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ARCHIVED DAILY MESSAGES
FROM DR. STANDLEY
JUNE 2007

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YOUR HIDDEN TALENTS

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

During the first meeting with my astrologer (may God rest his soul) I remember him telling me that I was a great cook. In fact, he thought I was more like a chef. I recall thinking, "I drove four and a half hours for you to tell me something that isn't true!" Certainly, I had my simplistic signature dishes and believe me, they were nothing that would win me first place at the county fair. I could bake any meat in aluminum foil, toss in some vegetables and I was done. And he was trying to tell me what a fantabulous chef I was. Everything I cooked was at 400 degrees. It was all the same to me and the clean-up was easy peasy.

One day I was having dinner with my friend "H" (Henrietta) when she made this mouth watering salmon. I mean, that girl can cook anything in 20 minutes! You see Virgo rules food and health and "H" is a Virgo. When "H" moved from St. Louis I called her for the recipe because I was desperate to taste that salmon again. I was determined to bring out the "chef" in me that was supposed to be in my Natal Chart.

From that day forward, it is almost as if a light switch went on and suddenly I was "a chef". My salmon dish will bring mouth-watering tears to your eyes. I had no idea that this ability lurked inside me even though my Natal Chart clearly said that it did. Folks, it is the most amazing thing. Now I'm a fancy schmancey chef. I can watch cooking shows without writing down the recipe and then remember the recipe when the spirit moves me. I have a knack for spices that I never knew was there. Not only am I a North Node Virgo but being that I am a Cancer Rising, this brings out my nurturing side because Cancer rules home and family and this shows up for me in the area of cooking. But, for some bizarre reason boiling eggs is a problem for me. In fact, on my birthday my son-in-law Larry gave me instructions on how to boil eggs because on Thanksgiving last year I mangled three dozen eggs and still didn't get one decent egg out of it. No kidding, it really was three dozen. I thought it was hilarious but then again I have such a "raw" sense of humor. (Pun intended) So needless to say my deviled eggs looked hideous but they sure were delicious!

When I first had my Natal Chart written and the Natal Chart said that broadcasting was a heavy influence, again I thought this was just a bunch of hooey! There were many things that were a strong influence in my Natal Chart but at that point in my Life I was still in rebellion hellion mode. I suppose I still am to some extent but at least now I am paying attention to the signs. Folks, try something new in your Natal Chart. You may look at parts of the Natal Chart and say that's not me . . well you're absolutely right and it won't be until you try it.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Love On The Brain. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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LOVE ON THE BRAIN

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Love seems to be on the brain of a lot of people right now as Venus (Love and beauty) sits in Leo (romance, intimacy and dating). As humans we have this pattern of holding on to Love that is not there or chasing Love that is no longer there. I think we are in Love with a man/woman because of the way they make us feel or for the way they made us feel at one time in our Life. Sometimes when Love is gone, we hold on to the memory of how we felt when we were "In Love," and we long for that kiss, touch and intimacy once again. This is particularly true if a "Love" no longer makes us feel Good about ourselves, but we stay in it just longing to "get back that Lovin' feelin'."

This reminds me of Persephone in the movie Matrix Reloaded. Persephone offers to help Neo and the others, but not before he passionately kisses her like he means it (so that she can once again feel passion). When she pulls away from Neo her eyes are still closed, her mouth is still a bit open and you can sense her breathing and pounding heart. Then she says, "Ahh, yes. That's it." with her sexy accent and full luscious lips.

When Love loses its passion and intensity, I am convinced that is what we are aching for . . . the passion and closeness we once knew. We want a repeat performance. We want to feel THAT way again. Ah, there is nothing like the stimulation of a first kiss. The anger that can set in between two people when the passion is lost can be unbearable and frankly I don't understand how two people can co-exist in anger and call that Love, much less a relationship. The Merovingian in the Matrix Reloaded said, "It is remarkable how similar the pattern of Love is to the pattern of insanity." Love does tend to make us a bit insane.

Here's a news flash folks -- anger will not win you back passion. I have said it before and I will say it again, "Anger is not Love!" It is everything but Love. If you think treating someone harshly will help your relationship grow stronger and more in Love, guess again. In fact, it will push them further away. I was chatting with a client once who had done something very sneaky and hurtful to his girlfriend and he was having a hard time winning her back over. I told him that he had revealed a very ugly side of himself to this woman and now she know's who he is and what he is capable of doing. He had proved this to her through his actions. I asked him, "Did that look like Love to you?". . . "Did you think you would look more attractive and appealing to her?" I was chatting with another man once when his cell phone rang and it was his wife. I could hear her voice and when he hung up I said, "She sounds nice." He said, "You know how you know when someone is pretending to be nice? She's fake! That's my wife! A fake!" Considering the topic we had been discussing I said, "Well, it looks like the two of you were made for each other."

Two people who were made for each other
and two people who deserve each other
can show up in many different ways.

We have all been in relationships that were hurtful and taught us some serious lessons in Love and I do believe that you should be clear on what Love looks like to you because you will attract your equal. Granted some enablers will attract a Love with a chemical dependency, a gambling addiction or a cheating addiction. On some level there is equality that is taking place in order to keep the relationship going and until they have resolved why this had to happen, the relationship will probably continue as is. These relationships take place in order to learn from a pattern they experienced in childhood so that they can clear it as an adult. Yowza!

Ask yourself, "Am I the person that I want to attract?"

When someone is in between relationships I always try to encourage them to stay unattached for at least 90 days or until there is a better planetary placement for Love to take place. I often ask those recently unattached if who they are right now is who they want to offer a new Mr. or Miss Wonderful because you will definitely attract who you are. Folks, there is no better place to be than unattached for a reasonable period of time after a break-up. In this way you can bump yourself up to a new level of attraction and again, you will attract who you are. You need to give yourself enough time to evaluate your pattern in relationships so that you can break your own cycle of dependence.

Persephone also said to Neo and Trinity, "You love her. She loves you. It's all over you both." Certainly relationships go through all kinds of challenges but Love should still show up as Love and if it is Love it will be written all over not just one of you . . . but BOTH of you. "Ahh, yes. That's it.


"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Work That North Node. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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Work that North Node
Work it baby, Work it!

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

The pic below is of me and my brother Sam preparing to parasail about a week and a half ago in Tampa, Florida. By the way, Sam is my Astro-Twin, meaning we are like twins without actually being twins. Even though we are both Gemini's born 360 days apart we are nearly the same person.

