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ARCHIVED DAILY MESSAGES
FROM DR. STANDLEY
APRIL 2007

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Bird Medicine Weekend

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

I'm back from the Celtic Festival and bird medicine hiking weekend. Below is a pic of me and Christine driving off the beaten path in Giant City State Park. Nope, we didn't see any giants. Dang! But we did see the Park Ranger . . YIKES! I'm on the left with the pony-tail and Christine is on the right. My bruised, battered and held together by scotch tape camera finally checked-out so I still have to retrieve the other hiking pictures off Christine's camera. I really liked that camera; it sure did have a Good run. Rats!

We hiked up and down through the Little Grand Canyon, which was absolutely magnificent. We brought our National Audubon Society Field Guide to North American birds and had a 'field' day with the birds and binoculars. Christine actually logs her bird sightings and sketches them, so it was a real treat to sit on a cliff watching the Bird Medicine with her. I always have a blast with Christine because she is the only woman I know who is definitely more outdoorsy than myself, not to mention she doesn't mind getting her hands dirty either.

On the way back to St. Louis we took the ferry across the Mississippi from Illinois back to Missouri. We fell out laughing when my daughter Karmen called and asked if I was in Houston. I said, "Yeah about 10 years ago or so I was in Houston." Karmen has finally given up on tracking my whereabouts. It's futile but at least she knows I will always answer the phone no matter where I land and I will come home if I need to. If I don't answer the phone, that's when she will worry. Karmen knows, if the wind changes, so might my direction. No kidding!

On the other hand, Christine's four children and her parents have a phone tree going. It's hysterical. One day Christine showed up to go fishing with the gang and had a note safety-pinned to her shirt from her children. The note gave the rules of taking her out to play with us because it just so happens that Christine is our group's most injured player. She has a daughter who is an attorney, a son who is a fireman, a daughter in graduate school and another daughter in her first year of college.

I will have Christine send me some of the bird medicine pics (winged messengers from Great Spirit), and I will talk about that tomorrow.































Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Weekend Update! Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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Weekend Update!

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

GREETINGS FROM CARBONDALE, ILLINOIS! Well folks, I wrapped up the twin baby duty early this morning over at Tina's (Libra) and I have already taken off for the weekend with my friend Christine (Aquarius) to attend another Celtic Festival. Ah . . men in kilts!

In March Christine and I flew off to Dallas to meet up with Peg to attend the Northern Texas Celtic Festival. This time of year Christine and I usually go to the same Celtic Festival in Southern Missouri but found out only a couple of days ago that it was cancelled. Pooh! Well let me tell you . . nothing stops Christine and I (two freedom-enjoying signs) from doing what we want to do. So we found another Celtic Festival in Southern Illinois (Carbondale), which is only about 8 miles and 12 minutes away from a wonderful area to do some hiking and bird watching. Yeah, we're into that too. I'll take pictures and post them on Monday.

There is nothing like getting out in the wild with nature and the binoculars to experience Native American Animal Medicine up close and personal. Remember, ALL birds are considered winged messengers from Great Spirit and they all have a special message to share. I'm excited to tell you all about the weekend with Native American Animal Medicine when I return.

As usual, wherever I go, so goes the computer, which allows me to be a shape-shifter (Crow Medicine). I will be updating the site over the weekend as usual. Thank you God that I was made to be a Gemini-juggler so I can do THIS . . and THAT too.

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Here We Are, Where Are You? Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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HERE WE ARE, WHERE ARE YOU?

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

This very minute I am pulling baby duty over at my friend Tina's house with her 3 month old twin girls. These two sweet little cherubs are amazingly content Aquarian babies. This very minute I have one (I don't know which one) laying on my lap in a boppy pillow staring at me as I type and the other one is in a bouncy seat next to me on the floor sound asleep.

Tina (Libra) and I were chatting last night about how different our lives have become since college and how we have literally traded places. While I chose early motherhood, she chose later. While she chose a carefree Life before age 40, I chose the carefree Life after age 40. We did have to chuckle a bit when we realized that she was in mommy-mode and I was in granny-mode. Yet at the same time, we find ourselves in the same place still relating to each other on all levels. Our friendship has all the elements of doing what needs to be done for our lives together and separate. It is truly a banquet of experience, knowledge, Love and lessons.

Buckminster Fuller said, "Life is a banquet and most damn fools are starving to death."

I will be updating the radio broadcast this afternoon around 4:30 PM EDT. Maybe earlier . .

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Are You A Friend or Acquaintance? Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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ARE YOU A FRIEND OR AN ACQUAINTANCE?

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

I never mind be awaken out of a deep sleep if a friend or family member calls late at night or early in the morning. Karmen probably holds the record for waking me up early or late and then "H", Julie, Renee and Tina in no particular order. I will answer the phone like I've been awake the whole time and even if I was asleep, these girls will just keep rolling on into their conversation because they know I want to hear what they have to say. Of course it's not the phone number posted at the top of each page on this website. I shut that phone off when I'm ready to check in and out of Dr. Standley mode. It's a perk and a choice that comes with having a "care-free" and "do what I want, when I want, how I want" type of Lifestyle.

Monday night Renee (Leo in San Diego) called when I was asleep to fill me in on the Dancing with the Stars and the new Heroes episode. I had been at a fund-raising meeting Monday night with my friends and couldn't watch the shows. It is absolutely hilarious how Renee can give a play by play commentary on both of these shows better than a sportcaster can of a baseball or football game. I'll go online and watch both shows anyway but folks, you have not been updated on a TV show until you have been updated by Renee. After Renee's playfulness, she always manages to deliver a one-liner of wisdom out of nowhere. It's a Good thing there is a pen and paper in the drawer of the nightstand.

Typically when Julie (Libra) calls late at night, she is ready to go out and play, sing songs or run over to Steve and Cherie's for a late night debate. Being that she only lives five houses up the street, she is already knocking on my window before I have my shoes on. How can I pass up that kind of action? Count me IN!

When "H" (Virgo in Los Angeles) calls, it is always deep, thought-provoking and ethereal. We go straight up into the ethers from the first sentence and there is a lot of laughing involved even in the midst of a crisis and when Life seems to throw a punch to the gut. Our conversations during what may seem to be a problem to someone else is really not viewed as a problem at all to us. We find all of Life's questions marks interesting and thought provoking. We move right around a problem like driving around a pothole. "H" (Henrietta) has a smile in her voice and giggles like a little girl.

