn't even know that there was a drawer that pulled out in the bottom of the stove with a broiler in there. We laughed our guts out when I saw that. You see folks, it's hard to have a North Node Virgo (food, health and digestion) and a Cancer Rising (nurturing, family, cook) and not be a gourmet chef. Some people don't have to go to culinary school because it isn't necessary. It wasn't necessary for Rachel Ray and it wouldn't be necessary for me either. It's a gift! The minute I started cooking it became ridiculously natural for me. The gift of cooking would not manifest until I was ready to embrace it. When I did, then it revealed itself to me. Ah... the wonderful word of choice.

This is similar to another friend of mine who I kept pushing her to live in a certain area of the country. Every so often I would tell her again how a certain area would be great for her. She finally moved to the area I was talking about and it has made a world of difference for her personally and professionally. In her own time it was going to happen because it was the hand she was dealt. The opportunity was always sitting there just waiting for her to embrace it. Folks, I don't make this stuff up, IT IS in your Natal Chart.

I challenge all of you to read your Natal Chart again and highlight all of the wonderful things that it says you are great at and then start playing it UP, especially if you have never done it before. Folks, the easiest way for you to see how well your Life is working is being honest with yourself when something isn't working. Your Natal Chart tells you all kinds of things you are Good at so why spend your time focused on what is difficult. If it is difficult, then why keep doing it? Don't make me say, "Told ya' so."

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley
AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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ONE HAND IN MY POCKET

[Posted 4:15 PM EDT - Monday afternoon, 5/19/2008]
Read the last daily message, Terms of Endearment.

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

This morning I woke up to the strangest DLG (Download from God). Most of us know what it's like to wake up anxious, worried, uneasy, fearful, apprehensive, vexed or even tormented. Well this morning I woke up feeling anxious. Last week I spent four days at my daughter Karmen's house due to her pinning ceremony for nursing school and my grandson Big Tree's fifth birthday. There was so much action that I decided to stay for a few days rather than go back and forth. The same thing happened this weekend because her graduation from nursing school was Saturday, my parents were in town and then there was her party in the afternoon. It was a busy weekend, so I decided to stay through the weekend until this morning. By the time I arrived home and was putting my key into the door I was in full-blown Miss Cranky Pants but at the same time I was finally understanding my morning DLG.


What it all comes down to
Is that everything's gonna be fine fine fine
I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is giving a high five

This DLG was really odd because my right ear was hearing one thing and my left ear was hearing something else. Naturally I've heard two things at once before but this was clearly different. My right ear was listening to Alanis Morrisette sing "Hand In My Pocket" and my left ear was listening to Crow Medicine caw. The Crow Medicine wasn't outside, it was in my head just like Alanis Morrisette. These DLGs are only audible to me since I am clairaudient, but when it comes to Animal Medicine I'm usually watching Crow Medicine visit me outside instead of hearing it without seeing it.

What it all comes down to
Is that everything's gonna be quite alright
I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is flicking a cigarette

Crow Medicine visits me quite often and I consider it part of my totem because Crow Medicine is a shape shifter that can be found in two places at once. This is the message that he came to remind me of today. I too am a shape shifter and can be found in two places at once. No matter where I am at any given time, I am also found somewhere else. I can be found on all four of my websites, in my book, in the TYS e-Course, on the phone, in a radio broadcast or in an e-mail all at the same time. No matter where you look for me, there I am. And I still think I am one of the easiest people on the planet to contact.

What it all comes down to
Is that I haven't got it all figured out just yet
I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is giving the peace sign

It hadn't dawned on me until I put the key in my door what the song "Hand In My Pocket" and Crow Medicine had in common and what that had to do with me. I woke up anxious about the websites because I hadn't updated and knew I had a lot of catching up to do and sometimes this can stimulate even more e-mails. (winky wink) All of the sudden when I understood both messages, the song and the crow cawing, my entire body simply relaxed. I got it. I realized that I'm already in more than two places at once 24 hours a day, 365 days a year and while I'm doing this, I can do something else too and it's going to have to be enough.

And what it all boils down to
Is that no one's really got it figured out just yet
I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is playing the piano

In between the chorus paragraphs in this song, Alanis sings about the everyday troubles that she experiences. At the same time, she finds a great way to relax with one hand in her pocket and remains determined to go on about her day and do her own thing. Folks, I absolutely Love my work and it is a rare occasion that I would wake up feeling anxious about it. I'm just grateful that God always seems to provide me with the easiest way to screw my head back on straight through these wonderful musical DLGs.

What it all comes down to my friends
Is that everything's just fine fine fine
I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is hailing a taxicab...

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley
AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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TERMS OF ENDEARMENT

[Posted 7:00 PM EDT - Thursday evening, 5/15/2008]

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

This morning my musical DLG (Download from God) was Sweet Child O' Mine by Guns n' Roses. Sheryl Crow did a really great remake of this song in 1999, which was ten years after Guns n' Roses original version but I still lean toward the original because that's just how I roll. I'll take a more metal sound over a pop tune anyday. So there I laid listening to Axl Rose (the lead singer) belt out this moving and passionate song . . . "Whoa oh oh oh-uh, Sweet Child O' Mine, ooooh yah hah, ooooooh Sweet Love of Mine."