I cannot believe that I am revealing a picture of me without having my eyebrows all dolled up. I am an eyebrow fanatic. I won't even take out the trash without having my eyebrows absolutely perfect. Don't think I'm kidding for a second. When my daughter Karmen reads this Daily Message she will absolutely not believe that I posted the picture below. Awe, maybe I'm all grown up now. Gees, I hope not! If I were stranded on a deserted island and could only have one thing with me, it would be my eyebrow powder and its cute little itty bitty brush. Alright already . . AND the eyelash curler but that's it . . . okay, some lip gloss too and I could probably live without food.

All I'm saying is that we are who we are and I cannot stress how important it is for you to pay attention to your North Node. As I said yesterday, I am a North Node Virgo which is THE MOST perfectionistic, nit-picky and dare I say, "Nag!" of the zodiac. My North Node in Virgo can beat anyone's five planets in Virgo. THAT is how strong your North Node is in your Natal Chart. It may not beat a full-blown Virgo but it comes in a pretty tight second.

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Take your North Node and look at the house that it naturally rules. For myself, Virgo rules the 6th house and the chart says:

"This house rules the solar plexus (midriff), bowels, colon, intestines and abdomen.

The Sixth House is about day to day life. This house also rules daily life, health, hygiene, food, work, employees, service, skills, servants, small animals, clothing and sickness. It is about the service you give and your habits. Other keywords include: daily routine, working environment, skills, pets, animals and service.

This house is very concerned with being in service to others. The matters concerned here revolve around work and health. Any duties, mundane tasks and practical responsibilities are the concerns of this house. Also relations with employees and coworkers, as well as, your degree of health and fitness will be revealed here."

Folks, when I had my women's clinic I did colonic irrigations. I did it BECAUSE colons are ruled by Virgo. I specialized more in abdominal, bowel and gastro-intestinal disorders on purpose because Virgo rules these areas. I write a DAILY MESSAGE because it is daily routine. Daily routine is ruled by Virgo. I also write DAILY HOROSCOPES because it is daily routine. The radio show is DAILY ROUTINE. I workout everyday because it is DAILY ROUTINE. And because Virgo is the perfectionistic sign, then I am naturally a perfectionist when it comes to health, hygiene and taking care of the body. I am completely addicted to bath, body and hygiene products. I like eye creams, face creams, throat creams and body creams. LOVE 'EM! I could lose my mind in the bath and body section of a store. I want it all!

Folks, all I'm saying is that the North Node is so easy for you that it is just unfathomable. And son-of-a-gun if there are some people who think they can solve their South Node. YOU CAN'T! The South Node is the direct opposite of your North Node. It's a drain folks. It is the hole in your chart, so you can dump as much energy as you want into it and you still get a big ol' nothin'. If you cannot get a Natal Chart right now, then just e-mail me with your birth information and I'll tell you what you North Node is and give you a swift kick in the pants! I'm about RESULTS!

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Love In Your Natal Chart. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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The Influence of the Scorpio Moon

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

FIRST, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY SON-IN-LAW LARRY! I'm just tickled that my daughter Karmen (Leo) is married to a Cancer man because they are a perfect fit for each other's Natal Chart.

I went out yesterday to get Larry's birthday present but remembered the Moon was in Scorpio! Remember, you never make a purchase when the Moon is in Scorpio because the passion and intensity that you feel under this lunar influence will be gone once this Scorpio Moon passes. This is why customer satisfaction will be low if purchases are made under this influence and you will more than likely buy a lemon. Interestingly enough, I have been itching to finally buy a car. It's been six years now that I haven't had a car and I'm finally feeling the desire. Sometimes it's just a fleeting moment but then when I go out of town and rent a car, I think "Wow, this sure is nice!" Well yesterday, I was loafin' and all I wanted to do was go look at cars. Actually I'm a SUV/truck style type of gal. I mean I was really wanting to buy a SUV/truck yesterday but remembered the Scorpio Moon. I have finally decided that I would wait until Mercury leaves its retrograde motion on July 10, 2007 before I make the purchase and just tend to the old business on my plate. Living in the city and the neighborhood that I live, it's just not a problem moving about on the bicycle.

Due to the strong influence of the Scorpio Moon with surgery and shopping, I will start posting next month's Scorpio Moon in the gray box on this page. There is a link that gives you more information on the influence of this moon in the gray box. The deal with surgery is that the healing time is typically slower and there are usually complications under this lunar influence, unless of course you have a Scorpio surgeon. This is because Scorpio rules all surgery, which is why Scorpio makes the best surgeons hands down. Although if you are having a knee replacement, need a chiropractor or dental work, then Capricorn rules the bones and teeth and Capricorn makes excellent orthropedic surgeons, chiropractors and dentists. My brother is a Capricorn and a phenomenal dentist and does dental reconstruction. Some people can pooh-pooh astrology all they want but as my astrologer always said, "The chart doesn't lie, only the mouth lies." The absolute best placement for a doctor is a North Node Virgo because Virgo rules all health. And me? . . . I am a North Node Virgo with a strong Capricorn chart. Folks, we are what we are and we just can't get away from us. (winky wink) You are more your Natal Chart than you may realize.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Love In Your Natal Chart. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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ART IMITATING LIFE

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

On Friday I was chatting with Christine (Aquarius) when she said that she was going to the opera that evening to see "I Puritani" (The Puritans). I told her I was going to the opera too but it was the "La Traviata" performance that evening and not "I Puritani". The more we talked about the two operas the more we laughed and became more confused as to what we were seeing. I knew that in this particular set of four opera's I was going to miss one so imagine my surprise when I double-checked and found I was going to see "I Puritani" and I had missed "La Traviata". I found this rather interesting because they have two very different endings. "La Traviata" is a tragedy and "I Puritani" ends happily-ever-after.

Hmmmmm . . . I expected the evening to end in tragedy and it ended up happily-ever-after.

I'm a thinker folks, after all, the Gemini motto is, "I think therefore I am." I'm still mentating and wondering why I had to see the happily-ever-after ending because opera's normally don't end that way. Someone usually dies miserably of tuberculosis (aka consumption) all broken-hearted or they commit suicide. Pretty dramatic don'tcha think? In an opera there is typically a "miserable" Love triangle where someone is forced to marry someone they do not Love or they are forced to stay married to someone they do not Love, all the while they are intensely and passionately in Love with someone else. The misery of that has to be staggering. While opera's may seem a bit over the top, when it comes to Love, they are truly art imitating Life. The question mark remains, why did "I" need to see that ending and why did I need to tell you about it?