A phone call from Tina (Libra) usually arrives with her laughing and catching her breath before I even hear the first word. I can get up, make coffee and maybe even take a shower before she is finally able to get the first word out. This morning when Tina called and woke me up, we ran through the entire Circle of Life. It was great. Then we started talking about do-over's and what we would or would not do-over again. When I told her what I would NOT . . absolutely NOT . . do-over again, she gently and sweetly said, "Yeah, and how is that relevant?" Then I unconsciously rambled something else and again she gently said, "Yeah, and how is that relevant?" I know better than to say that I would not do something all over again. If I did anything different, I would not be who I am right now talking to you. Our conversation had circled back around to the beginning the minute she said, "Yeah and how is that relevant?" I laughed and yelled, "OW! Dang girl you got me. OW!" I don't do prescription drugs or even over-the-counter medications but I was definitely feeling the need for some Ibuprofen after that awareness. It was a direct hit and I LIKED IT! (winky wink)

Folks, I can honestly say that I have not always been a Good friend. I lived in my own selfish little world and it was fairly easy to move from one friendship to another. Actually I was a professional at being an acquaintance but not a friend. I never really started collecting and savoring friends until college when I met Tina back in 1994. Then a couple of years later came "H", then Renee and a few years later followed the 'The Band of Gypsies" of about twenty people who I do fund-raising with and go on road trips, camp, hunt, fish, float, hike and celebrate nothing in particular on any given night. I realized this morning after talking with Tina the reason why I now have so many friends is because I have become a better friend. Each and every one of my friends including each one of the twenty "gypsies" I could call in the middle of the night and they could call me without hesitation or reservation. We really are there for each other . . RIGHT NOW! Not after we wake up. Not after we finish watching our favorite TV show. Not after we do laundry. Not after we have our first cup of coffee. We are there RIGHT NOW!

It did take year after year practice to step out of my drama and crisis mode to call forth friends who were living Life to the fullest and who embrace Life as it continually takes its winding and surprising turns. At the same time, I had to get myself to the level of the person who I desired to call forth as a friend. I wanted to be dedicated, loyal and trusting; therefore, I had to ratchet myself up and build a better me. I can honestly say that I am a loyal, dedicated and trustworthy friend, which was not always the case. I had to improve me in order to see myself reflected back to me in friendships. Is there a difference between friendships and acquaintances? Oh you betcha' there is.

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Check Your Mercy and Forgiveness Levels. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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Check Your Forgiveness and Mercy Levels

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

One day in the coffee shop I was engaged in a conversation with a man I did not know when I found it a severe challenge to even 'like' this man the more the conversation rolled on. The more I listened to him talk, the more I realized how much I actually DID KNOW him. The more his mouth ran on and on, the more I knew all his stuff because he was laying it all out there for me to see. We never even introduced ourselves as the conversation began over a book he was reading. It was just one of those times where you fall into a conversation with another person for reason's that may not be clear at the time.

Our conversation was about U.S. Presidents in the early years of American History when I mentioned a person who 'hands down' is an expert on the topic. The man made an ugly comment about the expert's past that was completely unforgiving and unmerciful in an attempt to try to discredit the expert. Without naming the expert in this Daily Message because I do not want to send a ton of negative unforgiving energy their way, I said to the man, "Haven't we forgiven that person? That had nothing to do with the person's expertise not to mention that was a long time ago. Are you still there?"

Interestingly enough, the man climbed right over my statement as if I had said nothing. It was clear he was not ready to go deep and I tend to be very deep about everything. The mere mention of the expert's name revealed an incredibly unforgiving and unmerciful side to this man. I have a natural forgiving and merciful spirit where it can be a stretch for me to even remember I was even angry ten minutes ago. As this man continued to rattle on I thought, "If he will not forgive someone he doesn't even know who did nothing to him, then what must his Life be like when someone who he does know hurt's him?" Further, if you make it okay to throw a person's past in their face thereby withholding forgiveness and mercy, then it must be okay to do the same to you. What if your worst stuff was held over your head day after day by people you didn't even know?

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Interpreting Your Sun and Rising Sign. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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INTERPRETING YOUR SUN AND RISING SIGN

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

I had a strangely curious weekend getting to know myself. Every day I take some time to sit and stare at my Natal Chart in search of a new awareness that may help me along my spiritual progression path. I still learn new things about myself the more I stare at it. Keep in mind that you have all 12 signs in your Natal Chart and you will act and react like the sign that sits in a particular house. For instance, I am a Cancer Rising (1st house) which rules my personality and explains why I tend to live in a shell. My Sun is in Gemini and sits in the 12th house of the hidden realm, which is why no one ever really sees me. Keep in mind the Sun is where you shine and I happen to shine from the hidden realm. Since Gemini rules my 12th house cusp, I am a more outgoing Gemini from the hidden realm but not out in public. Out in public and among people I do not know, I won't even make eye contact. When the Sun shines in the 12th house, this is a painfully shy individual. I know . . isn't that crazy? Me, shy? Amongst my friends and family it is a whole other story.

So there I was Friday night with my friends preparing to watch the Tamm Avenue implosion over Highway 40. I had already cycled to the area earlier in the day to find the best location for our group and found a sweet little spot tucked away that would be a challenge for most people to reach but not my group of friends. We are like an army of strategic ants. It was perfect. We would be right on the required 500 foot line that distanced us from the blast and away from the huge crowd that would be smashed together on the other side of the highway.

Christine (Aquarius) and I arrived several hours early with our chairs, cooler, food, binoculars, etc. When Steve (Aquarius) and Cherie (Scorpio) arrived, Steve convinced us to move to the other side of the highway. Immediately I became uncomfortable with the idea but went along with his suggestion because he was right, it was closest to the restroom. When you are in a party atmosphere, a restroom in a necessary evil. So we moved and waited for our other friends. As the crowd became increasingly tight, I caught myself looking over to the other side of the highway at the spot we left behind and saw about 10 people max over there. I wanted to be tucked away with my friends over there and I didn't need all of these people pressed up against me. I WAS MISERABLE! I wanted to run off and stand on the periphery by myself. I really would have been happier either by myself away from the crowd or tucked away with my group of friends with no one else around. DANG!

As the weekend rolled on and the Moon moved into Cancer, I slipped further into my ever-so-comfortable Cancer Rising shell. Being that the Rising Sign reveals my personality even though I am a Gemini, I have the personality of a Cancer. I really wanted to get out because the weather was so awesome and I am by nature an outdoors girl. At one point I went to the coffee shop to work and found myself tucked away in my favorite spot, which is the very back corner where there is one single chair. YES! I have to admit, I really do enjoy being alone. I would rather have deep conversation in my own head rather than engage in superficial or gossip type conversation. Unless I am with the people I Love, I prefer to be alone. I then cycled to the park, did my yoga sun salutes, laid in the grass for a while grabbing my DLGs (Downloads from God), then sat on the block wall that surrounds the church eating my lunch watching the cars go by and then hung out in the public library plunked down between two isles until they closed. Yesterday the Moon was in Cancer again and I pretty much repeated everything I did on Saturday. Yippee, the public library is open on Sunday's too.

