[Posted 7:45 PM EDT - Monday evening, June 10, 2013]
WHY COMPLICATE THINGS?
'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]
Read the last Daily Message titled, The Earthbound Misfit
In reference to the Daily Horoscopes (on this date) I talked about how important it is to stay focused on the New Moon in Gemini for the next two weeks. New Moon's are important because they are the beginning of a new cycle for an entire year. In other words, there will not be another New Moon in Gemini until May 28, 2014. For this reason you must stay focused, organized and rational in your mental processing. The problem with this New Moon in Gemini is the curve ball from Mercury in Cancer squaring Uranus in Aries. Mercury rules communication and Cancer is the moody, sensitive and emotional Sun Sign. Uranus rules lightning, sudden changes and the unexpected and Aries is the rambunctious, aggressive and impulsive Sun Sign. The tough part about this New Moon in Gemini is trying to stay mentally focused in the midst of this curve ball. Since I had direct experience with this square this past weekend, of which I did throw out a big yellow caution flag to you in my writings, it dawned on me that this was a really great teaching moment.
Now keep in mind, you have Gemini somewhere in your Natal Chart, so keep that thought in the front of your mind when entertaining this New Moon in Gemini. This New Moon represents the master communicator of the zodiac, which is also the teacher. Gemini rules education, mental abilities and teaching of grades 1 through 12, which is precisely why Gemini prefers simplified ways of communication. We Gemini's do not like to talk over anyone's head, which means we do not like to make communication harder than it has to be. Why complicate things? As a Gemini, I talk, teach and communicate with the masses 365 days a year through this website. The exact square that occurred this past weekend with Mercury and Uranus turned what should have been two innocent communication exchanges into chaos and then it dove south just as quickly as it began. These two exchanges prompted this teaching moment so I can reiterate the best way to communicate with me.
I do believe that it is up to each one of us to teach others about ourselves thereby increasing our communication effort to a higher level of understanding. In other words, do not make others guess about you. First, it's lazy and unfair and second it's just bad communication. Be clear and if they still don't get it, then you can try, try again or just understand that you cannot please everyone. In my line of work I have learned and come to understand that there will be those who I just cannot seem to please, and I'm okay with that. The same is true for all of us, but it is through my work that I have learned this valuable lesson. I choose to put myself out there and dedicate myself to the work I do in order to help others. This is my choice, so I get to choose the rules for how I want to go about doing it. Sound a bit sarcastic? I don't intend for it be. I'm the one choosing this line of work and putting myself out there publically while honoring and respecting others privately, so it has to work for me in that simplified Gemini fashion. Still, that will not be Good enough for some individuals, and I'm okay with that. There will be those who want more from me or who have a complaint that I didn't respond or do something quite to their satisfaction. Maybe I didn't write something in the right tone for someone else. I'm okay with all of that. You see folks, I know that everyone has a Moon or South Node or Rising Sign or Mercury (communication) or some other planetary placement that might get rubbed the wrong way but that is their chart and their hand of cards to play. I just keep on keepin' on because I'm the one putting myself out there, doing the best I can, living out my Life's passion, not someone else's.
This leads me to the e-mail. I cannot stress enough how much I do not like e-mail. Invariably I will receive an e-mail or a private Facebook message that says, "I know you don't like e-mail but . . . " Arrrrgggh! There are several reasons why I do not like e-mail coupled with the work I do. First, there is no tone to e-mail, which leaves the tone of the e-mail subject to 'any' interpretation. To communicate these days in an e-mail you have to use all kinds of smile faces and emoticons to express yourself. It's just too much eggshell walking, which I can't stand. I'm a get 'er done type of gal who problem solves. You want an answer, then let's not dance around it and go straight for the jugular. That's me! Whether it is a private Facebook message or a regular ol' e-mail, I do see them as they come in. At that moment I may be busy with something, or someone else, and may not have the time to respond in that moment. After a period of time, more messages and e-mails come in and then there is a back log. I learned early on in about 2001 that when I answer an e-mail, there is a volley that begins. Back and forth, back and forth. By the time the person responds back to me, more e-mails have come in and I'm wondering what the original e-mail was all about because they didn't use a complete sentence or didn't sign the e-mail. Then I have to sift through e-mails and piece the conversation back together. I choose not to use my time that way, which is why I always say . . . "Pick up the phone and call me. If I answer, you have not interrupted me. If I don't answer, leave a message I'll call you back." It's pretty cut and dry in my world.