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Love In Your Natal Chart. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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LOVE IN YOUR NATAL CHART

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

I'm finally back home after a surprising change of plans that kept me on the road an extra five days. And I'm back just in time to use my opera ticket tonight. Tonight's opera is "La Traviata," which literally means "The Woman Who Strayed." This is a highly acclaimed opera set in Paris that has one of those powerful endings similar to "Romeo and Juliet." My favorite line from Romeo and Juliet is in the beginning while they are dancing Romeo says to Juliet, "Well, then, dear saint, let lips do what hands do." [Oh that line gets me every time.] Even though I may have had two marriages in my early 20's, I have to say that I lean toward crazy-inconvenient-breathless-intense-passionate-can't-live-without-you, Love. It's going to be one of those night's at the opera. oooh---I can't wait! And I'll get to use one of my fancy-schmancey hand embroidered handkerchiefs when my emotional Cancer Rising comes to Life.

Folks, it is vitally important for your self-survival to become very familiar with who you are and how you express Love, which you can easily find in your Natal Chart. Even though I am an emotional Cancer Rising, my cold Capricorn Moon can sober up my emotions very quickly so that I don't lose my mind over Love. This is also why I would never drive by an old flame's house, call and hang up, beg someone to take me back, stalk someone or go to a place that we use to go to together to catch a glimpse. ABSOLUTELY NO WAY! This is where my healthy ego comes in pretty handy. It's called Leo on the 2nd house cusp of "self-worth." Thank God that is the house of my Leo pride. (winky wink) . . . I'm more like, "Never let 'em see you sweat (hurt)."

I am absolutely bewildered by those who are in Love with someone who is not showing Love to them. I often ask during readings, "Why do you Love him/her if he/she is treating you this way? Why would you Love that?" I may have a cold Capricorn Moon but I have been there too folks. I know that it doesn't feel Good but the question needs to be asked. It is very painful but gratefully there are points in your Natal Chart that you can use to help you through Love, especially when you are Love-sick. There is a whole generation of us who have Neptune in Scorpio and mine sits right smack dab in the middle of my 5th house of intimacy, dating and pleasurable activities. Neptune is the "illusional" planet, so I can really get wrapped up in the illusion of what I think is going on when it really isn't. I can sit in romantic la-la land, which is why I enjoy romantic, over-the-top, Love-sick opera's like "Romeo and Juliet." Oh -- it's so nice to have a Capricorn Moon to snap me out of it.

Make certain you are aware of these chart points to help you through your Love-sickness:

  • The Sun, Mars and 7th house cusp in a woman's chart will describe her perfect mate.
  • The Moon, Venus and 7th house cusp in a man's chart will describe his perfect mate.
  • It's also important to be very familiar with you own Moon so that you understand your emotions.
  • The 5th house describes dating, intimacy and pleasurable activities. It's the house of romance and relationships that are not a "contractual union". How are you at dating?
  • The 7th house describes contractual relationships such as marriages and business partnerships or any relationship that can be held up in the court of law.
  • If you are living with your romantic partner and not married, your relationship falls under the 7th house. The Universe does not need a piece of paper (contract), only humans do. Hmmmm . . Oprah (Aquarius) is on to something here with her romantic partner Stedman Graham (Pisces). Oprah has Pisces on her 7th house cusp. Interesting huh?
  • It's just as important to be familiar with your 5th house as it is your 7th house.

If I wrote your Natal Chart, study the section called, "Background Information" and become more diligent about working this area of your Natal Chart. Use the influence of Mercury Retrograde through July 10, 2007 to take care of this old business and enjoy getting to know yourself better.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, The Sun Moves Into Cancer. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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THE SUN MOVES INTO CANCER

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

GREETINGS FROM CHEROKEE, NORTH CAROLINA! As soon as I finish writing this daily message Karmen, Big Tree (my grandson) and I will be leaving the reservation and heading back to St. Louis. All Natal Charts ordered after 10:00 AM EDT (Eastern Daylight Time) will still be written and e-mailed within 24 hours. Since I will be traveling for 10 hours today, more than likely I will write all Natal Charts tomorrow morning when my brain is fresh and rested.

As a side note, the Sun will move into Cancer (home and family) at 1:54 PM EDT. Make certain you read your monthly horoscope to see how this effects your sign. Remember, the Sun is where you shine. To see how this impacts you personally rather than as an entire population of people under one particular sign, look at your Natal Chart and see which house is ruled by Cancer. Since I am a Cancer Rising (1st house), with most of my Cancer degrees in my 12th house, the Sun in Cancer will first move through my 12th house and then hit my 1st house. You can tell if you have some Cancer energy in the previous house just by looking at the degrees of your house cusp because a house cusp will only go to 29 degrees. Unless you have a house cusp that begins at 0 degrees, then you will have some of that signs energy in the previous house. Therefore, for me personally, the Sun will be shining most of the time in my 12th house of the hidden realm. And for us Gemini's as an entire population, it will shine in our 2nd house of value systems and self-worth.

Well folks, after we stop and say, "Denadagohvyu" ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee] to our kin on the way up the road, I will catch up with you tomorrow and carry on as usual.

Again, if I wrote your Natal Chart, study the section called, "Background Information" and become more diligent about working this area of your Natal Chart. Use the influence of Mercury Retrograde through July 10, 2007 to take care of this old business and enjoy getting to know yourself better. By the way, I will still have all Natal Charts written and e-mailed within 24 hours from the time you ordered, even while traveling. As far as phone calls, you know the drill by now, just leave a message and I will return your call. Please remember to leave your time zone or I could be calling back when you are in bed. eeeeeek!

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, I'm Still On The Rez. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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I'M STILL ON THE REZ!

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

GREETINGS FROM CHEROKEE, NORTH CAROLINA! Hi'ya folks! Sorry for the long delay in postings this morning. Last night my non-stop talking Aunt Jackie kept me and my daughter Karmen up late last night, so she's my excuse today for posting daily horoscopes and the daily message late. I can't stand excuses but I'm going to use one today anyway and own that it is just an excuse and that's about it.

There is so much to say and so little time. We have so much fun here because much of the family lives on two main roads and I mean it is only family. Across the road from my mom and dad lives my sister. Next to my sister lives my Aunt Joyce and my cousin Cynthia, then my cousin Curtis, next to him is my Uncle George and it just goes on and on. Karmen and I are having some serious bonding time. I mean seriously cool enlightening stuff. I will have to tell you all about it later because we have had some crazily beautiful tear-jerking bonding moments that are worthy of sharing with everyone else on the planet. In the meantime, Aunt Jackie is pulling my ear right now to head out for lunch so I'll be back later to answer more e-mails.