I always knew that I enjoy being out and about among people but I do not have to actually be with them personally. Unless I am with someone I know very well, I prefer to be alone, even in a crowd. I will even go to the symphony, live musical theater or even professional sporting events alone. No problems there! I had to laugh when I realized sitting on the wall of the church that Taurus sits on my 11th house cusp, which is the outgoing house of organizations, friends and groups of people. Taurus is the bull (or melodious cow). It dawned on me that out in public or even in groups, I am like the melodious cow in the pasture who just stands there and watches the cars go by. Just like Friday night, I wanted to go stand on the periphery and watch rather than be in the crowd. That perfect location on the other side of the highway was for my car-watching pleasure. Even at parties, I will be on the periphery rather than in the middle of the crowd. And in a relationship or dating situation when at a party or out in public, I will always stick close to my date.

I just laugh about this because I enjoy my independence and freedom so much that being alone feels free-ing to me. I answer to God. There's that Jupiter in Aquarius again. The most freedom-loving planet in the most freedom-loving sign. If anyone tried to tell me what to do or if I had to get permission to do something . . . I would simply have to say, "Later gator, it was nice knowin' ya'."

Folks, you can learn so much more about yourself by studying the house that your Sun shines and also your Rising Sign. I write an absolute ton of information in your Natal Chart regarding your Sun and Rising Sign. It's a feast of information so read it over and over again. The more you understand yourself, the easier it will be to understand others. As the rest of my friends started showing up on Friday night, I realized how grabbing the spot across the highway was for ME . . Gees Louise, how controlling was that?!?

Now get out there, go play yourself UP and practice being you.

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Use Me UP! Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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USE ME UP!

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

This morning I woke up hearing Billy Withers sing, "Use Me". I just Love his music. In fact, I change the song on my Myspace page every single day and twice this week I've already played a couple of Billy Withers tunes. Today just happens to be another fantabulous day to have Billy Withers on tap again. For some reason "Use Me" would not play, so I'm playing "Lovely Day" over there again today. I'll keep trying to upload "Use Me".

Most of us have an innate desire to lead more exciting and adventurous lives, which brings me to the question mark, how much of your Life are you using? I was talking to my cool friend "H" (Henrietta in L.A.) Wednesday night when she made the comment about "squeezing all the juice out of Life". This made me think of the Daily message I wrote last month called, "A Bold and Juicy Life.", which led me into the conversation of how I am a utilitarian and how I want God to "use" me until I am all "used up".

It is my belief when we graduate from the planet, we are "used up" in the most positive way. Yes, every last ounce of juice will be squeezed out of us and then we get to go Home. When the last word, action or deed has been done as a result of our impact, then we will graduate and move on. We may never know what that last word, action or deed is but it will happen even if we are unaware of it. It's so spiritually romantic that it jazzes me to my core. Every single person has Capricorn sitting on one of their house cusps in their Natal Chart, which makes the topic of being used, using, utilitarian, utilize, uses, use and use . . . so relevant. Remember, the Capricorn motto is "I USE, therefore I am," which should be embraced with the utmost integrity. Here are some affirmations to show you what I am referring to.

I use my talents to lead a bold and juicy Life.

I AM excited about God putting me to Good use.

My talents are used to fulfill the mission in Life that God purposed for me.

I AM using my Life to be everything that God purposed me to be.

When God uses me, it feels sooooooo Good.

I am deliberately and purposefully using myself to fulfill my mission in Life until I am all used up.

I AM a utilitarian and I use my days to produce a bold and juicy Life.

I utilize my Life to boldy and wonderfully impact others.

"Use Me" by Billy Withers
I-I and I, wanna spread the news
That if it feels this Good getting used
Oh, you just keep on using me
Until you use me up

Now get out there, go play yourself UP and practice being you.

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, April Gentle Reminders. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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APRIL GENTLE REMINDERS

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

This is as Good a time as any to remind and update you on a few changes on the site.

1) There is a "Search" box in the upper right corner of this site. If you are looking for something in particular on this site, all you have to do is type in the 'keyword or phrase' and choose the search engine you want to use (Google, Yahoo or MSN) and all of the pages on this website that have that particular keyword or phrase will come up in that search engine. It's very cool.

2) There is a Prayer List on this site located under the Guidance button in the left green column. You can also reach this page by clicking on the Jesus picture in the left column just below all the individual buttons. All prayer requests and Novena publishings will remain on the list for 40 days. If you are praying a Novena that asks you to publish it, you can publish it on this Prayer List page.

3) I have rearranged the Daily Horoscopes page to make the links easier to access. You will see a new link for your signs "Rulerships" where you will find your signs "Money Tendencies". I am also adding more to the link "What Week Were You Born". This section is moving along very quickly and I should have them all complete soon.

4) Can you do me a gargantuan favor? Would you please share this website with everyone in your address book? This website has reached an all time high nationally and globally. This website is now ranked in the top 49,000 in the U.S., and in the top 100,000 globally out of more than 70 million websites. The more this Gemini has to do, the more I stay out of trouble and focused on my work. If I become a slacker, it is because I do not have enough to juggle. That's a Gemini for ya'. (winky wink) In other words, the busier I am, the more organized I am. Keep me busy folks. There is no need to apologize for calling or e-mailing. That is why I am here. I have purposefully placed myself in a position to be here for you. It was a deliberate and purposeful move on my part. Okay, let's give God credit first . . I acted on His purpose for me and here I am for you. Having said that, the more I have to do, the more I do. That's just the way I am.

5) With regard to telephone calls. If I answer the telephone, you have not interrupted me. If I do not answer, just leave your name and number along with the best time to reach you and I WILL call you back, unless you live out of the U.S., and then you will have to call me back. I do return telephone calls rather quickly. I answer my own phone and my own e-mails.

6) And just to set the record straight. The Cherokee DID NOT have princesses, so the possibility of someone's great great grandmother being a Cherokee princess is just not true. Further, the Cherokee did not wear a head-dress. They wore one or two feathers. They also wore either a mohawk or what is called a porcupine roach. My brothers, nephews and cousins will often wear a mohawk. You can see a picture of the porcupine roach on the main Native American page. Incidentally, our newspaper back home on the reservation in Cherokee, North Carolina is called, The One Feather.