I'm one of those people who will "sweetie, honey, babe" a perfect stranger, so you can imagine how much I would "sweetie, honey, babe" my own child or grandchild. Now I realize that terms of endearment aren't for everyone and I mean no disrespect but I can explain myself. I grew up one of six silly children and we were all raised with terms of endearment and cuddly loving nicknames. Now that we are older, our children and grandchildren are also raised with terms of endearment. Taken one step further, you can only imagine how a term of endearment can morph into a full-blown phrase of endearment when it comes to someone that me or one of my siblings Love romantically. Oh we are all great at laying on the pet names.

Folks, I'll be the last person on earth to get upset if a man calls me "babe" or "sweetie". I'm just like that and I don't feel like it sets women back 100 years if I allow it. If it takes one "babe" or "sweetie" comment to set women back in time even one day, then believe me, women wouldn't have made any strides at all if that's all it took. Please! I'm quite comfortable in who I am and a "babe" or "sweetie" comment from a man doesn't make me less of a woman, nor does it make me a woman. It just doesn't offend me. I wouldn't take it as condescending unless of course it is delivered in that tone, even then I can't see it overpowering me. Since I was raised with terms of endearment then naturally my word association would be different than someone who didn't experience it.

So after "Sweet Child O' Mine" turned off in my head, I got up and went through my usual routine. When I finally signed on to my computer and checked the headlines I saw that Barack Obama was in the news for calling a female reporter sweetie. When asked, "Senator, how are you going to help the American autoworker?" He responded with, "Hold on one second sweetie, we're going to do a . . uh . . press on that." Then he turned away from her smiling and walked on with a light chuckle, which influenced a chuckle from the other men who were escorting him around the plant. Hmmmmmmmm, I wondered why this bothered me when I pass out terms of endearment like candy on Halloween.

Was it the chuckling or the failure to give a few extra seconds of attention when that term of endearment was being used? Actually, I think it was both the chuckling and the lack of personal attention when using that term of endearment that rubbed me the wrong way. I'm probably more affectionate than the average person but there was something in this delivery that I just didn't like. The great thing about this whole scene is that it caused me to look at my own terms of endearment and how and when I use them, especially when in a professional atmosphere. Folks, no kidding, I will drop the "sweetie, honey, babe" bomb anywhere. I was just raised with these affectionate words (and more) and not curse words. I never thought of them as being out of place. My eyes were opened this morning when I saw a term of endearment delivered without personal attention. It just made all the difference in the world. Still, I get now that some people find it condescending or they just flat out don't like it. Okay. And just for the record, if I "sweetie, honey or babe" you and it rubs you the wrong way, just tell me.

Being fairly involved at church I experience a lot of opportunities to chat one on one with the Monsignor or the Bishop. One day before Mass I was having a conversation with the Bishop and I called him, "Babe". I was certain that I was going to just topple over in embarrassment. As my open palms covered my rosey cheeks I said, "Oh my Goodness! I'm so sorry Bishop. I can't believe I just called you that." He said, "That's okay Loretta. It was worth it just to see your face turn so red."

YOUR ANIMAL MEDICINE INSTINCT IS BEING UPDATED! Over on my Native American Animal Medicine you will see a gray box in the left top corner that says, "Animal Medicine Instinct Through The Signs". You will be able to go to this page every single day and grab your Animal Medicine Instinct for the day. Just look up your sun sign and you are Good to go! Rah-hoooooooo! I'll also be adding more animals this week.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

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AND BINGO WAS HIS NAME-OH!

[Posted 3:15 PM EDT - Tuesday afternoon, 5/13/2008]

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

About a month ago a new neighbor moved into the building who had the cutest little Pug dog. I mean this dog is THE absolute cutest dog I have ever seen. But there was one major problem, when the owner would leave for work in the morning the dog would cry, scream and bark for hours on end. Folks, this is no exaggeration. It would literally cry, scream and bark non-stop for at least four hours at a time. I told the owner about the dog and was told the dog would stop after ten minutes, to which I said, "Well, no it doesn't." Not only had I left a note on the door several times, five other tenants in the building had left a note on the door as well. I spoke with the owner of the building on three separate occasions and was told the owner of the dog was very unreasonable. This frustrated me even more because I felt the dog was in control of the entire building and had more rights than I did as a human being and as a tenant. Now this is where I draw the line on animals and side with Cesar Millan (The Dog Whisperer) on the National Geographic channel. A dog is a dog and human being is human being. To treat one like a human being and the other like a dog is simply proposterous! I was starting to feel like a caged animal. I don't dislike dogs at all. What I dislike is irresponsible dog owners who lack the sensitivity to take care of their pets or feel it is okay to force them on those of us who aren't dog owners . . . just as I dislike irresponsible parents.