Again, if I wrote your Natal Chart, study the section called, "Background Information" and become more diligent about working this area of your Natal Chart. Use the influence of Mercury Retrograde through July 10, 2007 to take care of this old business and enjoy getting to know yourself better. By the way, I will still have all Natal Charts written and e-mailed within 24 hours from the time you ordered, even while traveling. As far as phone calls, you know the drill by now, just leave a message and I will return your call. Please remember to leave your time zone or I could be calling back when you are in bed. eeeeeek!

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Greetings from the Rez! Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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Greetings from the Rez!

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

GREETINGS FROM CHEROKEE, NORTH CAROLINA! Karmen, Big Tree (my grandson) and I arrived in Cherokee last night about 11:30 PM EDT. We had a fantabulous and smooth-sailing trip. Nearly my entire family on my mom's side lives here on the Cherokee Indian Reservation in Cherokee, North Carolina. As a side note, we are plunked down in the middle of the Great Smokey Mountains right now so I cannot receive any cell or Blackberry service here unless I head up the mountain a piece to Birdtown. Whenever I visit the reservation, I drive up the mountain to retrieve and return phone calls. If you have left a message, I will return your phone call some time today. Because this website is now over 3,000 pages not everyone will make their way over to this Daily Message to pick up a message, even if I place the link in the daily horoscope to drive visitors in this direction. It's just easier for me to make a point to return calls twice a day while here on the reservation so that I do not fall behind once I return home.

I realize that I have a ton of radio shows that I still need to post over on www.drstandleylive.com for June 2007. I do have these broadcasts complete and just need to transform them into an MP3 file and post them. For your FYI, the majority of the radio broadcasts for April 2007 and May 2007 are on NEW subject matter and chocked full of awareness and insight. Stop over and listen. Most shows are between 3 to 5 minutes. It is truly amazing how www.drstandleylive.com has come to Life and now has listeners from nearly 130 countries since January 1, 2007. Thanks for listening and sharing my websites with others.

As I wrote yesterday, if I wrote your Natal Chart, study the section called, "Background Information" and become more diligent about working this area of your Natal Chart. Use the influence of Mercury Retrograde through July 10, 2007 to take care of this old business and enjoy getting to know yourself better. By the way, I will still have all Natal Charts written and e-mailed within 24 hours from the time you ordered, even while traveling. As far as phone calls, you know the drill by now, just leave a message and I will return your call. Please remember to leave your time zone or I could be calling back when you are in bed. eeeeeek!

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Play UP Your Strengths - Part II. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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Play UP Your Strengths - Part II

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

GREETINGS FROM TAMPA, FLORIDA! Well I had planned to return home from Tampa yesterday (Sunday) and wouldn't you know with Mercury Retrograde there was a change in plans. Keep in mind that Mercury naturally rules Gemini's 3rd house of communication, short distance travel within your own country and siblings. Mercury also naturally rules Virgo's 6th house of organization, work ethic, health, fitness, hygiene and daily routine. Here's how this Gemini with a North Node in Virgo handles Mercury Retrograde . . . when there is a change in plans . . . I certainly don't fight it, I go with it!

My daughter Karmen and I decided to throw caution to the wind and drive back to St. Louis by way of Cherokee, North Carolina to visit family. I mean why fly 3 hours non-stop when you can drive 10 hours to Cherokee, North Carolina and then 10 hours from Cherokee back to St. Louis, Missouri? What's 17 more hours out of our way and out of our Life to experience and enjoy more time together. It makes sense to us. (winky wink) And why not do it with a 4 year old boy, my grandson "Big Tree". Since Karmen's husband Larry stayed back in St. Louis due to work, we will be making a pit-stop in Clearwater, Florida to visit Larry's kin and then we'll just mosey on up to Cherokee for a couple of days to visit the rest of the clan.

Remember, I am a mobile communicative Gemini and short distance travel is just part of my nature. When I travel, typically I write Natal Charts in the mornings and evenings. As I just completed another day of charting, I want to remind all of you again who I have written Natal Charts for to pay close attention to the section in your Natal Chart called, "Background Information". This section tells the houses and sections of your Natal Chart that are your strengths. Folks, if you want to know what to focus on, then focus on these areas of your Natal Chart. This is why working on the run (or should I say driving or flying) works so well for me because I play UP my strengths. It may not work for someone else but it definitely works for me. I can't imagine it any other way.

The 12th house is one of three houses in my Natal Chart where I happen to be strong. It is also the house that typically scares the pants off most people because it is the hidden realm, subconscious, past, pain, unredeemed karma, self-undoing and skeletons in the closet. No one ever really sees me because I operate from the hidden realm and I also help others in these same areas of their Life. Okay, once in a while I venture out for seminars and workshops, but I am most comfortable as my own shadow working behind the rice paper or hanging out with people that I know very well such as family and very close friends. Therefore I communicate with you through this website, through e-mail, my TYS e-Course, my book or through the phone lines. While on the road I will be communicating through my Blackberry. When it comes to my work, everything that I do comes from the hidden realm, including my internet radio broadcast. No one ever really sees me behind the microphone either. This is one reason why I would never do television. Television is not the hidden realm therefore it would not be my strength.

Again, if I wrote your Natal Chart study the section called, "Background Information" and become more diligent about working this area of your Natal Chart. Use the influence of Mercury Retrograde through July 10, 2007 to take care of this old business and enjoy getting to know yourself better. By the way, I will still have all Natal Charts written and e-mailed within 24 hours from the time you ordered, even while traveling. As far as phone calls, you know the drill by now, just leave a message and I will return your call. Please remember to leave your time zone or I could be calling back when you are in bed. eeeeeek!

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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Play UP Your Strengths

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

GREETINGS FROM TAMPA, FLORIDA! I LOVE THE BEACH! What a joy it was to see my daughter Karmen and grandson Big Tree play in the Ocean (actually the Gulf of Mexico) for the first time together. We arrived in Tampa separately and met up in the water. When Big Tree saw me it was the absolute coolest thing. He was jumping up and down in the water yelling, "Granny!" as I ran across the beach throwing off my top and shorts, kicking off my shoes leaving everything scattered as I ran up and dropped next to him in the water. After he knocked me over with a BIG TREE HUG we rolled around in 6 inches of water and laughed hysterically. It was one of those slow-motion made for the movies Love moments.

My brother Sam (Gemini) and I (Gemini) are the adventurous-stunt siblings of the family, and I had just returned from parasailing with Sam, which was 10 times better than any other time I had gone parasailing. My Natal Chart reveals that I am WATER STRONG and AIR STRONG. So water and air combined is right up my alley. We are all down here in Tampa, Florida for my niece's wedding (Sam's daughter Andrea). I am part of the wedding party and I had not realized how busy I would be with all the wedding to-do's.