Now get out there, go play yourself UP and practice being you.

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Birds of a Feather Flock Together. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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GOD'S WILL VS. MAN'S FREE WILL
The Tragedy at Virginia Tech

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

I don't even know how to begin to address the massacre at Virginia Tech yesterday. The first person I thought of was my second husband. He went to Virginia Tech and also taught mathematics there long before I had met him. My mind instantly flipped to the realization that I had no idea what having a rough day really meant. Then my brain quickly switched to my radio broadcast on April 3rd called, "God's Will versus Man's Free Will." In the broadcast I spoke about how another incident like this nearly twenty years ago had thrown me over the edge and I completely lost all faith that there was a God. This loss of faith lasted about 10 years. Suffice it to say, I was fairly upset with God. Now I understand why these things had to affect me in the way that they did so that I would be able to understand and connect with others since I am now in position to talk to millions of people every single day. I get it! I had to walk that path.

It took quite a while for me to understand the difference between man's will and God's will. The incidents that rocked my faith nearly 20 years ago was not God's will. God did not Will these things to happen. A man did. The things that happened were not at the hand of God, they were at the hand of man. God gives us free will and will not interfere with that gift. Heck, we don't even have to Love Him because that is our free will. Even the Angels and Archangels have free will. Further, they cannot interfere with our free will. I believe Angels whisper in our ears, "Don't do that!" and try to appeal to our heart and subconscious to influence us in the best way . . but we still get to choose. We can still do whatever we want, whenever we want, however we want. It's our free will.

Yesterday's news has strongly touched my emotions as it probably has yours too. I watch all of the prayer groups and vigils taking place and wonder, "Is this really what it takes in order for us to boldly, publicly and openly appeal to God for understanding and insight?" Do we really have to experience a crisis or be punched in the gut before we turn to God? Are we so rebellious and self-absorbed that it takes a tragedy to get our attention? Do we have to be slapped in the face? Does someone really have to get hurt or even die in order for us to open our eyes and see? Does someone have to feel pain in the heart or in their body in order for us to stand bold in faith and openly pray in a circle without caring about judgment or criticism? Really? Is this what it takes? Why do we have to hurt so bad before we finally appeal to God for enlightenment?

Folks, this has happened to me which is why I do not give a rat about what anyone thinks when I openly and boldly speak of God. I really don't care what others think. It isn't as though I have led the most innocent and chaste Life and I won't pretend that I have, which is all the more reason for me to cling tightly to Him. And cling to Him I do because I will screw up. Then I have to self-correct and get back on my intended path. I always say, "If there is one thing I do know and that is . . . GOD IS. It is everything else in Life that has a question mark."

Last night I was on the phone for nearly two hours with one of my dearest friend's, Renee (a Leo), who lives in San Diego. She had made the comment how amazing it is that one person, one single person can have such an impact on the entire nation (actually world) in such a short period of time. This one lone gunman chose to channel his abundance of pent up energy in a negative and destructive manner and this was the end result. We imagined together, what if one other person took their abundance of pent up energy and channeled it into a positive, constructive and productive manner with just as much force and determination as this gunman did. Further, what if we all did that? What if we chose Love instead of anger? What if we chose to hug our partner instead of send an evil glare? What if we caressed our children's face as we gently talked to them instead of screamed at them? What if we all just decided to be nice and stop hurting one another?

What if you did that?

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Birds of a Feather Flock Together. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

Well there goes another fun and exciting weekend under my belt. Saturday night my friends and I participated in a fund-raising trivia night at the church to raise money for the school. I have to admit, we are group of trivia buffs who enjoy debating the most useless information although it certainly did not reveal itself Saturday night. We didn't do that bad but certainly not as well as we thought we would. All of those late night conversations from how to make focaccia to satellite imagery did not serve us one iota.

This reminds me of July 2006 when Steve (Aquarius), his wife Cherie (Scorpio), Christine (Aquarius) and myself (Gemini) went on a road trip to Cherokee, North Carolina where my family lives. We googled on my Blackberry the entire way discussing and debating everything from bird calls to how torsion works on a bridge. On the way back Steve and I began forcefully locking horns and then Christine chimed in with, "Let's talk about the shifting tectonic plates and what's up with that?!?" Next thing ya' know, we were down in the earth's crust fascinating ourselves with tectonic plates.

There are about 20 friends total in this wacky group who are not afraid to confront each other, debate a topic or call each other in a time of need. There is no fear that who we are will not be accepted and there is no chatter behind another friends back. If we get heated, the evening still ends with a hug and "see you Friday night." The best part about this group of friends is there is very little (if any) emotional drama and I think that is what keeps us so tight.

Yesterday I was talking with one of my oldest and dearest friends, "H" (Henrietta a Virgo) who lives in L.A. After we hung up the phone, I realized the same thing applied to this relationship . . very little (if any) emotional drama. That's just not the kind of stuff we dig on feeding ourselves, much less each other. Chatting with "H" about Life experiences is a fascinating adventure and has never been a soap opera. I sat there thinking about all of my friends across the country, including another one of my old and dearest friends, Renee (Leo) in San Diego. Again, the same thing applies. There is very little (if any) emotional drama in this relationship either. The conversation is always deep, fascinating and questioning as to why we do or choose what we do. It's always a spiritual mind trip. The only problem I have with Renee is that when I'm with her, I spend entirely too much money! (winky wink)

It appears that I have surrounded myself with friends who enjoy posing and delving into Life questions rather than dumping recurring emotional baggage on their friends. We want to know why we do the things that we do and how we can upgrade through the lesson. Certainly we have gone through tough times with each other but I can honestly say, we have never been an emotional dumping ground for each other. If we were, it probably lasted only a few minutes until we stepped into the "let's fix this" stage.

Folks, I have said it before and I will say it again, "Birds of a feather flock together." Everyone on our path is a reflection of who we are. It's just like looking into a mirror. Yeah, sometimes the reflection does hurt and it isn't as pretty as we would like. If you want to know who you are, all you have to do is look at your relationships. Step back and take note of who you have "chosen" to couple up with romantically, socially and professionally. You cannot deny this is YOUR choice. If you want to know who you are and the path that you are currently on, take a look at all your relationships for an inside and realistic look at yourself.

Now get out there, go play yourself UP, and practice being you.