For about two solid weeks the relationship with my neighbor became severely strained. I was definitely in a state of unhappiness. Now folks, if you have been visiting this website long enough and you have been reading my Daily Messages long enough, then you know that I am clearly focused on being happy. I believe my happiness is my choice and not anyone else's. I looked at the meaning of Dog Medicine (loyalty, service and companionship) and what this Medicine meant for me. Why was this Dog Medicine screaming, crying and barking so loudly that it pierced by ears? What did I really need to hear? I kept mumbling to myself, "Okay, I hear you damn it! Shut the hell up!" I thought I was going to lose my mind because no one was working fast enough to do something about the screaming Dog Medicine. I felt like a relationship with this dog was being forced on me and the more it was being forced on me, the more I didn't want it. I knew Dog Medicine meant "companionship" but this was ridiculous! Further, being the one person in the building out of twelve tenants that was home all day long, I was the only one hearing every single piercing wail.

I am a person who enjoys my own company. I am a Gemini and I enjoy spending time with me and the other me. If a relationship happens, then it happens but I don't feel the need to force it into my Life. I just don't believe that a relationship that is meant to be, should be forced. That doesn't even make sense. Certainly relationships take work but being forced is just outrageous! If a relationship has to be forced, then that isn't a relationship that is meant to be. I used to force relationships because I was insecure and afraid of not being Loved but thank God I grew out of it (literally). And I don't feel lonely. If there is one thing I am certain of and that is I'm never alone. It's a God/Loretta thing . . . we have a history together. (winky wink)

So what did this Dog Medicine mean? As I sat in a shocking state of misery and sadness, it dawned on me that I had gone in the complete opposite direction when it came to relationships. I went from being completely dependent on a relationship to being completely independent of a relationship. Instead of needing someone, I didn't need anyone. Suddenly I understood what loyalty, service and companionship meant for me and relationships. Then all of the sudden I heard a confirmation DLG (Download from God) that said, "BINGO!" I laughed and sang outloud, "B.I.N.G.O., B.I.N.G.O., B.I.N.G.O., and BINGO WAS HE NAME-OH! So I got up and started changing my energy. I moved furniture around and created a space of duality instead of a space of singularity. That same day, the screaming pug dog stopped. Interesting, so it was me who needed to address the Dog Medicine and not the owner. Now as for relationships . . . I guess we'll just see what happens. (winky winky, kissy kissy)

YOUR ANIMAL MEDICINE INSTINCT IS UPDATED! Over on my Native American Animal Medicine you will see a gray box in the left top corner that says, "Animal Medicine Instinct Through The Signs". You will be able to go to this page every single day and grab your Animal Medicine Instinct for the day. Just look up your sun sign and you are Good to go! Rah-hoooooooo! I'll also be adding more animals this week.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

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THIS CAN'T BE HARD

[Posted 10:40 AM EDT - Wednesday morning, 5/07/2008]

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Well the last few days have been a little nutty to say the least, which is why you didn't see your daily horoscope posted yesterday or the "Animal Medicine Instinct" updated yesterday. This past Saturday on the Aries Moon I added "Animal Medicine Instinct" to the Native American Animal Medicine website. Well the next day (Sunday) I was all revved up and ready to work on the websites and get way ahead when all of the sudden I couldn't get into the program on my laptap for the Animal Medicine site. To make a long story short, after talking with several tech support people and allowing them remote access to my computer they had completely lost all of the drivers on my computer which makes it literally impossible to get online, much less plug in something as simple as the USB Port. All of the sudden I heared "Uh oh" on the other end of the line.

Folks, when I heard "Uh oh" I could just feel my emotional wires being tripped. I called tech support about not being allowed access into the website software, then after I allowed them remote access to my computer, now absolutely nothing on my computer was working. I hadn't lost any files and I could open them but I just couldn't do anything with them. Further, I couldn't even get online. My entire network connections box was a white screen. I was doing everything I could to say calm because I knew getting angry was not going to fix this. The more calm I tried to become, the more my body shook. Even if I cried, it wasn't going to fix it, so I was desperately trying to contain myself. I had been up at the coffee shop so by the time I packed up and went home my nerves were shot. Never in my Life have I ever been so emotionally contained but at the same time I was so emotional that it shook every square inch of my body. My knees were so weak that I honestly felt like I couldn't stand up. Actually I felt like a shaking volcano about to erupt . . but still I knew erupting was not going to fix this problem. It just wasn't and so containing all this energy was showing up physically in my body. Folks my body was shaking like a downed power line flopping around on the ground. Interestingly enough, Gemini rules the nervous system.

This was hardly the definition of a nervous breakdown because I was still able to function and had my mental wits and awareness. It was interesting to see how my body manifested externally the intensity of what I was feeling internally. There was absolutely no hiding what I was feeling. I tried to contain my emotions but they still managed to find a way out. Still, I knew that everything was going to be okay. Why wouldn't it be okay? This was not the end of the world and in order to calm myself I thought of other people. I also became increasingly grateful over other things in my Life. I started looking