After all of e-mails I have been answering this morning with regard to Mercury Retrograde which began yesterday at 7:35 PM and ends July 10, 2007 I want to remind you all of a few things. If I have written a Natal Chart for you, there is a section called "BACKGROUND INFORMATION" that describes all of your strengths. Folks, this is where you should really be playing up those strengths while also being fully aware of your weaknesses. Print out this section of your chart and high-light the areas that you know need special attention if you have not tapped these areas for strength. I cannot tell you how important this section is for your growth and development.

During Mercury Retrograde is typically where I push myself to complete an incomplete area on this site. This is a time when you should be taking care of old business and incomplete projects. Over the past week and a half I have yet to upload all of the new shows on www.drstandleylive.com and I will be doing that when I return to St. Louis tomorrow (Sunday).

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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LOVE, The Most Powerful Drug

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

GREETINGS FROM TAMPA, FLORIDA! Yippeeeeee! Well, I certainly do Love getting about the country quickly. Last night I was in St. Louis at the opera theater watching "Anna Karenina," and had just enough time to run home, answer some e-mails, write a few charts, snooze ever-so-briefly and then jump on a bright and early plane on my way to Tampa, Florida. Actually, after I upload this Daily Message here in the airport I will be driving west to Indian Rocks Beach. The forecast is rainey but I don't care, as long as it isn't cold. Imagine leaving 92 degree sunny and hot weather in St. Louis for rainey Florida. Oh well.

Oh and speaking of the opera "Anna Karenina", what a performance! I've been going to the opera regularly for about 20 years now and that was by far THE BEST opera I have ever seen. If you've read the book then you know that it is 863 pages in paperback. I believe in hard cover it's something like 924 pages. Folks, if you have never read the book, seen the movie or opera then you are really missing out because this story will make you see all the varying ways Love can show up.

It's almost embarrassing to sit there and see your old self in some of these characters, yet at the same time it's quite refreshing and enlightening to know that you are no longer one of those characters. Interestingly enough, all of the main characters at one point during the story wanted to curl up and die over Love. It is remarkable that the misery, pain and heartache that Love often brings at one time or another in a relationship, everyone is still so desperate to have Love. I'm just fascinated by this insight. If it hurts so bad, then why do we still want it? Even if we decide that we will never Love again; secretly and longingly, we still desire to have it just one more time.

I believe our ONLY true mission in Life
is to learn how to Love,
which is why expressing ourselves creatively is so important.
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Think about it, if we truly Love, then we also truly forgive. Romantic Love is addicting and probably THE MOST powerful drug known to man. I'm an Addict of Love too just like most people. Love is also THE ABSOLUTE when it comes to healing the body, mind or spirit. When asked, the majority of people would probably choose True Love over money any day of the week and give up a limb too. Then there are couples who will choose their rank in society, possessions and money over Love while at the same time slowly, deliberately and silently killing one another's spirit simply by using coldness and distance. Now that fascinates the absolute heck out of me why anyone in their right mind would consciously agree to such a relationship. You have to agree to it to stay in it and that's just bizarre!

Love and relationships are just so fascinating. When it all comes down to it, it is either Love or lack of Love.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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Upcoming Planetary Influences . .

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Folks, I have a memory like an elephant, especially when I know your birth date, but if you send me questions about your Natal Chart and just sign your first name, I have no idea on earth who you are. I have no idea whose chart to look up. In order to locate your chart I need a first and last name. This can really slow down a response from me for several days because I will simply move on to the next e-mail that I can answer efficiently and then I will come back to send e-mails to those who I need to ask for more information. Further I do not save your e-mail address because I'm usually firing off e-mails right and left between phone readings and health consults and often times from my Blackberry when I'm out and about on my bicycle. I live a very mobile Life on purpose so that I can personally handle the e-mails, phone calls, readings and health consults that come in. The faster I can move, the more organized this Gemini will be. So in my most gentle and friendly tone, can you PLEASE, pretty please with sugar on top, sign your first and last name if the e-mail is in reference to your Natal Chart?

Take note in the above gray box that the next NEW MOON begins tomorrow June 14th at 11:13 PM EDT thru June 15, 2007. Look again, the NEW MOON does not begin until 11:13 PM EDT (Eastern Daylight Time) so wait until after 11:13 PM EDT for any changes you make. The NEW MOON is a time to begin something NEW and you will have a better chance of success! I often give up or release something from my past during a NEW MOON or a Moon in Aries. Last month I gave up coffee. One month I gave up getting my nails "filled" because it was something I was doing that was ridiculously unnecessary. I have a very healthy diet, which leaves my nails, skin and hair in impeccable shape. Not bragging here folks, just providing some info for 'ya. My fingernails and hair grow like weeds and my nails are naturally as tough as concrete. So I gave up the "fill" on a New Moon. I once ended a long-term relationship on a New Moon or Moon in Aries, I can't remember which Moon it was and it ended up being the easiest thing I ever did. If you want something to be as smooth as silk, then make the change during a NEW MOON or Moon in Aries. I don't know what I will release or give up this time but it will be something that will definitely benefit me.

Take note that Mercury goes Retrograde on Thursday, June 15th . . but wait! There is a NEW MOON on that date too, right? How can you start something NEW when you are not suppose to start something new under the influence of Mercury Retrograde? Mercury does not go retrograde until 7:34 PM on Thursday, June 15th. So you have all day to give up, release or start something NEW under the NEW MOON. Okie Dokie! Now as for Mercury Retrograde, folks you have to give up this fearful bit about this being such a challenging time that you cannot function properly. What the heck have you folks been reading? Mercury Retrograde is an illusion. Please read the link I provide about Mercury Retrograde and all you have to do is focus on releasing old energy and not starting anything new. It really is that simple. If something breaks . . fix it!

And remember . . "If you believe things happen for a reason,
then don't freak out when things do happen, for a reason."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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When Politicians Change Their Mind

AudioOsiyo or 'Siyo [Hello in Cherokee]

Okay, this Daily Message could tick off a few people and I won't apologize for it. I happen to be one of those people who closely follow house votes on all U.S. Congressmen and U.S. Senators. I know when they are present and when they are absent from voting because the information is easily available to all of us. When I vote, I feel that I know as much as I can about the person who I am voting. And I certainly don't trust political commercials to tell me anything about a politicians voting record. When I see a commercial telling me that a certain politician voted a certain way, a certain number of times, on a certain issue, then I get excited and start clicking to check it out. Sometimes one politician can phrase a commercial such that it seems they voted against an issue when they really voted for the issue or vice versa. It just depends on how they phrase it.