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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IF I KNEW THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

I had a fantabulous past two days over at my daughter Karmen's house and taking care of my grandson "Big Tree". Gees, we have so much fun together! And while the Moon was in Aquarius on Wednesday and Thursday (noted in your daily horoscope) Karmen and I certainly rebelled in a playful way the whole time. We also realized that our feet look identical to each other's. It's weird! I enjoy being called-in when Karmen and Larry have to negotiate her work and schooling, his business travel, along with taking care of Big Tree. Those of you who are raising Leo children may identify with what I'm feeling right now because a Leo child could probably start raising themselves at three years old. Being needed by your Leo child is a rare occurrence. Karmen hasn't even asked me for money since high school.

Here's the . . . IF ONLY I KNEW! If only I knew then what I know now when I was a younger mother how to communicate with my Leo cubbie, I would have acted and reacted differently. My approach and tone would have sounded a lot different than it did. I was taught by my astrologer (may God rest his soul) that when your children are under age 18, you can run a Natal Chart on them without their permission. Once they are over 18, then you must ask for their permission because they are adults and are entitled to their privacy.

Understanding your children's Natal Chart and how they operate about the planet can really upgrade the family dynamics. For instance -- if you clearly undertand that your Aries, Taurus and Gemini children are late bloomers, then it can certainly bring comfort to their Life rather than criticism spewing from your mouth. OUCHY! The best thing to do with these youthful children is back off and let them figure it out . . because they will. And if that Aries or Gemini child wants to marry early, it will happen whether you like it or not. Reading and working with your children's Natal Chart can certainly make their relationship with you a wonderful experience. Not to mention, it will help you guide them in the direction that they need to be. Even if your child does not take to your guidance at the onset, they will hear that message quicker than if you said nothing.

By the way, it is karmically wrong to run a Natal Chart on someone without their permission, unless you are married or living together because you are essentially seen as 'one' by the Universe. Only one person needs to give their permission under those circumstances. If you are living together as a couple, married or not, the Universe does not need the paper (marriage contract) to recognize the union; only we humans need the contract to make us feel safe and secure. Oprah (Aquarius) is certainly on to something when she says that she does not need 'the contract' with long time boyfriend Stedman Graham. About 70 percent of Aquarian's do not need their identity or validation to look like a marriage contract. The other 30 percent of Aquarian's most certainly do. Remember that freedom-necessity with your Aquarian children or if they have strong Aquarius in their Natal Chart like I do, (Jupiter in Aquarius, the most freedom-loving planet in the most freedom-loving sign).

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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THE RELENTLESS PURSUIT OF MYSELF!

Audio'Siyo or Osiyo [Hello in Cherokee]

How wonderful would it be if we all relentlessly pursued understanding ourselves before we relentlessly pursued trying to understand someone else? Why do we choose to repeat the same financial chaos year after year or the same relationship disaster one after the other? What will it take in order for us to learn THAT lesson. I suppose it would take a repeat performance. If you are going to repeat a performance, why not choose a different outcome? I can't tell you how many e-mails I receive and conversations that I have with individuals who are in an unhappy place in their Life and at the same time their focus is pursuing a relationship while in that unhappy state of mind. As if a relationship will make unhappiness with ourselves all better. Folks, you can only attract who you are. If you are really not in a Good place right now, do you really want to attract the same type of person (that you are right now) so that you can double your problems. Then you can bond over woundology!

Fix yourself FIRST!

That is exactly how alcoholics and enablers hook-up. That is exactly how abusers and their victims hook-up. As I always say, "A man who beats a woman will never be attracted to a woman like me." There is absolutely nothing he would find attractive about me. I guarantee you that I would not even be on his radar screen. A man with a drinking or drug problem would not be attracted to me either. Those two options are not even a possibility for me because I know how quickly I can turn my back on self-destructive behavior without blinking an eye or a guilty bone in my body. That's just me and I know myself very well. I was not born with that sensitivity chip. I have never dealt with anything close to that and it certainly won't start now. In fact, a man who beats a woman would have only one word for a woman like me and it starts with a capital "B"!

Birds of a feather flock together.

If you want something or someone better in Life than you are experiencing now, then you have to change you, so that you can attract better. Remember, you can and will only attract who you are, whether that is a job, financial issue or a relationship. On some level, you have given your approval to make it all pan out the way that it has this very minute. If you are in a relationship that is clearly not working, believe me, you put your stamp of approval on your current coupled existance a long time ago. An agreement took place either consciously or unconsciously within your spirit that said, "I am willing to live like this," and it will continue until you change it. You both have to be getting something out of it even if it doesn't feel Good. If you want to change the relationship, then you must change yourself first. Waiting for the other person to change so that you will be okay simply will not work. If the other person follows your lead and changes with you, then that is a prime example of two people living, growing and learning together rather than growing apart.

Now my question to you is, "If you are in an unhealthy or unhappy state of mind, do you really want to attract the same type of person that you are right this very minute, so that you can double your drama?" Folks, it is time to relentessly pursue yourself. What a great affirmation that is, "I am relentlessly pursuing myself."

"Now, get out there, go play yourself UP! and practice being you!"

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY STEPHANIE!

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

This picture was taken by my niece Stephanie (StephyJaws) at Luke Air Force Base in Phoenix, AZ some time last year. StephyJaws husband Lee is a Crew Chief who works on F16's at Luke. StephyJaws is my sister Cis' daughter. Now you know from my previous messages how I am naturally attracted to anything in the air and even took flying lessons at one time. What an exciting day this was hanging out at the base watching Lee work. Gees Louise it was loud! I couldn't even hear myself scream with excitement. And then zooooooooom! an F16 took off. I was getting darker by the minute standing in 114 bajillion degree weather. The pic below is StephyJaws and her husband Lee. Happy Birthday Stephanie.

I'm on granny duty for a couple of days . . so I'm heading to Karmen's house (my daughter's). I will be online later this afternoon or early evening to record the radio broadcast. I thought there would be enough time today between charting, consults and readings to write a different Daily Message but it will just not work out today. I will have a new Daily Message prepared tomorrow.

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"Now, get out there, go play yourself UP! and practice being you!"

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AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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OUT OF THE MOUTH OF BABES

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

I was talking with a woman one day who described the instant her actions and reactions changed toward her children the day her daughter slipped on her shoes and imitated her. The little girl slid into her mommies shoes, pointed her finger, shook it abruptly and screamed, "Get out of here while I am watching my show! This is my favorite show! Get out of here and go play." Folks, is that the kind of eye-opener that you need in order to see how your children see you?

As the Bible says, "Out of the mouth of babes!"