For instance -- someone might e-mail and ask a health question that leaves out some information I need. So I would e-mail back and ask, "Are you male or female? How old are you?" Doctors do need this information because there certain things that only affect males or females above or below a certain age. The individual responds back the next day and says, "Pat, 40." Between their first e-mail and second e-mail, I may have had 200 more e-mails come through. I see that e-mail and think to myself, "Who is this and why they emailing me something that just says, 'Pat, 40'" and I still don't know if they are male or female. Aaarrgghhhhhhhh! And so the volley begins. I choose not to participate in the volley and prefer the route of quick communication called the telephone. BAM! Talk about quick communication. What an invention! It's also nice to hear great phone etiquette on the other end. "This is so and so calling from so and so" . . . before introducing the subject matter. It's just the nice thing to do. This weekend I picked up the phone identifying myself saying, "This is Dr. Standley" and heard back a comment that was accompanied by a racial slur. The individual was really calling just to tell me that I misspelled a word and left out another word in the Daily Horoscopes. Now folks, I REALLY REALLY appreciate those phones and have come to get to know a lot of you on the phone because you call me. Well I couldn't get past the racial comment and my response was, "Who is this!?!?" It was interesting that this person calling not only had super bad phone etiquette, they were culturally rude! The other instance was an individual became upset with me on Facebook because I did not respond to the private Facebook message they sent but yet they could see me communicating in posts with other people, which ended up making the individual very angry. This person thought that because they had ordered something from me two years ago (August 2011), then I would automatically remember their name right off the bat. Well I didn't. Can you imagine how many people I have interacted with between August 2011 and now? BAM! That initiated an immediate e-mail exchange. The first e-mail from the individual was rude, angry and accusatory. The second e-mail from the individual involved a lot of capital letters and exclamation points. When I saw all of the capital letters I immediately followed my own advice that I had given to you. I deleted the e-mail without reading it and went on to block all further connections. I don't need that! I'm just doing my best to do Good and have no intention on purposefully doing something to upset another person. That was just weird. DELETE! The other individual who called, I also followed my own advice and said, "I need to get off the phone now because I can't get passed that racial comment." We both hung up agitated and aggravated. Racial comments about any culture in my world will never be tolerated. You can't even joke about it with me because I do not allow it.
Honestly folks, the amount of people I interact with is just astronomical and if I need a few moments to connect the dots, please just give me those seconds to make the connection. And when you call, I do like to know who is calling. Both of these situations could have been avoided with proper communication and less emotion but they weren't. But look, you get the benefit of hearing examples of how this energy quickly turned and got ugly. Told ya' so! (winky wink) Some of you I have had so many quick conversations with that I know your voice before you say, "Hello" and like that personal connection. I couldn't link your name and e-mail address together to save my Life but I know your voice. When I'm responding to Facebook postings, it is a very quick way to communicate with the masses so everyone gets the benefit. When it gets personal, then I prefer the phone route and not a volley back and forth about your personal business. I don't have time for the e-mail volley but I do have time to listen to your voice. That's just me and it's what works best for me. Folks, it needs to work for me so I can handle the volume. Remember, I'm a North Node Virgo, which means I'm in-service in this Lifetime. I cannot please everyone so I don't try to. I do what I can, when I can, as I can. E-mails and private Facebook messages get lost in the shuffle and lost in translation. Honestly folks, I'd rather not engage in it and no one will ever convince me that a volleying of e-mails is faster than a Good ol' fashion phone call.
One last thing - please refrain from taking it personal if I cannot remember a previous conversation or reading that we had. In the work that I do, the amount of people that I have communication with in one day is staggering and I have to let it all leave my brain so I can keep a clear head. If we have spoken before, if you could just give me a brief refresher that would be great. Thanks for reading.
Denadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]
"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley
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