Interestingly enough, I have written a lot of astrology charts for politicians over the years and this is why I enjoy following their votes so much. I feel very competent on casting political charts and forecasting political outcomes. Not to mention following politics and global events on the news helps me to become a better astrologer. I like to listen and then call it as I see it before I run a chart on the topic or person at hand. And no I wouldn't even tell my mom or daughter who I write charts for much less the world wide web.

One day I was watching the news when I heard John McCain proudly state how he has NEVER wavered or changed his mind on an issue. He was so adamant about pointing this out so I sat up and listened closely. I smiled and thought, "Gees, how would you like to live with that guy? Talk about inflexible and single-minded! He must always be right in his head." I've always liked John McCain and I got a kick out of him being so firm in letting the public know that he will not change his mind. Then I thought, "So how easy do you think he is to work with? This guy has to be a Virgo." I know Virgo energy when I see it because I am a North Node Virgo. So I researched his birthdate and B-O-O-M! Virgo he is. My question is, "What's so great about this guy not changing his mind?" Has he not learned, grown and developed over time like the rest of us where our views have changed simply because we know more than we did last year? What, has he never made a mistake or learned anything new? Don't get me wrong, I absolutely Love Virgo's because of my North Node Virgo but I believe this lack of flexibility deserves a long hard look. John McCain might want to loosen his stance and inflexibility before Saturn enters Virgo on September 2nd, 2007 and forces it on him for two years .

Then the next clip I see Mitt Romney being challenged on switching his view from being Pro-Choice to Pro-Life. He's been called a flip-flopper. So what's wrong with that? Can't a person switch their stance after they have lived and learned more in Life? I too have changed my position in this area and I am as Pro-Life as they come including I do not believe in capital punishment AT ALL. I use to think just the opposite with a bold and cold attitude, "Kill 'em all!" No kidding! Now, any scenario you throw at me I will still respect Life even for those who may not deserve it. Obviously, those who do not deserve Love, need more of it. I thank God that I do not think the way I use to about a lot of things in Life, especially on these two topics.

I remember a patient sitting across the desk from me coldly and flatly asking for an herb suggestion that would help abort her baby. I had been Pro-Choice seconds before that question mark. I sat there staring at her in disbelief wondering what was it about me that made her think I would be okay being sucked into her self-induced pathetic drama. I suppose since I was Pro-Choice at the time of the question mark there was a sign on my forehead stating that fact. She wanted me to bail her out of her baby drama. I thought, no wonder there should be laws to protect people like this woman from herself. If she cannot make a Good decision to keep her pants on, then someone has to make that decision for her. Here we were dealing with the "inconvenient baby". She was in her 8th week and I wondered, "Does she think she's carrying a pig fetus, a whale fetus or a goat fetus instead of a human fetus?" Incidentally, our appointment was cut short so that she could take her sick dog to the vet. I said to her, "Oh save a dog, kill a baby! Bail yourself out of this one because I will not be sucked into your drama!" If Mitt Romney or any other politician wants to change their mind on this subject or ANY OTHER SUBJECT then they should be able to without being called a flip-flopper. The more Mitt was challenged on his changing political stances, the more I thought, "This guy has to be a Pisces because they are the fish flip-flopping on a dry dock." And Mitt is indeed, a Pisces! Would I vote for Mitt . . nope! There's more to my vote than this topic.

I could go on and on about each presidential candidate but that is not what this Daily Message is about. I'm just using them as an example. It's about your mind and being comfortable with where you stand on any topic right now. Today! Politicians are the perfect mirror for checking our belief systems. If your belief system changes, then okay, stand in it. We should be learning, growing and changing each day; therefore, operating at a higher level of consciousness each day. When it comes to Love, money, friendship, family, etc., aren't you glad that you don't think the same way you did even a year ago?!?

If you want to know how any senator votes just go to www.senate.gov and for congressmen go to www.house.gov. You can even check the roll call votes and see if they were present or not. It's quite enlightening.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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Divorce, Children, In-Laws

AudioOsiyo or 'Siyo [Hello in Cherokee]

I had a rather interesting weekend. Last Thursday I left home to go out for pizza with my daughter Karmen, her husband Larry and my grandson Big Tree and didn't return home until yesterday (Sunday) afternoon. Even though it's fairly common for me to spend two to four nights over at their house a couple of times a month, this stretch was definitely different from the rest.

The plan was that I was going to return home on Saturday morning when they left to go visit Karmen's paternal grandparents in Illinois. The little town her grandparents live in (population 950) always has a parade and carnival the same weekend every year and this was the BIG weekend. I remember when Karmen was Big Tree's age (4) I was already divorced from her daddy and I would take her to this carnival and we would stay the weekend with my in-laws. Even though we were divorced, I never felt divorced from his family and he was never divorced from my family.

Since Larry (Cancer) wanted to stay home and get caught up on his lawn, garden and garage projects, Karmen, Big Tree and I set out for the carnival. My former in-laws also have a cabin on a lake about 2 miles from their house so we all went fishing and enjoyed the great outdoors before the parade began at 5:00 PM.

It didn't feel odd at all spending the night at my former in-laws house. What felt odd was seeing all of the family pictures. It has been only a year since I have been to the cabin and a couple of years since I have been to the main house but now the pictures look different. Particularly the pictures of my former husband. When I looked at the pictures I had this odd feeling that the person in the pictures looked strangely familiar. It was like I would see a picture of him and think, "Hey, I know who that guy is!" It was the most bizarre thing. One photo in particular was his 8th grade school picture which was when we had met. My mind immediately flashed to seeing that same picture, in the same frame, on the piano at his parents old house back in 1975.

I have never had a guilty conscience for being divorced. I'm perfectly fine with it. I always have been okay with it. And I have never felt as though I failed because I was divorced. I just accept it as part of my Life and that is where I was then and this is where I am at now. I am just speaking for myself here folks. I think that I would have failed my daughter if I raised her in a marriage that would have been a lie, which would have been a twisted mold for a marriage that we would have created for her. No way! Absolutely no way would I do that to my child. As I mentated on seeing the pictures of my former husband with his wife and three children, all I could do was smile and say, "Yeah! Yeah! This is how it was supposed to turn out. It's all Good." He's happy with his wife and I am happy with my Life. It's okay. We are two separate individuals with two separate lives who were brought together to have Karmen. And we did. Karmen is supposed to be here and we were the ones who were supposed to put her on the planet. I do believe we fulfilled what we were supposed to do as a couple and it was perfectly fine to go our separate ways and create a happy Life for ourselves beyond having Karmen. It's okay to be happy and Love again beyond one another. And Karmen, she's here, she's happy and she has a wonderful Life of her own to live out. I thank God that Karmen was not raised on a marriage that would have been a lie but that she was raised on the Truth, which I believe is what makes her so spiritually and emotionally healthy.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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SARDINITY

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

FIRST, HAPPY 47TH BIRTHDAY TO MY SISTER AHINAWAKE down in Cherokee, North Carolina. Now my sister Cis (Leo) and Ahinawake (Gemini) are the same age until next month when Cis turns 48. By the way, just click the talking feather below to listen how to pronounce Ahinawake.