Every year, near my daughter Karmen's birthday, I roll through a series of questions with her. My little Leo cubbie will be 26 years old this July. Since I am still her mom, I do feel that it is my job as her mom to continue teaching her. The teaching just looks different than it did when she was a little girl because now we are on the same playing field as adults and mothers. Now we can really relate to one another. From year to year I change up the questions a bit but they still cover the same topics as the year before. I just ask the questions differently. I want to know what she thinks about money, Love, gossip, marriage, children, health, responsibility, her daddy, learning, etc. It's a wonderful conversation where we get to review her Life and make adjustments where necessary. It's also an opportunity for me help her through an attitude or belief that might slow her down on her spiritual progression path.

During this conversation I also ask her about me. I want to know what she needs to say to me that I need to hear. Even if it won't feel Good for me or if it might hurt me, it needs to be said. For her own spiritual progression path, she needs to say it. What is it about me that aggravates her? This is not a time to retreat from the subject for fear that I may get upset. Karmen knows through this practice is how we become better people. Naturally I have relished in some of the years where she said she was 'Good' and had nothing on the subject of me. Other years, it wasn't so flattering.

As Maya Angelou says, "Does your face Light up when your children walk into the room?"

One year Karmen told me that she did not believe that I listen to her and how much this aggravated her. She referred to my Gemini mind and how I can listen to the television, radio and type on the computer all at the same time with the phone against my ear listening to her. She relayed how she knows I can hear different things all at the same time and that is just me, but she is she too! She wanted to know that she had my attention and I was really hearing her. We talked further to touch on every time she felt like I didn't listen to her. It is my belief that if this is how she felt, then this is the Truth for her. It was True! I may not have felt that way, but she did. And that was her Truth! From that moment on, my communication with her changed. Now I literally stop what I am doing and listen to her. I will stop typing, I will turn down the music and I will actually turn my back on the computer and listen. And you know what, she was right, I had not really been hearing her. Listening was one thing, hearing was another. Now I am thoroughly excited to hear my baby's voice. Remember from a previous daily message, Karmen enthusiastically says 50 billion words in 10 seconds flat so it really does take some listening. Karmen is an excited and enthusiastic girl. It's great! It is interesting how much more I have gotten to know my own daughter by giving her my undivided attention. Keep in mind for a Gemini and having two very distinct personalities, I always have 'divided' attention, so 'undivided' attention was a new experience for me.

This experience with Karmen helped me to become a better person because I changed myself, which impacted my communication with everyone else, including you. Just as the woman above changed herself in response to her daughter. This also impacted her other relationships as well.

"Now, get out there, go play yourself UP! and practice being you!"

NOTE --- I will be writing about Jupiter Retrograde today and will completely update this link Retrograde Motion, which is one of the topics listed under the Astrology Charts button to the left. Once the page is updated, you will see the link in the box above. I will also move Saturn Retrograde over to this page. Note above that your weekly horoscopes are back and your monthly horoscope is updated for your Mercury Opportunity, which represents your style of communication. Tomorrow night (Wednesday) your Venus Opportunity will be updated, which represents Love, beauty and Divine Protection. Your weekly, monthly and yearly horoscopes links are in each section of your daily horoscope and also just underneath the individual dates listed at the top of your daily horoscope page.

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Updated Talking Feathers. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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UPDATED TALKING FEATHERS

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read more about Talking Feathers here!

Yesterday my daughter Karmen and I spent our Easter with our own parish family. In other words, we went our separate ways. Her husband Larry is in the band at their parish and I'm heavily involved in my own parish family. Yeah, I said "band". Karmen and Larry have a rockin' band at their parish. I have spent a lot of time with Karmen, Larry and my grandson "Big Tree" lately so this was a perfect weekend to retreat into my Cancer Rising shell. It was a wonderfully celebratory weekend; at the same time it was a very quiet weekend tucked away with my computer and The Masters golf tournament on the tube. Along with most people, I did not expect the win to come from Zach Johnson. It's a Good thing I haven't been betting on sports this year. HA! This weekend I was actually underneath every single page on this website preparing for bigger, better and more. A set-up is needed first and I do believe I have finally arrived at that set-up point.

I have UPDATED the Talking Feathers on the order pages for Insight Readings, Natal Charts and Insight Reports to help you better understand what each entail. I will be posting more talking feathers on these pages today to help you better understand Transit and Progressions Reports and how I go about calculating birth times when a birth time is not known.

By the way, if you see typos, grammar mish-haps or funky punctuation, feel free to e-mail me the corrections or the page that needs correcting. I'm a writer, not an editor and you will not hurt my feelings if you correct my writing. In fact, I welcome it! I may be Gemini and the master communicator of the zodiac but I am still a nit-picky, anal-retentive, Type-A personality, North Node Virgo. If you are a Virgo, Virgo Rising, North Node Virgo, Saturn in Virgo or have several planets in Virgo, then I know that typos and bad grammar just drive you bonkers. Go ahead and hit with me the corrections, I want the detailed perfection as much as you do. Hmmmmmm . . perfection . . what an illusion that is. (winky wink)

"Now, get out there, go play yourself UP! and practice being you!"

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Part 2 - What You See Is What You Get. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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PART 2
WHAT YOU SEE IS
WHAT YOU GET

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Yesterday I posed a little game to you so that you can see how you play the Game of Life, primarily with regard to Love and relationships. Yesterday the Moon was in Scorpio, which was a perfect time to investigate, research and fact find what you see. Today the Moon is in Sagittarius which makes this a great day to lay out all of the pieces and put together the big picture. Scorpio is the investigator, detective and suspicious sign of the zodiac, while Sagittarius rules the higher-thinking mind, expansiveness and global/huge picture. Now let's put it all together. But first, let's talk about what the phrase, "What you see is what you get" really means.

There is a common phrase in computing, word processing or HTML that is called WYSIWYG, which is pronounced, "Wiziwig". In other words, "What you see is what you get." This allows the person to be able to see the "now" before the end result. If you do not like what you see, then you "get to" change it so the end result will look different. For instance, while I am writing this Daily Message in my website "editor" that has all of the coding and written word, I can choose to hit the "viewer" button and see it as it will appear on the website before I send it into cyberspace and show it to you. If I don't like what I see, then I can stop and change it. If I choose not to "view" or "see," what I have just written, then I could possibly load a page that results in a 404 error page. In other words, RED FLAG! You've probably found a 404 error page on other websites or even on this website where you clicked a link and saw nothing. If I load the page into cyberspace and choose not to "view" or "see" the final product, then I have just created an error. I might just keep going about my Life not realizing that I have created a 404 error page because I chose not to see the RED FLAG!. That was my choice, conscious or not. Sometimes a visitor will e-mail me and tip me off to a 404 error page and then I become aware of it. I welcome that because it's just another way of being called on my stuff. Other times I have no idea because I may just skippity-do-da along without choosing to be aware and no one calls me on my stuff either. Therefore I could have a 404 error page for years and not know it, conscious or unconscious. eeeeeeeeeeeeek!