Last night I went to the opera to see "The Mikado" when I was reminded just how uncomfortable I really feel in a crowd. It's not so much being in a crowd of people, as much as it is being in the center of a crowd of people all mashed up against each other. I enjoy being wherever the excitement, loudness and party is just like the next guy but not like that! eeeeeeek! I just wanted to scream, "Everybody stop touching me and breathing on me!" I could have stretched out my arms like a super-hero and thrown anyone near me at least 50 feet away. oooooh - I was so close!

I started sweating and a little panic set when I thought that I might not be able to escape. I was on the cusp of a major claustrophic meltdown. You know what it's like to move along with a crowd of people and everyone is touching you. I can't stand that! I'm always early to everything so I rarely deal with what I call "sardinity". Sardinity is sardine and insanity all rolled into one. I do my best to eliminate "sardinity" from my Life and I pride myself in thinking and planning ahead but last night was not one of those times. After dinner I didn't go to the restroom before we left the restaurant and the line was all the way out where the crowd was meandering. On top of everything else, I have been on a liquid detox liver concoction since the weekend party-fest for my birthday. I had no choice but to stand there, cross my legs and pray that I didn't sneeze.

I regularly attend live entertainment whether it is sporting events or staged performances. Needless to say, there are a lot of people in attendance at professional sporting events, rock concerts, the symphony, musicals, plays and the opera and there is rarely ever a problem. Incidentally, I always have an isle seat. ALWAYS! All it took was a lack of a couple minutes planning to make me feel insanity. Isn't that amazing?!?! I already know this about me ahead of time and I ignored me. This is just like a person who is notoriously late. If you are notoriously late, then somewhere in all that insanity, you have to be doing it on purpose because it certainly can't be on accident if it happens every single time. If you know that you lean toward lateness . . . like I lean toward sardinity (claustrophobia) . . then for Pete's Sake leave early and don't make everyone else pay for your lousy decision. Being ignorant and rude to those around me while pushing and shoving my way to the front of the line would have really been self-absorbed.

If you are one of those people who makes everyone else pay for your bad decisions, then KNOCK IT OFF! It's just not nice behavior and it breaks all of those kindness rules you learned in kindergarten. Screaming at others in traffic because you ran late is not their problem. It's yours! The woman standing in front of me was talking so loud that my bladder was feeling the vibration of her voice, not to mention it made the "sardinity" I was feeling that much worse. As I stood there trying to stay conscious and sane, I reminded myself that I too have a loud outdoor voice as I tried to make her voice music to my ears. NOT!

The point is folks, if you know what causes you to go insane, then do not consciously or unconsciously put yourself in a position to do that to yourself! No one did IT to you . . you did! Identify whatever IT is, put a funky word to it, own the Truth of it and then do your best not to put yourself in that position again. You can blame and shame others all you want for your bad decisions but no one is in charge of your livelihood, happiness and comfort but you!

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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THE FEAR OF FAILURE

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

I cannot tell you how often during readings I hear someone say, "I'm afraid of failure." All I can say is, "Oh baloney! Come up with another excuse because that one does not even make sense! If you choose not to move in the direction of your dreams or goals because of a fear of failure, then you have already failed. There is no other way to say it folks! That's a done deal and the worst part of failure is not even making an attempt. Imagine that . . . failing because you did not attempt. Seriously, use another excuse but not the fear of failure. But then again my personality stands in, "I would be too afraid not to do it!"

Folks, living in the state of "fear of failure" does not work. How the heck does being afraid of failure serve you? Once you become "too afraid not to do it" then you can always change your mind if you don't like the choice you made. So big deal if you change your mind! At least you made the attempt and now you know and you have collected knowledge and experience. Take the knowledge and experience out of what did not work and apply the information to something else.

"I use fear to drive me forward,
not hold me back." - Dr. Loretta Standley

This reminds me of the time I was taking my daughter Karmen (Leo) to Atlanta, Georgia to visit her step-dad (my second former husband). As we were coming upon the outskirts of Chattanooga, Tennessee we noticed some people hang-gliding off a cliff. Well, we could not resist the excitement of a closer look so I made a quick Nascar maneuver off the highway to chase down where the hang-gliding was coming from. When we found the place it turned out that we could hang-glide too. The cost was $35 per person. Even though Karmen was in 3rd grade (which was 8 years old - no kidding), she was at just the right height to be able to jump off a cliff with wings on her back too. To this day when Karmen and I talk about it, neither one of us can believe they would let a 3rd grader do this, but it is completely believable that I would let her do it. Folks, this was pretty dang high up. So I paid $35 per person, signed the proper paperwork for both us with the understanding that if we backed out once we were strapped in, the money would be non-refundable. Seriously, no big deal in my head if we changed our mind because we were at least making the attempt. Next thing ya' know we were standing on the edge of the cliff deciding who was going to jump first, me or Karmen.

Keep in mind that this form of hang gliding was not a tandem experience riding another person's back. It was a singular experience, meaning we go alone. The great part about it was there was a cable from the top of the mountain to the bottom so that if we lost our wits and balance then we would just slide down on the cable into a pile of sawdust and sand. So there we were deciding who was going to go first. Karmen decided she would go first. After she was strapped in she said in her little quivering voice, "Mom, I'm scared." I said, "Then don't do it sweetie. You don't have to do it." She responded, "But you paid and you can't get your money back." I said, "Big hairy deal Karmen. I'm just so proud of you that you are standing there all strapped in on the edge of a cliff getting ready to . . . " Then she interrupted me screaming at the top of her lungs, "Noooooooooooo!" And then my baby jumped! I started screaming wildly with delight, jumping up and down and crying the happy cry that my baby was so "crazy brave" as I watched her little legs pedal through the open air as if she were riding a bike through the sky. When she reached the bottom hitting the pile of sawdust and sand, all I could see were two huge wings covering my baby as she lay there all piled up trying to stand. After the people at the bottom unstrapped the harnass she turned to look up at me and started waving at me to come her way. I thought, "Oh Gees Louise -- Now I gotta do it!"

Oh I jumped alright and since then I have gone hang-gliding again without the cable and performed many other luscious aerial stunts from bungy jumping to sky-diving. Since that time Karmen has also lived her Life full measure, pressed down, shaken-up and running over. Folks, this Daily Message is not about engaging in extreme sports; it is an analogy about conquering fear rather than standing in fear. If you are going to stand in fear, then at least stand as close as you can to edge of the cliff before you decide "not to" jump into an experience, dream or goal so that you will have at least gotten close enough to see what you would have been jumping into. Get close folks! Go to the edge and look beyond. Press your nose up against the glass. Breathe on the window and fog it up just so you can wipe it off with the side of your fist and then take another look. Get a Good look and then make your decision.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Weekend Update. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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Weekend Update!

AudioOsiyo or 'Siyo [Hello in Cherokee]

First, I apologize for not posting your daily horoscopes yesterday (Sunday). Since Saturday was my birthday, I chose not to return any e-mails, so I ended up having to make up for this "complete" day off on Sunday. Remember, the internet is open 365/24/7 and never closes. So when I "check out" completely for one day there is definitely a price that I have to pay for it. So yesterday I answered Saturday e-mails all day plus Sunday's nearly non-stop.

It was really a fantabulous birthday and probably the best I have ever had. After the breakfast in the morning, Christine took me out for the day. First, we went to get pedicures and then we went to the Butterfly House which was just about as fascinating as you could imagine. Then we went to ride a gy-normous Carousel and then it was off to enjoy our favorite menu -- Mexican with monster margarita's! I always say that I Love Mexican food so much that I married a Mexican. HA! Yes, my first husband is Mexican, which is probably why no one can quite pin point the ethnicity of my daughter Karmen being Cherokee and Mexican.

We met the rest of the gang at 6:00 PM for the Fire Ceremony which was just beautiful and at times, very emotional. I'll have to resize some pictures of the Fire Ceremony and post them here later. Afterward, we all went over to our favorite little pub and partied. Julie and Kitty had snuck off after the Fire Ceremony and decorated before the rest of us arrived. I have to say, I was really surprised at the decorations and cake, which caught me completely off guard.

Even though Saturday was a very late night (about 2:00 AM), I was still up at 6:00 AM starting to answer as many e-mails as I could before walking over to Mass at 10:00 AM. The majority of our group serves in some capacity at the church every Sunday from ushering, to choir, serving coffee and donuts after Mass, Eucharistic Minister or Lector. Yesterday, nearly all of us were scheduled and we were all there bright-eyed and bushy tailed. Then later in the day at 5:30 PM we had a going away party for our favorite nuns who will be leaving to go back home to Mexico. We have this running joke with the sisters that I am a nun-wanna-be. You really have to be in on the joke to get the full belly laugh out of it. We have had some great times with these sisters who were always ready to join our party and we will miss them dearly.

By the time the later evening rolled around I was absolutely and entirely exhausted. Right now, I have just a tiny bit more to go to get caught up on e-mails and I am in the process of updating your weekly horoscopes.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Happy Birthday To Me. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!

AudioOsiyo or 'Siyo [Hello in Cherokee]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME-EEEEEEEEEE
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME

I will be out of touch all day today and will answer all your e-mails tomorrow. Have a great day. I will. By the way, I'm 46 today!

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, The Five Languages of Love. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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CONTINUING THE FEST!

AudioOsiyo or 'Siyo [Hello in Cherokee]

Yesterday Karmen and I had an absolute blast together celebrating my birthday. Actually, she's still here and snoozing as Leo's tend do so well. Karmen has an awesome husband (Larry) that made this whole mom-daughter-birthday-fest possible. Even though my self-thrown and self-organized birthday party doesn't actually begin until tomorrow morning (yes, I said morning) we had our own little family party yesterday.

Karmen and I picked up my grandson Big Tree from school, went out to lunch and then we went loafin'. Do you know what loafin' is? It's when you adventure out with no rhyme or reason as to what time it is or where you are going. You loaf! My mom is a professional loafer so naturally I had to pass the loafin' gift to my daughter and grandson. Karmen always gives me something that is simple, sentimental, hand-made or home-made that brings on the tears. It was great! After we dropped off Big Tree at home with Larry, we loafed some more and had our best pajama party to date. It was just fantabulous!

As a gentle note, I will be completely unavailable all day tomorrow (Saturday) on my birthday. Keep in mind that I always plan my own birthday party every year. The day begins at 8:00 a.m. over at my friend Steve and Cherie's house where the gang of friends that I hang out with will all meet for a champagne breakfast. I will be cooking the breakfast for my friends and it will be ready when they walk in the door. There will be no waiting around until it is ready. They can walk in and EAT! That's what I'm talkin' 'bout! Hey, I am a Cancer Rising and we like to feed, nurture and take care of those we Love. Fill up their tummies and make 'em happy! We'll be having Mimosa's and a huge ranch-hand kind of breakfast that I am famous for making.

After breakfast, those who have to attend the Deacon Ordination at church to sing in the choir or usher will leave and meet up with the rest of us later in the day. The middle of the day is under Christine's (Aquarius) direction so I'm certain we'll be out and about. The next scheduled hook up will be at 6:00 p.m. where we will be doing a Native American Fire Ceremony in Steve and Cherie's backyard with a bonfire. We will begin by making prayer ties using the colors of the Cherokee except brown and black because brown and black are not burned in a Fire Ceremony. Prayer ties are made using a 4 x 4 inch cloth (blue, white, red and yellow). Tobacco is placed in the center of the cloth as all four corners are brought together to make a pouch. The pouch is tied together with string (we will use hemp) and each person will string together their pouches like hotdogs. Each person will make their own prayer ties and each pouch will hold a specific prayer. They can make as many prayer ties as they want because each pouch is a separate prayer. When we finish making the prayer ties then we will hang them on the trees until we are ready for them at the end of the ceremony. Then one-by-one we will take our prayer ties and offer them to Great Spirit (God) by putting them into the fire. It is our offering. The tobacco is the carrier; when it burns, the smoke from the tobacco carries our prayers to Great Spirit (God). After the Fire Ceremony, it will be the usual party down type of atmosphere in our usual neighborhood hang out.

I will be on the computer ALL DAY today in and out of readings and way into the evening. If you need anything, please catch up with me today because I will not be checking my e-mail tomorrow or answering the phone. By the way, I do not answer the phone or do readings on Sundays. Have a fantastico weekend everyone. Oh -- and the radio broadcasts are all archived and updated.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, The Five Languages of Love. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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