Now let's turn "Wiziwig" into Love and relationships. I'm just about certain the majority of you know where I am going with this. Folks, if you unconsciously or consciously choose not to see a RED FLAG when it is right in front of you, then yes, you could possibly go on for years living the RED FLAG or living with the WIZIWIG until you change it. If I had 404 error pages or WIZIWIGS all over this website, then how successful do you think this website would turn out? The only way I can get rid of a 404 error page is to address the WIZIWIG so that it will show up exactly the way I want it.

We've all been in relationships where we saw the RED FLAG a long time ago
and still went through with the relationship.

What I am challenging you to do with this Sagittarian Moon, which sees the big picture, is look at your WIZIWIGS as fact. It is what it is folks! They are just like 404 error pages that need to be changed in order for success to take place. You cannot and will not have the relationship of your dreams if you do not hit the "viewer" and look at the facts straight in the eye. You have to look at the issue and make YOUR changes because you cannot change someone else. It is tough enough to change something within yourself without trying to change someone else. You have to change you first. The exercise that I posed during my radio broadcast called, "A Series of Questions," on Wednesday, April 4, 2007 might be helpful.

How many times have you sat up all night with a friend pouring your heart out in despair over a non-working relationship? They could see your WIZIWIGS, gave you advice and may have called you on your stuff but maybe you were not at a point where you were willing to hit the "viewer" and see. They might call you on your stuff and tell you that you have an "error page" but if you do not want to fix it, then you certainly do not have to. You can sit there in the same place with a 404 error page in your Life for another year. How does that make you feel? Folks, you cannot hit my "viewer" and change my 404 error pages in Life. I have to do it. It is all me. If I want my relationship with you to work, I have to change, correct or sometimes get rid of the RED FLAG altogether. I have been running reports on this website for the past couple of weeks chasing down all of my WIZIWIGS because I want a better relationship with you.

Again, I challenge you to look at your relationship RED FLAGS and make the changes that are necessary for you to have the relationship of your dreams. If you view your WIZIWIGS or RED FLAGS or 404 error pages in Life with honesty in your past or present relationships, then you can have exactly what you desire. It may not be with the person you think and you could be delaying the relationship that you were intended to experience. If you are in a relationship that is laced with 404 error pages, yet still saying, "But I Love him/her," then you need to ask yourself, "Why?" because what you see is what you get.

"Now, get out there, go play yourself UP! and practice being you!"

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Part 1 - What You See Is What You Get. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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PART 1
WHAT YOU SEE IS
WHAT YOU GET

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

I would like to play a little awareness game with you today. This is about recognizing the difference between what you want to see and what is really in front of you. Naturally, what we see is subject to our own interpretation, which is why I want you to do your best to take emotion out of the picture. What do you see? This is a fact finding mission. Since the Moon is in Scorpio today, this is a perfect time to play this little game in the Game of Life.

Since Love and relationships are at the top of most people's list of question marks in Life, then I would like you to focus on what you see with regard to relationships. It is what it is. Keep in mind this is not about judging others. It is merely stating what you see. What do you see? This is not about finger-pointing. What do you see? Keep in mind that you do not have to physically see the other person in order to "see" the relationship. Tomorrow I will come back and follow-up with today's topic, "What you see is what you get" after you have had a day of fact finding and sharpened sight. By the way, it takes two people to make a relationship, so make certain you take a Good look at yourself while you are at it.

"Now, get out there, go play yourself UP! and practice being you!"

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Resetting Priorities. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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RESETTING PRIORITIES

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

One night my friend Julie called and was wondering if I could download a certain song through Napster that she could not download through iTunes. While I was looking up the song on the computer she heard the television in the background and asked what I was watching. I can't recall the name of the television show but she said, "Oh I'll let you go, I know how much you like that show and I'll call you back when it's over." I said, "No, I'll turn it off. You are way more important to me than a TV show." So I turned off the television and looked up the song while we were on the telephone. She only lives five houses up the street, so a few minutes later we were looking up songs together and singing. Choosing to spend my time with Julie over television was easy.

This is not something that I have always done folks, this is something that I consciously choose to do. Actually, I can miss any TV show, but to pull myself away from ANY sport that is on television is quite the feat. That's the kicker! I'll watch any sport from golf to Nascar. Now that's Gemini duality going from one extreme to the other; the quietest sport to the loudest sport. You can only imagine how March Madness (The NCAA Tournament) captivated my time this past month. Like most people, my brackets were trashed early on in the tournament. Dang, what happened to my sleeper teams!? I will even watch non-televised sports online. Being that this is Holy Week along with The Masters Golf Tournament, it will be one tough weekend to pull myself away from the television once the tournament actually begins on Thursday with the final round on Easter Sunday. My typical posture during The Masters Golf Tournament is I put on my green jacket, lay my putter across my lap and E-n-j-o-y! I've been doing that for probably 25 years. Whether I'm at a St. Louis Blues Hockey game with my face painted blue screaming, "I BLEED BLUE!" or sitting quietly at home in my green jacket watching the Masters Golf Tournament, I'm definitely a sports fanatic.

Since I have reset my priorities, I can and I will actually turn off The Masters Golf Tournament if a friend or family members calls. Not to mention I realized how much I was paralyzing my own freedom by putting any show first, much less sports. Now when a friend or family member calls, turning off the television right in the middle of the Good part is easy. Big hairy deal! My priorities now say, "Those who are important to me will definitely know it and there will never be a question mark."

"Now, get out there, go play yourself UP! and practice being you!"

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, From Pavlov's Dog to Bookworm. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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FROM PAVLOV'S DOG TO BOOKWORM

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Yesterday's Daily Message titled, You'll Be The Same Age If You Don't Do It, came to me again this morning as I woke up to an unidentifiable tune. Oh that drives me nuts because I'll be singing that tune all day until I figure out the lyrics. While listening to the tune I could see myself in all of kinds of different 'book' scenarios. I could see the look on my face as a little girl the very first time I realized that I could read, to my first book signing for "And Who Are You? - A Daily Regimen for the Soul, all the way up to the book I was reading last night.

Along with yesterday's Daily Message and the whole "bust through the math fear," I also had a reading challenge to put myself through. It wasn't that I couldn't read, it was that I wouldn't read. I seriously never sat down to read a book all the way through. Every since the day Karmen could read, we made a trip to the library every single week without fail, including the summer. She would get her books and I would get none. About a month and a half after the epiphany over Karmen's 3rd grade math hit me, I received another epiphany about reading.

This story turns quite funny folks but first it needs a bit of a set-up. One of my first classes in college like most people was Psychology 101. In those first few chapters of this class is when we learned about Ivan Pavlov and the phenomenon called "classical conditioning" in his experiments with dogs. Ivan Pavlov was a physiologist, psychologist and physician who was awarded the Nobel Prize in Medicine for his research with the digestive system. As for Pavlov's Dogs, he collected, measured and analyzed the saliva that the dogs had in response to food under different conditions.

The relationship I had that lasted 12 years was with a man who was an Anesthesiologist, which as you probably know is an M.D. who is trained to administer anesthesia. Interesting huh? He was in a profession where all he gave was drugs and I had yet to enter a profession four years later that gave no drugs, which by the way is a self-imposed restriction by chiropractors themselves. The AMA does not regulate chiropractic, they regulate medicine. Contrary to popular belief, chiropractors are trained in pharmacology and toxicology. WE say that we don't want to administer drugs but we have to know these things because our patients are taking these prescriptions. Medicine is not chiropractic and chiropractic is not medicine. They are two completely different branches and approaches to healthcare. Period! Incidentally, it was this man (the Anesthesiologist) who suggested I choose the field of chiropractic because it matched my Lifestyle and cultural background. I respected his opinion and made my choice; not to mention I don't do blood. eeeeeeek! But I digress . . .

So there we were on a shuttle bus leaving a party that he and his partner had organized on the top of this bluff. As we were bouncing down through the woods, one of the other Anesthesiologist's in his group was talking about how excellent the food was and how he was salivating like one of Pavlov's dogs. I let out a belly laugh like you would not believe. I was laughing so hard I nearly bounced right off onto the floor. It was no secret in his circle of medical friends that I had just started college so I wasn't embarrassed in the least bit. I was laughing so hard that they started laughing too not even knowing why they were laughing. When I finally caught my breath I said, "I'm taking Psychology 101 right now and four weeks ago if you were to mention Pavlov's Dog, I would have thought you were talking about the rock band." That scene became a running joke for years to come and we always gained an excellent belly laugh out of it.

Even though I tend to have a warped sense of humor and I can take a joke when it is dished out to me, I responded quickly to this scenario as I do with most things. I headed straight to the library the very next day and started checking out books. I started with the classics and began reading one author at a time. I felt the need to get caught up with my age group. Granted he and his group of friends were five to eight years older than me but I knew that when it came to reading, I was definitely a slacker. I began with J. D. Salinger and his complete works, then moved on to H. G. Wells and the list went on and on until I had read as many classics as I could get my hands on. To this day, I still choose an author and read their complete works. Actually, now I typically read several different authors at the same time. There's that Gemini duality again. Currently, I'm reading J. K. Rowling's, "Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire," James Patterson's, "See How They Run," and Paul Hoffman's, "The Man Who Only Loved Numbers," which is an oral history of mathematician Paul Erdos.

As I always say, you have to practice being you. Gemini is known as the bookworm of the zodiac. This does not mean if you are not a Gemini that you are not a bookworm. Believe me, if you enjoy informational brain overload, then it will show up in your Natal Chart. It is interesting how being me (a Gemini) came so easy when I never practiced the bookworm part of me before. Now the most logical place to find me is in the library or a bookstore, even if I'm visiting your wonderful City. I'll be there plopped down on the floor in the middle of the isle cramming in my daily dose of informational brain overload. Yeah, I'm one of those people.

"Now, get out there, go play yourself UP! and practice being you!"

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, You'll Be The Same Age If You Don't Do It. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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YOU'LL BE THE SAME AGE IF YOU DON'T IT!

Audio'Siyo [Hello in Cherokee]

In chatting it up with so many people regarding their mission in Life, there is one particular phrase that I hear more often that not. I either hear, "I'm too old." or "It will take too long." My response remains the same, which is . . .

"You'll be the same age if you don't do it."

Folks, if there is anything that you do have and that is TIME! For each of us there are certain experiences in Life that we 'get to' put ourselves through. Our epiphany will come to us individually as the need arises. As most epiphanies do, mine came without warning the day I could not help my daughter Karmen with 3rd grade math. I'm referring to fractions and percents. I was 27 years old and could not help her with 3rd grade math. Certainly I was successful with my home businesses and never felt the need to go to college. When I graduated from high school, the highest level of math required was Basic Math and all I could remember was addition, subtraction, multiplication and division. This was not a Good day sitting there with my daughter at the kitchen table. In fact, it was a really bad day! Within 24 hours, I had already decided I was going to college.

It was about two weeks before Christmas when I enrolled full-time for the spring semester. I had already graduated from secretarial school and court reporting school years earlier, but college in the traditional sense had never crossed my mind. EVER! When my age (27-1/2) flashed before my eyes, I remember hearing a DLG (Download from God) saying, "Loretta, you'll be the same age if you don't do it. Find another excuse but TIME can not be one of them." Funny huh? I had assumed that I was not Good at math, which spilled over into assuming I was not Good at science, when actually I never really tried either. I had not considered busting through the math fear until the day I could not help Karmen with 3rd grade math.

In order to spare you the details and to make a long story short, I enrolled in college full-time at the age of 27 and used my fear of math to drive me forward. In the middle of Karmen's junior year of high school, I had finally finished my 8th year of school and racked up three degrees plus a doctorate, (Physics, Biology, Human Biology and Chiropractic). I was even tutoring math classes for other college students from beginning algebra and trigonometry to calculus and differential equations. Hey, the best way to learn more of what you know, is teach it to someone else. Ahhhhhhh . . there's nothing like forced reinforcement.

Interestingly enough, just before I was set to begin chiropractic school, there were a lot of people 'warning' me about how much longer it was going to take. They would say things like, "It's going to be another 4 years!" . . . "Don't get burnt out!" . . . "Are you sure this is what you want to do?" I remember thinking how 'the relentless pursuit of myself' was causing others to look at their own fears because they certainly weren't looking at my fears. I had overcome my fear. I was already headed toward bigger, better and more while they were still standing in the same place. Okie Dokie Pokie, have a nice day! Folks, there is a place in the world for people like you and me, even if we have to create it for ourselves. Just remember, you will be the same age if you don't do it. Find another excuse but TIME can not be one of them.

"Now, get out there, go play yourself UP! and practice being you!"

Click the radio pic of me and it will take you directly to www.drstandleylive.com. New broadcasts are posted daily. Read the last two daily messages titled, Living Vicariously Through Others. Note the first black button in the left green column will always bring you back to the Home Page.

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

A bazillion blessings~ Dr. Loretta Standley

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